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My family is not close.

At all. Its me, my sister , brother and our mother all in the same city. Yet me and brother never talk, no call no text, me and mother maybe every other week by phone me and sister a lot more closer in that we talk 3-4 times week. But thats all of us, no one is close with my brother and no one wants to be around mother, because she is nothing but controlling. But my young niece who has 2 babies (2 & 4 mos) was reaching out to me, because she was sick of my mother, too. So I would let her come over with the kids, we would cook and hangout. Then she wants me to babysit while she gets her car fixed on a late Sat afternoon (hmmm) I said ok, even though she was gone for 6 hours then had to go to a party after. But for her late party my brother & his wife came and got the kids. Then something happened where I was supposed to move closer to her, my controlling mother navigating the whole thing is actually the one who told the landlord I would take the place, well in the end I did not. Didnt like the place, too small and other things. Anywho after that my niece just became totally cold to me, no more calling, visiting etc. I called a couple of times to offer to babysit, she doesnt even return my calls. When I sp w/my controlling mother she said she would ask her, she never did. I guess I’m just wondering if this is another family relationship I should let go by the wayside as well. I miss the babies and I feel she holds them against me.

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Always griffin offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 19 minutes after post)

i’m sorry; in the same boat.
my daughter in law had my grandbaby in March i went to visit her
she let me hold Janessa for 2 hours, i texted everyone her name was Janessa Megan
(Megan, my DinL name) it wasn’t til 3 weeks later i found out her middle name was Marie; made a comment bout how stupid i felt as the granmummy. She stopped talking to me. Saw them once in June when i invited them over for pizza to meet a new (male) friend. Thought things were ok WRONG
and as for my new (male) friend, when he visited me & got a call he would say he was at his girlfriend’s home. (whatever) he’s moved. i went to help him line & organize his kitchen shelves, He had soo soo many different patterns of dishes,
mugs, glasses, i straighten em out, kept 2 sets boxed up the rest. i walked home after. called him later. He hasn’t called me in 2 months
Sorry i got carried away

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10 months, 1 week ago (1 day after post)

I guess families like this can by typical…

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