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Dont make the same mistake twice. There is a reason why you broke up before.

Attraction is a big part of romantic relationships. The law of attraction says that whatever you focus upon comes about. Dwell upon an optimistic view of how things can be okay, and you have the chance of attracting that into being. Be concerned instead about how it could go wrong or how things might just randomly fall where they may, and that is more likely. These ideas work in realms where you have more control. It doesn’t matter what you think about a scientific experiment, that’s why people so despise movies like “The Secret” that pretend that wishful thinking changes all of reality, but in something you have so much effect on, like a personal relationship, what helps is a positive attitude toward it. What hurts is a negative attitude. And that’s at the level that you can control, the big unfortunate fact is that the other person also has 50% control. And my wisdom only goes about this far, but it seems to me that if you focus on your mutuality more than on you or him, that helps with your 50% chance of helping the relationship last.

And relationships are the most important thing, so people will generally try to respond.

Sometimes things don’t change or it’ll never the same. It might go exactly the way you want it to go, unless you’re both committed. Things will be different, but the things ya both do may still be the same. I say best give it a shot and hope for the best. But just make sure it’s something you want, not something you ‘thought’ you need. I hope I helped a bit even if it’s not much.

We’re kind of in the same boat, but I’m the guy trying to win her heart back. Let me know if you can help me out.

http://help.com/post/557806-trying-ha…

Will power is probably not enough. There is an underlying layer to a person’s mind where they form their priorities and goals. Many people have short-term goals and so long-term relationships are not feasible.

If you both genuinely desire a long-term relationship, you’ll get one. If not, you won’t. I doubt trying hard will make much of a difference here ^^ But if you evaluate what you value more can you make a guess of what will happen.

If you’re trying really hard in the beginning of a relationship, it probably won’t work out in the long run. The beginning is supposed to be the easy part.