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Two years ago, I was brand new, not a party person, and I hadn’t had sex with anyone before. At a staff party, coworkers were passing me drinks, but all I remember is waking up in the basement of the party, bately able to move, with another coworker on top of me, (who is 16 years older than me,) is married with small kids, and is the “funny guy” in charge at work. Everyone loves him because he’s so funny and outgoing, but I just don’t take to jocks. Anyway, at the party, three coworkers that were friends of his walked in on us and he made it look like he was asleep. I felt terrible. I’m not attracted to him and never wanted that, but since then, none of the coworkers invite me to do things or go to places that he is at. I feel awkward when he is around because he is so assertive and intimidating because I’m shy. It makes me feel bad because I think our coworkers think I’m responsible for it. This year, he is my boss when I go back after vacation, and I’m scared about how hard he’s going to be on me and make work difficult for me. He’s nice to me when nobody is around, but when they are there, he treats me like crap. I can’t leave my job, but I wish I knew how they could gain my trust again. I wish I could tell them that I didn’t seduce him or anything. I couldn’t even move that night. I never wanted it. I just want to be invited out again and for them to give me a chance. Is there anything I can do?

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Relationship With Co-Workers Failing Because I Slept With Another Co-worker…

Two years ago, I was brand new, not a party person, and I hadn’t had sex with anyone before. At a staff party, coworkers were passing me drinks, but all I remember is waking up in the basement of the party, bately able to move, with another coworker on top of me, (who is 16 years older than me,) is married with small kids, and is the “funny guy” in charge at work. Everyone loves him because he’s so funny and outgoing, but I just don’t take to jocks. Anyway, at the party, three coworkers that were friends of his walked in on us and he made it look like he was asleep. I felt terrible. I’m not attracted to him and never wanted that, but since then, none of the coworkers invite me to do things or go to places that he is at. I feel awkward when he is around because he is so assertive and intimidating because I’m shy. It makes me feel bad because I think our coworkers think I’m responsible for it. This year, he is my boss when I go back after vacation, and I’m scared about how hard he’s going to be on me and make work difficult for me. He’s nice to me when nobody is around, but when they are there, he treats me like crap. I can’t leave my job, but I wish I knew how they could gain my trust again. I wish I could tell them that I didn’t seduce him or anything. I couldn’t even move that night. I never wanted it. I just want to be invited out again and for them to give me a chance. Is there anything I can do?

Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 47 minutes after post)

Report it to his superior?

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (7 hours, 22 minutes after post)

Never go into a relationship with co-workers.
It brings trouble only at your workplace.

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9 months, 1 week ago (12 hours, 31 minutes after post)

His superior is a really good friend of his, and as for the relationship thing, I actually didn’t want anything with him. I didn’t even want him to have sex with me, but I wasn’t in any condition to stop it. I don’t want to get him in trouble, but I wish thatour staff would try and think objectively. I think he told one of them that I had a crush on him and wanted really bad. That made me so angry because he lied to make it look like I wanted it. I just want to be invited to things again like I used to. I also Feel bad for his wife, because I met her afterwards, and she is an amazing woman. Some of the stuff that he’s done; I don’t know why she’s put up with it for so long. Would any of this have to do with him being a Freemason?

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Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "Wanted, party, Feel, work, Gain, relationship, brand new, Remember, Terrible, Basement, sex, Mistake, forgiveness, verge" 9 months, 1 week ago.

Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "Wanted, party, Feel, work, Gain, relationship, brand new, Remember, Terrible, Basement, sex, Mistake, forgiveness, Freemason" 9 months, 1 week ago.

Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 hours, 21 minutes after post)

It sounds like you were deygged at this party.

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (14 hours, 3 minutes after post)

i would either confront him about it or leave the job. those would be my two options.

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9 months, 1 week ago (14 hours, 41 minutes after post)

My close friends who’ve known me for years say the same thing; about someone maybe slipping something into my drink. I’m not sure, but it’s too late to check. I waited months before telling my closest friends what happened. I feel ashamed and dirty. My logic tells me that I didn’t want it and couldn’t stop it, but I still feel guilty.

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Ahhotep offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (23 hours, 52 minutes after post)

Dont work with them or hang out with them if you can help it. Try to get them to tell you the truth.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (5 months, 1 week after post)

If it was me I’d change jobs. From what you said this man raped you. What’s to say he wont do it again.

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