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It may offer no real answer, solace… Closure… Just a place where people come together, ever fleeting. Giving, nothing. Or all. I too have been drinking, tonight… the last few nights… Im not alone, but I am. Why? In a world where there are so many people, why are some wondering if someone else feels the same way., attached or not attached,,, wtf
…… Msg if you need a real friend..

dood, instead of sulking.. get angry.. pissed off.. (in a passive sort of way i mean.) Why sum up all of our problems to a certain particular person..

first say .. you deserve better

second .. feel it.. if we can stop particular feelings we certainly can start one.

third.. take it easy.. step back about 10 paces and look at the situation.. SOLVE it how.. thats where ur brain comes in. but dont go into psychopath mode for your own sake lol..

Hard times come at you.. its a matter how you handle it, ease up man..have faith( confidence that goodness will come).

I can empathize with your situation, although I won’t pretend to understand how you feel. I’m quite isolated myself being that I moved away from where I grew up some years ago, and I’ve never really established myself in a community or a work environment in my new locale. Plus I commute 30 miles to University so I never became established in the student community either. Besides that I’m about 7 years older than most students so I don’t socialize much with the others in my lectures. What the hell would we talk about if I did? I’ve been there and done that - wherever ‘there’ is and whatever ‘it’ might be. Nonetheless I try not to let it get me down. Does it? Sure, sometimes. But I keep going.
I’ll be honest though, friend: it just sounds like your wallowing in self pity to me. You’re making a choice not to improve your situation. You’re choosing to pick up a bottle and to receive nothing from your relationships with family and friends. I know how that feels. You believe you’ve fallen as far as humanely possible, and now - being as “worldly” and “experienced” as you are - that it’s time to give up. Well I hate to say it, but you’re wrong. I was. Things do get better.
We can say to you that you need to talk to someone, but that’s what you’re already doing! Kudos btw. What you need is practical advice, so here goes: Stop drinking if you can! Certainly stop drinking so much. A 10 year old can tell you that alcohol is a depressant. It’s making you depressed, unhappier with your situation, and not making you forget your problems in any long term sense but creating new ones. Can’t stop? Get help; or rather learn self discipline. I love a few brewskis. I’m a fan of red wine too. And sure, sometimes I go a little overboard; but I pay for it. Not just with a hangover, but a feeling akin to death that lingers for a week! I keep that in mind whenever I pop a can open. I’d also recommend a good nights sleep. Sounds obvious; but it makes all the difference. Go to bed early, wake up refreshed and keep yourself busy during the day. Got some down time? Read a book, build a website or just do something that’ll make you happy (not drinking!). In short, put down the bottle and focus on finding some good in your life. Do some exercise too. It’s the last thing you’ll want to do, but it does the world of good by producing natural endorphins that, at present, you’re sadly lacking. Things will get better if you want them to. Be motivated and don’t give up. I believe you can do it.