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My Manager is a pig

He pretends to be this really nice guy and is always chummy with me in front of people and then ignores me when no ones around. If I try to talk to him to ask him something he gets annoyed and abrupt or starts teling me boring stories about his “wonderful” family. When I ask him what he wants me to do he cant think of anything and then he goes behind my back and tells my line manager that I dont support him. I tell my line manager that he doesnt communicate with me but then he says I should be more proactive!!! But I am not telepathic! I’m stuck in this job a while - any tps to deal with this?

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Managers get their jobs by kissing *** and stabbing people in the back. Remember two things… the boss is a mofo and payday is on Friday. Oh and don’t get in a hurry http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PLUQ_K…

verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

I think if he’s your boss, you should possibly avoid being bothered by friendliness or non friendliness, and just try to stay professional.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

He wants you to be his codependency enabler and fake friend suck up. More of the pleasures of life.

Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (22 minutes after post)

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
He wants you to be his codependency enabler and fake friend suck up. More of the pleasures of life.

Please explain more..?

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (22 minutes after post)

“Fake friend suck up”, exactly what all managers want but only when someone who actually counts is around. By the way you do not count… payday is today. ;)

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (22 minutes after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Managers get their jobs by kissing *** and stabbing people in the back. Remember two things… the boss is a mofo and payday is on Friday. Oh and don’t get in a hurry http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PLUQ_K…

Thank you so soothing - the message subte but hit home!

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

verge wrote:
I think if he’s your boss, you should possibly avoid being bothered by friendliness or non friendliness, and just try to stay professional.

Its hard to everyone keeps going on he’s such a lovely guy and he puts me on a spot with people so I have to respond if i dont it makes me look like a jerk but when i do i hate myself even more.

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
“Fake friend suck up”, exactly what all managers want but only when someone who actually counts is around. By the way you do not count… payday is today. ;)

not for me :( I’m a monthly wage slave.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (26 minutes after post)

I think you should prank him subtly.

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

“Codependency (or codependence, interdependency ) is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as in an addiction to alcohol or heroin); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of or control of another.[1] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one’s own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[2] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[2] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.[2] Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.” Wiki

OMG!!! This describes my life! My boss is a sick sick narcissistic swine!!!!

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
I think you should prank him subtly.

How ? I already fantasize about poisoing him lol makes the day go by faster!

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

You know it honey!

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

Rasha wrote:

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
I think you should prank him subtly.

How ? I already fantasize about poisoing him lol makes the day go by faster!

How about the whole stapler in jello thing?

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

Seems to be a common problem! Aaaarrrgh! Its just so frustrating ! Would like to win the Lotto, quit and wipe the smug smile of his face! Aaargh!

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (32 minutes after post)

verge wrote:

Rasha wrote:
Crystalizeforlife wrote:
I think you should prank him subtly.

How ? I already fantasize about poisoing him lol makes the day go by faster!

How about the whole stapler in jello thing?

lol he does have a real love for staplers!

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (33 minutes after post)
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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (38 minutes after post)

verge wrote:

Rasha wrote:
Crystalizeforlife wrote:
I think you should prank him subtly.

How ? I already fantasize about poisoing him lol makes the day go by faster!

How about the whole stapler in jello thing?

Thanks for helping me see the lighter side at least I can enjoy my w/e without having to deal with them for a while :)

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (45 minutes after post)

Rasha wrote:

verge wrote:
Rasha wrote:
Crystalizeforlife wrote:
I think you should prank him subtly.

How ? I already fantasize about poisoing him lol makes the day go by faster!

How about the whole stapler in jello thing?

Thanks for helping me see the lighter side at least I can enjoy my w/e without having to deal with them for a while :)

Haha just remember jello when he smiles smugly :)

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (46 minutes after post)

Poison stapler jello.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (47 minutes after post)

But don’t poison the jello, just joking.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

No poison, just pee…

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmm yellow jello.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

pinapple juice will hide the taste.

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (51 minutes after post)

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
Poison stapler jello.

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
Poison stapler jello.

haha! Now were talking! It would be just like him to eat the Jello with the stapler in it he’s such a greedy pig!

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (51 minutes after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
No poison, just pee…

haha Ralph! I love your style!!! Pee cupcakes it is all around!

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (52 minutes after post)

Crystalizeforlife wrote:
pinapple juice will hide the taste.

hahaha and the color! I’m overthinking this again! haha will certainly help me get through next week

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour after post)

My boss is a big time a$$hole too… the only problem is I work for myself. Crap. Not only that but I have to work tomorrow. AAARRRRGGHH two Saturdays in a row. Crap.

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

Dr. Ralph wrote:
My boss is a big time a$$hole too… the only problem is I work for myself. Crap. Not only that but I have to work tomorrow. AAARRRRGGHH two Saturdays in a row. Crap.

Ha! Give youself the day off then give youself a final warning when you get back!

Oh the joys of working for yourself! I wish I did!

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R.O.G. offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

I’m very impressed that a pig has risen to the position of manager. Your company must be very progressive where livestock are concerned.

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

My boss loves him self so much he loves people to love him and constantly tell him how lovely he is you can visibley see him getting a buzz from it! But he’s so fake! he talks behind peples back a lot! And is very cliquish! Is that a word? Either you’re in his clique or your out and you can tell which one by the look he gives you, plus he manipulates everyone to see his way so you are the one that looks like a Jerk!

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Rasha offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

R.O.G. wrote:
I’m very impressed that a pig has risen to the position of manager. Your company must be very progressive where livestock are concerned.

Oh they are! The whole of senior management is a farm yard and the rest of us is stewing in their manure!

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 17 minutes after post)

It’s a shame that companies and other organizations pick people like this for managers. They are often picked for their ability to screw over other people without having any twinges of conscience. They’re the ones who have no trouble giving out pink slips or railroading people so they can be fired.

There’s a difference between a manager and a leader. Civilian outfits invented the word “manager” because so many of them fail miserably as leaders!

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