guy help: I like this older guy and he is 28 and I’m only 16 turning - Help.com

If he ever got caught, he’d be put on the sex offenders list and everywhere he goes he’d have to tell people he’s a sex offender. On top of that he’d very likely go to prison for 5 to 10 years. All the while you’d get away with murder and while in prison he’d very likely grow to hate you for the time he had to serve.

Unless you wish to risk his life for the sake of your happiness, I suggest you find either someone your own age, or within 18 to 24 months of your birthdate (The legal range for a minor).

Read this first:

Link: http://www.avert.org/teens-sex-law.htm

Heres an option, if its sweaty injustice .. go register an appeal to deregulate the age between minor/adults and fund raise some support getting everyone to agree that 17 is the new 18..or wait till you hit the legal age which is about the same time you’d find out your appeal has been rejected because..if it wasn’t it would be 1720 all over again!

move on young lady.

just wait till youre 18, oh and dont date a 28 year old

You are a young, naive, dewy-eyed young girl who has absolutely no idea of the way you could be exploited.

Here’s the bottom line: a 28-year-old guy who has it together does not mess with 16- or 17-year-old girls. He’s talking to you because the girls his own age view him as an abject loser–which he is.

You are going to have to develop some smarts really fast–or the world is going to chew you up and spit you out!

Some proverbs for you:

“A fool and his money are soon parted.”

“A naive girl and her virginity are soon parted.”

Though there is a option of him only wanting to use you (unfortunately that is usually the case), it may not be the case here. There are always exceptions and love doesn’t know age.

When I was 17 I fell in love with a guy who was 28 (11 years senior). At the time I felt like an idiot and he did too. We made it a secret ’till I was 18. And our relationship was very slow, we wanted first to get to know each other. After 6 years we are still together, live together and things are more or less ok, as with every relationship.

Your only problem is will he be able to keep up with your personality changes through the years? Because in the end you are a teen and you are going to grow as a person.

I’m telling you this from experience. The most important thing is that both of you have similar thought about how you want your life together to be and a complementary belief system.

he’s right. a sexual relationship with you could end up with him being labeled as a “sexual predator” for the rest of his life. total strangers would be able to look him up and see that he was a statutory rapist… it’s not worth the risk.