is my relationship healthy when me and my boyfriend
fight all the time.
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What is healthy?? Fighting or not fighting? If your not getting abused in any way then it’s normal.
its normal to fight now and then but not all the time how can you be happy if your fighting? you need to enjoy yourself.hope it helps all the best
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You may have a relationship but I would not describe “fighting all the time” as being healthy. You need to find the root cause of all the friction. It is NOT the argument itself. There is some other, deeper feelings that is causing the arguments to take place.
And it is not just you or your b/fs being wrong. You both share in the issue and you must own up to your half of it.
-SoCo
It is true that every couple has a dissagreement every now and then. aka “Fights”.
When a fight is not resolved it cans spill over to other days. Sometimes weeks, That is when you need to decide whether the “Reason for the fight, Is worth undermining your relationship. I would not say it is Not “Healthy!. I would say That you need to learn how to disagree, Almost every one does once in a while to a certain degree. IF you can learn to agree to disagree, and let it go at that sometimes. It would help very much!.
Pick and choose your “Fights… Unless you “Love drama! that is what it boils down to. GBU
I fight with my boyfriend all the time almost every couple of days mostly when we have been drinking but we love each other it’s the weirdest thing we’ve only been dating for 6 months and a lot of stuff has happned. I do agree It is NOT the argument itself. having just read that …. tonight I’m gonna try to start from scratch in our relationship if it’s ok with him and make a vow not to bring up past things..might work
my boyfriend an i fight all the time too, and we both love each other so much. we’ve been together for 2 years and i feel like lately is just non stop. when you find the cure. please …send me a message
my boyfriends and i fight so much and its even about the stupid things and i don’t know what to do about it,i try to talk to him when he is mad and i even give him the space he wants and othing has work i know that i tired everything with him to stop the fights what can i do??????
me and my boyfriend have been fighting like every other day. I get so tired of it sometimes.he thinks that’s it because I ALWAYS wanna be right.Its not that, I just stand up for what I believe in.Its not about me being right.But he doesnt understand that.I love him so much and its not always like this but when it is I just dont feel like being in the relationship any longer! Hes a great guy and all but i dont know what to do!! any advice????
compromising, listening, understanding and trust keeps a relationship smooth. dont be over-protective or over-obsessive. if he treats u right, just treat him right. if u guys clash sometimes, turn it around by making the situation feel more positive. girls are generally more mature. we have to deal with alot more but thats the beauty of us right.. we’re smarter, we can have children, we are more understanding, sensitive and emotional. sometimes as girls, we are a bit tooo emotional and insecurity sets in. try to make ever situation better by not provoking ur bf and being the smarter one. watch and learn!
Im 13.. Yeahhh i know it seems like i shouldnt be on here but like me and Seldon [boyfriend] fight.. But the 3 main reaosn is jealousy,bad moods, and boredom.. if its boredom just breakup because when your bored.. you wanna stir stuff up am i right?
me and my boyfriend fight every single day I’m 15 and i’ve been going out with him for almost six years now. we fight about everything.
but trust me nothing can keep us apart, i think its perfectly normal to fight.
I think its because the more comfortable you are with someone, the more you fight with them.
and you know that they’ll stay with you no matter what.
me and my boyfriend always fight. its all about my ex boyfriend. he kind a take that topic each time we fight. May be its because he does not wnt to live with you anymore. so take a break. i mean give it a rest. later he will come back if he really loves you. so give it a rest and try to spend time with your friends to over come it
my bf and i faught for 2years over everything,,especialy my bf’s behaviours that bothered me,,like controling,being sensetive when i talked to males,,and iam a very strict free girl,,and i coulnt tolerate even 1sec! of these stupid comments from him,,so whenever he said sth,,i never stoped angrying at him,,so our fight countiuned,,! becuz i dont want these abusive behaviours that comes from weakness be in my life,,!
maybe he has the same problem,!
im 16yrs old, me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7 months now. we argue all the time its ridiculous. every one fights and argues, but it really does get old. when you love someone and you’ve been with someone for so long you dont wanna lose them, especially to another girl. insecurity & low self esteem always gets the best of most girls, jealousy is such a huge thing. you may feel as if your boyfriend is always staring at another girl, or you may think that if you let him out of your sight he’s gonna find another girl and get interested in another girl & a possibility of him falling out of love with you. i feel this way all the time. but in order for a relationship to work you gotta have TRUST! if there is no trust there is no relationship, you gotta let him get out and if he makes a mistake, it’s his fault. just dont let jealousy and insecurity get the best of you and your relationship.
sincerely, allie 3
my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now and we do nothing but fight all the time. I don’t know what to do anymore because when I try to talk like a mature adult does it’s like it doesn’t change anything..i’m really looking for advice.First off, I feel he treats his family with more respect than me and like he puts them on a pedestal. If we ever get into a fight he runs to them and spills out all our problems and makes me out to be the bad guy.Or just like the other week, his brother said all these horrible things to me and was calling me every name in the book and I didn’t call him one mean thing or say anything remotely mean and his mom says “oh, im leaving for a couple days for work..can you watch him?”so then my boyfriend said that i had to get over what his brother said and let him come over or he was gonna stay at his mom’s house!his mom leaves his brother home alone all the time so why this time did he need to watch him?Secondly, if I do one thing wrong its the end of the world, and he’ll tell me to shut the **** up all the time..and i know thats not acceptable and ive told him that and he keeps doing it!i guess im trying to see if anyone has had problems like this and what they did to solve it because im at the end?i dont know what to say or do anymore!
Hi, my name is Christie, & my boyfriend name is Chris. I’m 17 years old. We’ve been together for 3 months now. I’m always too much argues with him. I don’t know what to do. Like I’m always mad at him when I’m in bad mood. I’m always being aggravate liek this. I wish, we couldn’t fight. But, sometime I’m the one to start getting mad & argee him. Chris say, ” I really don’t want to lose you. If any other girl told me to break up with them. I would have been did it. But you it’s different. I don’t know why.” I really don’t know what does he mean about. Is it right when we fight even though we getting so closer. and he cares & love me. am I right? Thanks.
help my husband and i are going to be upset when he leave for florida to see his mother i whis i could go with him but i cant hell be back at the end of chrismas what should i do with out him i hope he not leaving on the 10th of december
I’m 15 me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months, we fight over stupid things like me walking out of my class for no reason, then he would break up with me.. Later we would fox it and talk bout it and we would he fine but after school has ended he brings it up again he would be all pissy about it then we would talk again and it would he fixed. But this happens all the time!. And I don’t like it. I can tell he loves me still. But sometimes he would say that I don’t love him… What should I do. I really need help. I don’t want to break up with him. We both agreed to not hang out this weekend.and we r not going to txt each other or call each other till he calls to tell me night Wich is bout 8 to 9. Please help
Me and boyfriend are constly fighting. I kinda have a sarcastic sense of humor and he takes everything literally so we end up in a big fight. And everytime we are in a fight he always says we should just be friends, does he not want me?
I am 16 yrs old and i hv bin wit my boyfriend 4 18 months now.we really love each other and we love spending time together.the problem is i cnt say N0 2 othr h0t guys when they ask me out.iv cheatd on ma boyfrnd bwt 4 times en he hav’nt cheated on me since we startd d8tng.watz wr0ng with me?
My bf and i are always fighting every fours day in a week, we have beem dating for 3 and 7 months now. He was dating a girl before i met him and he loved me too. Right now he is no longer with her but me, he then never said he loved me because he was in love with the other lady. His nice, cool and good to me but he is also annonying too. But we are always having misunderstandings, but it normally doesn’t last up to 48hrs. And i think am pregnant for him right now. What am i to do, please advise
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