friends help: Really pissed off with my life atm. - Help.com

..Minerva.. wrote:
Well, I can’t speak for much of your post but the gaining three pounds in a week is explainable. Do you drink a lot of water? Are you doing strength training? Also, it’s best not to weigh yourself every week to gage weight loss. Try every month instead which will give you a clearer picture.

Other than that, I can empathize. You’re in a rut. Sometimes having a rage and a rant helps.

I went out last Friday and got pretty drunk but to be fair I’ve gone on nights out and still lost weight lol it’s just coz I pigged out last week on chocolate and stuff, ever since my break-up my sweet tooth has come back with a vengenace and thankyou for empathizing :)

Zirbel wrote:
Your post history shows that you’re repeating your complaints.
But the point would be for you to ACT, to make a big change, to realign your life.
One month ago you wrote

You know, if you really want a change and to find out of your destructive circle, YOU HAVE to ask for help, forcefully! At the moment it depends all on you.

I’m trying to make a change that’s why I want to go back to college and meet and make friends if I had friends to go out with on a Saturday night and I wasn’t the size of a walrus then I wouldn’t get so wound up, I was in therapy a couple of years ago well I say therapy she was more a college counsellor.

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
The age people say you look is kind of arbitrary. Dont take it to heart for it is bull sheet.

Thanks, it is kind of my fault that I look older than I do I don’t get enough sleep at the right times, I stress about EVERYTHING even when I shouldn’t, the main point of this post was because there was no hot water for me to have a shower lmfao it just tipped me over the edge. Plus I wear heavy makeup pink lipstick, dark eyes or eye glitter, fake eyelashes, fake tan and I wear really high heels, people have said to me in the past I look older than I am but I think it’s more because I’m overweight that I look older than I am, I’ve seen size 8 girls who look like they’re in their teens who are well on their way to being thirty.

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
Your life has not “turned out” yet because you are very very young. Theres frequently something our mind chooses to rage about. Lets just call it our ” issue”. Its just something built in from childhood and greatly exagerated.

Hmmm I see what you’re saying, but I feel like at 21 I should at least have a job or if not a job then I should be doing something I love i.e college or training for something, I don’t really have any friends and in the space of two years I’ve lost a social life, tbh I’m often comparing what I haven’t got in my life to what other girls my age have and it’s really irritating, I see them going on holidays to Malia and stuff with their mates, they’re out every weekend looking amazing and I’m stuck indoors most of the time with friends who avoid me like the plague.

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
At least you are not a raggedy homeless mental case who sleeps with bums. I wont say who im refering to but that would be wirse. :)

Yeah definetely, I agree with you 100% on that one I’ve known a couple of ppl who were homeless it must suck :/. Whenever I feel really down I always remember that the things I want are small in the grand scheme of things and I think of ppl out there who have Locked In Syndrome :(

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Well at least you have a gasp of what is wrong with your life. Now you can fix it.

Yep, I’m gonna try.

Zirbel wrote:

trentlover20 wrote:
I was in therapy a couple of years ago well I say therapy she was more a college counsellor.

Which is FAR away to be a professional psychotherapy, which you would need, right now!
And you have to have patience and to participate ACTIVELY. But Psychotherapy is not an instant help, it takes time.

What’s the difference between psychotherapy and normal therapy??

griffin195 wrote:
Sending you Giant Cyber Hugs
& i love you very much you are a good friend to me
And as for your fellings, feel the same
going thru the same cept the age thing
I’m 195 yrs old but i’ve been told i look much younger

Some humor: i live in an apt, fine i like it,
last night i was trying to sleep
i heard screaming, i was getting ready to call the police
i could here the springs in the bed. oh just gag me

Thanks I appreciate it :) are you really 195 years old? or is that an inside joke lol

griffin195 wrote:
going thru the same cept the age thing

I never used to worry about it when i was a teenager but now I’m in my 20s I feel like I have to worry about it :/ I know I look older than I am but it is because of the amount of makeup I wear IDC though i’m happy with the way I look when I have makeup on I’d rather look like a clown than go au naturel

griffin195 wrote:
When customers write a **** at the store, I need to see their driver’s license
got to type in their DOB. Most of the time i couldn’t have guessed their ages

I guess it just depends on the individual, girls nowadays often look older than they are by how they dress on nights out and stuff one girl I knew was 17 and I thought she was like 26 lol.

Zirbel wrote:
Your post history shows that you’re repeating your complaints.

It’s been a bad year ok? I’ve lost friends, I’ve been fired, I’ve been dumped and I’ve had no support or sympathy at all I’ve had to go through it on my own most ppl when they get dumped have their friends to go out with or be there for them ******* NOBODY has been there at all, I’ve wasted money when I should’ve saved it, I’ve lost my social life, I’ve caused nothing but grief to my sister because she can’t stand to see me negative, I’ve been lied to and let down so many times I’ve lost count, I’ve barely lost four stone and people are still calling me fat and ugly and making fun of me so of course my body image is worse than ever because it means that all this effort has been for NOTHING, I live in fear because of an on going row with someone I had a year ago and I considered to be like family who alienated me from people I thought were my friends and spread lies about me and betrayed my trust, anyone else would have cracked and gone insane but I’m still getting on with it I’m not curled up in a ball crying slipping into catatonia that doesn’t mean however that I’m a robot and I can just shut off my feelings, it also doesn’t mean that because I’m not like all happy and bouncy I should be on a Thorazine drip and be whinging to some counsellor I don’t even know, I’ve tried counselling, I’m on anti depressants I don’t self harm anymore and I take care of a flat I live in every day I appreciate your advice but unless the therapist wants to come out and get pissed with me on a Friday night there’s nothing they can do all they’ll be doing is telling me what I already know I’m a train wreck and because I have Asperges I also have depression.

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
You are pretty aware for someone your age.

What do you mean? :)

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
I guess i mean you have a lot if information that you are clear about, you can talk about the whole picture of your life.

Yeah I guess I am trying to change the current situation of my life and stuff it’s just difficult.