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….. 6 months back a terrible thing happened. One of my close friend lost both his parents in a road accident. After this incident I have started caring for him a lot because now practically no one is there to care for him. I out of sympathy have started liking him. Now he loves me like crazy and cant stay without me even for 1 hour. But now I realise I dont love him that way. It was just sympathy but he thinks its love.I still care for him but cant spend the rest of my life wid him. I was every moment wid him during his tough times but cant go any forward from here. Will I be selfish? I dont want to hurt him. Plz tell me how to handle the situation…….

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JustMoi offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Then let him know it’s all sympathy.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

Tell him honestly, but in a nice and empathetic way, how you really feel, and encourage and support him in the same manner to look out for a girlfriend.

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♥ Fairytale ♥ offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

you aren’t selfish at all. talk to him and let him know you don’t love him. unfortunately when we help some one he/she thinks we love him/her. talk to him and clear anything for him.

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9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

He’s gone through a very hard time, it’s understandable. You clearly value his friendship so the only way is open, honest straightforward communication. It is the nicest thing to do and will be the best thing to do in your situation. Continue to be there for him…

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chad777krybo offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

it’s comprehensible that he falls in love with you because you’ve been fulfilling not only his basic needs but as well as his emotional needs. it will be unfair for you if you are going to say yes to his feelings just because you pity him, but it might have a devastating effect on him if you would say no to him in a way that he would not understand. why not have another person to help him like a psychotherapist so that you would know how to handle his whole emotional state? he needs a psychotherapist anyways.
on the other hand, won’t you give him a chance? are you already committed? here in our country, we have a thing called “panliligaw” or wooing the woman to win her heart. maybe you need to give him chance and start knowing from the very start again before you decide that your answer to him is an absolute NO.
God bless.

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