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I’m so angry right now.

Since May we’ve known we were moving in August, and that we would have to find jobs in the new town. My boyfriend walked out of his last job in the beginning of July, blew the rent money for August, asked me to buy him gas and groceries while NOT looking for a new job in either his current location or the area we were moving to.

August 15th was the move in date… and a week before hand he told me he wasn’t moving in with me because he doesn’t have the money for rent. All of his stuff is here, and he is living at his mom’s elder living apartment while he gets a job in a town that is half an hour away to pay for him to move in here. He has no car and expects me do drive down to see him all of the time - on a student budget, nonetheless. He’s also acting like he can’t stand me, but says he wants to be with me.

And I moved in to the new place that is an hour away mostly by myself. I’ve got his dog to take care of. I’m sick from the stress - and was coughing up a lung whilst cleaning our old apartment (he was standing outside talking to the neighbors). Everything is going wrong. Now I found out I won’t get my security deposit back because the dog “ruined” the carpet - when I know for a fact that he did not.

Oh, and on top of all of that, the week before I moved I also had to take care of my needy and incompetent mother because my dad was out of town.

In the mean time, I’m stuck alone with his dog, he’s yelling at me for everything I do and acting like he hates talking to me. I’ve got a fever and a cough, my period came early, my stomach is in knots and I still have to unpack.

And my best friend got engaged today and is very happy. My other friend is engaged and I’m standing up in her wedding next year.

I just need something to go right.

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robby_h_2 offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 25 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (42 minutes after post)

Dump him,

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noonelikesaknowitall offline Verified User (3 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (56 minutes after post)

robby_h_2 wrote:
Dump him,

I was going to write some lofty words and share some experience but this sums it up nicely.

You have written a list of reasons OP as to why you should run a mile from this immature boy and find yourself a man.

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chuf offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

dump him simple

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zen.cro offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

You have probably pointed out what he should do differently and nagged about his behaviour. So you remind him of his mum. That´s why he dislikes your behaviour and hates talking to you. But you have every right to complain.
You are lucky - you can dump him. His mum can´t.

Get a new boyfriend. That should cheer you up.

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Hazel_LeSquirrel offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (5 hours, 28 minutes after post)

Give him back his dog, dump him and when he asks why, enjoy telling him EXACTLY why he was a crap boyfriend, and that you’re better off without him. It’ll be hard at first, but you’ll definitely have less stress without having to mother him

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 41 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (17 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Now you have seen a disadvantage of “shacking up” with a guy you barely know.

Dump him and raise your standards next time you’re in the market for a boyfriend!

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