girl help: ok, so my first girlfriend completely destroyed my trust in women, in ways that would take far too much of your time to explain. - Help.com

well theres only one way to find out, tell her how you feel?
if she doesnt feel the same way it migth be a bit awkward at first but im sure you can still be friends :)

Try hanging out 1v1 see how it feels.

Women appreciate honesty. Ask her. The two of you seem to be good freinds, so as with all good friends you should be able to say what’s on your mind without her freaking out or laughing at you for being silly. So sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Trust me, you will likely be pleasantly surprised.

thanks guys :) how do I tell her without sounding like I’m stealing lines from a cheesy movie though? I really like her and I don’t want her to think I’m just a cheeseball lol.

To be honest, I’m terrified of doing it, I’ve thought about telling her before, tried to and just couldn’t do it. I just want to tell her that she’s amazing and that instead of dating assholes like her ex she should be with someone who knows what he has and doesn’t take her for granted. I know that’s already cheesy and cliche but my teacher in this subject was a TV so I’ve got nothing else to go on lol!

just tell her from your heart, whether its cheesy or not :)
my bf grabbed my hand put it over his heart and told me every beat was for me. CHEESY AS HELL, but it was sooooooo cute!

i think that before you move forward you should first take a moment to really think hard about your past relationships and why they hurt you so badly. really take a good look about who you were as a person, who your love interest was, what you knew about them, the decisions that you made, and try to understand what went wrong. you don’t want your heart broken a second time.

Gah! I love Leonard and Penny!

Sorry, but I do.

Just take things slow honey, no matter what it is you decide to do.

Thought I might as well go with the username. Thanks again guys, I’m trying to decide what to do. I think more than anything I was naive, and in some ways I think I still am. Part of my problem is that, as I said, TV has been my main reference point really. I grew up watching people on TV fall in love and be happy but in real life I’ve just seen relationships break up and when I thought I’d found my Hollywood moment the rug was pulled from under me.

I just really hope that the fact that she seems to be great for me right now isn’t stopping me seeing obvious signs that she’s not interested. It feels like a teenage crush or something, I love walking in and seeing her smile, it makes her eyes light up and I can’t help smiling myself. And I hope she’s not one of those girls who only go for “bad boys”, its so frustrating, especially when you care so much for them.

ok I’m gonna stop before I ramble on for hours. Thanks again guys, really appreciate it.

Oh, and sugarbucket, so do I! Gives guys like me hope as well lol!!

Okay before you go any further, please keep in mind while life imitates art in many areas…there is no such thing as a Hollywood romance. It does not exist. The sooner you get the idea that it does out of your head, the better. RomCom’s have ruined not only male perceptions but female perceptions as well. But in the real world, it simply don’t work like that. Relationships are a lot of work, but if it’s clicking it’s a labor of love….no pun intended.

But it sounds to me like this girl does like you, and you really should go for it. Just don’t be crestfallen when it doesn’t mirror what you have seen on TV. I’m 38 and I have yet to have one relationship resemble anything I’ve ever seen on TV….well, except for the Jerry Springer show…but that’s a story for another day,lol.

But don’t think special moments don’t happen either, they do. But it won’t always be puppy dogs and rainbows…. but the good times will ALWAYS make up for the rough times. Trust me on that.

Good Luck!!

Thanks guys, bad news though. Saw her facebook status, said she’s met “the man of my dreams” along with a photo of her and a guy.

life is awesome isn’t it…

Trust me my friend…it won’t be the last time. Good thing is…typically if you just wait around…especially in this day and age….that man of her dreams will likely turn into the man of her nightmares. Then you simply be there to help pick up the pieces. Just be careful though…sometimes being there to pick up those pieces relegates you to a permanent spot in the “friend zone”. This is a place you do not want to be.

The friend zone is like that song Hotel California…”you can check out any time you like, but you can never leave”

But chin up…your girl is out there. Now get to seeking her out!! :)