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dont mind me, just venting as things I thought long burried have resurfaced.

girlfriend of a long time broke up with me over a year ago, youd think Id be over it heck I thought I was over it. I saw her with her new boyfriend. we stopped and talked but it felt really awkward. she looks happy, he looks happy, I dont begrudge her happyness. In a strange sort of way Im glad she’s happy. However it casts a sharp bright light on the irrevocable fact that I am still not seeing anyone, and truth told, not happy. Dont get me wrong here I dont hate her for being happy, I hate that the encounter reminds me of how happy I was with her, and how not happy? I am either alone or without her specifically I cant decide which. it is strangely painful and numbing at the same time being in my own head right now.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (59 minutes after post)

You need a brand new girlfriend. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wjn6sE…

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9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

LOL thanks doc. I like that song.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Jealousy is a normal emotion. You’re human. You’re Jealous that shes happy. Worse that she’s happy without you. Worse still she moved on and you haven’t, but you wouldnt feel half as bad if you had bumped into her and you were with someone else and she wasnt? Right! So you are not sad you are not still together - you are sad because you feel she won and you lost some how. Truth is life dosent really work that way. There are no complete winners or losers we are all winners and losers at different stages of our lives. no one is 100% happy 100% of the time even your ex Girlfriend. Plus our own happiness or opportunity for happeness is not necessarilly affected by other peoples happeness unless we allow it to be.

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