life help: What can I do or where can I go to start my life over? - Help.com

Start where you are right now. What about healing the unhappy relationship? Or just end it. That would be a good start. Finding work is a problem these days, no matter what part of the earth you want to go. Networking might help you better to find work then not knowing anyone. Someone can recommend you or suggest someone to meet for an interview.

I had my email open the same time I was reading your post. This is what was in my email and I thought wow this was meant for you to read:

The Time Is Now

Now is the time for my healing, restoration and freedom!

Living with regret about what I or others could have or should have done, or lamenting what might have been, is a waste of energy. So, too, is withholding the best me for some future date.

Now is the only time there is. I don’t linger in the hallway of life, waiting for tomorrow. I seize the present moment to be fully immersed in living and to make an effective contribution to the world. I punctuate affirmative prayers with the word now to impress upon my mind and heart that there is no delay in Spirit.

Now is the time for healing and restoration; for liberation from beliefs or behaviors stuck in the past or saved for the future. Now is the time to flourish, to live life fully, to claim the full wealth of my good!

We are nice to each other yet no romance or interest..it seems like ‘just friends’.
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So fix that. It’s 50% your responsibility to make your relationship romantic, and 100% your responsibility to find something interesting about your partner. Do it tonight.

Soulsunlight-I had to reply because I felt the same way 5 years ago and I did it!

Mother of 4 grown kid’s and in 2007 I just felt like I wanted to “I guess runaway” and start my life all over where no one knew me!

I was a very succesful Buisness Woman raised 4 kid’s was very prominent in the community where I lived and to many of my friends had the perfect life!

I felt something was missing in my life. I alway’s had this feeling of wanting to just up and go and start my life all over!

So in 2007 I listed my house for sale, I closed my company down and I packed 5 seperate boxe’s of cloth’s marked for differant State’s. I told my kid’s and friends I was leaving and did not know where to but was just going to do it!

2 weeks before I was going to leave I met someone from New Orlean’s “last place I ever would have picled” and they said hey come there for 2 weeks and see what you think. So I was like ok might as well go to the one place I never would have picked first!

So September 2007 I was on a plane to New Orlean’s….and still here to this day! My kid’s ask me “Mom when are going to grow up and come home” I laugh and say I am home when are you coming to visit!

I did end up losing my house to the economy which was my nest egg….lol! And gradually lost everything I had worked all those years so hard for.

I live a very simple life and I could not be happier! I never did put much emphasis on material things and have had just about every nice car a person could have, had beautiful home’s and lived a very luxurious life…..and I would not give up where I am in life today to have any of it back! I know if I want something I can get it if it’s that important!

I feel that I have learned so much more about myself by being away from everything and everyone that had claims on me…I love my family and 3 of my kid’s have lived out here at differant time’s. It has also opened their life’s to explore and do thing’s seeing that Mom just got up one day and did it!

I say don’t be afraid and just do it!

As for where to go you will need to decide and like I said New Orleans was never my pick but once I got here I fell in Love with the city!

The last 5 year’s I have done some deep soul searching and have really enjoyed what I have learned about myself! I never could have done this being in a place everyone knew me I had to get away from everything and everyone and spend time alone with myself……I actually enjoy my own company! lol

I don’t know what is going on in your life or what you are searching for but I can tell you that for me it has been the best thing I have ever done for myself!

Good Luck and keep us posted on what you decide!

soulsunlight wrote:
Not really receiving the help I hoped I would on here, I don’t need relationship advice. Maybe I didn’t word things right,….I tried.

I’m sorry; but I disagree. It sounds to me like you’re going through a classical midlife crises. You and your wife are getting older and you’ve been through a lot together, and it seems so much easier -and more exciting- to walk away now than to fix it. Not to mention the possibility that someone 20 years younger will fall into your bed.

You made a commitment; and now you need to face the uphill battle of working it out and making it good again. When you do, you won’t feel like you have to “start over” because you’ll be happy where you are.

I think the problem here is not finding work. That alone diminshes a man’s ego to nill. With that problem your relationship suffers too because you are not contributing to the love pool you have with your partner. Does your partner support you, or help you in any way? I know you said your relationship is unhappy but have you thought about it maybe because of you? Once you found a job, you would see things differently. What kind of jobs are you interested finding?