Love help: I dated this guy for 2 years.

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I dated this guy for 2 years.

He broke up with me 6 months ago, and two weeks later he called and said he wanted to talk about getting back together. We did, but I asked him why first. It wasn’t a long time away from eachother and he said that he missed me, he wanted to work on things, and that he did think that we had things in common. A month ago, he was talking about a ring, future kids, and us being together. 2 weeks ago, he broke up with me. he said things had changed, and that he REALLY wanted to still be my friend. heart broken, i went with it. a week later, we met to hangout and give our stuff back. While hanging out, he made sure that our arms were touching while we walked. he called me beautiful and even said “I love you” to me. entirely under his breath. But i was just able to catch it. after we hungout, we went to our cars and we exchanged bags. I had more stuff to give him than he had to give me.this bothered him. then, when he got back to his house, he texted me and said that i was really mean to give back gifts. the “gifts” he was talking about were stuff that said “I love (his name).” I also gave back a few pictures that I just couldn’t hold on to anymore. He was mad that I gave those back. When he gave me back a gift I got him and my senior pics. He texted me saying that I never loved him, that he is too good for me, that I should grow up and that I should go into a dark tunnel.

I’m at a lost. I do still love him and his is my best friend. He unfriended me on Facebook. I was thinking because he got soo mad.
What do you think? Be honest, but not hurtful. This is really hard for me.
What do you think he is thinking?

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I dated this guy for 2 years. He broke up with me 6 months ago, and two weeks later he called and said he wanted to talk about getting back together. We did, but I asked him why first. It wasn’t a long time away from eachother and he said that he missed me, he wanted to work on things, and that he did think that we had things in common. A month ago, he was talking about a ring, future kids, and us being together. 2 weeks ago, he broke up with me. he said things had changed, and that he REALLY wanted to still be my friend. heart broken, i went with it. a week later, we met to hangout and give our stuff back. While hanging out, he made sure that our arms were touching while we walked. he called me beautiful and even said “I love you” to me. entirely under his breath. But i was just able to catch it. after we hungout, we went to our cars and we exchanged bags. I had more stuff to give him than he had to give me.this bothered him. then, when he got back to his house, he texted me and said that i was really mean to give back gifts. the “gifts” he was talking about were stuff that said “I love (his name).” I also gave back a few pictures that I just couldn’t hold on to anymore. He was mad that I gave those back. When he gave me back a gift I got him and my senior pics. He texted me saying that I never loved him, that he is too good for me, that I should grow up and that I should go into a dark tunnel.

I’m at a lost. I do still love him and his is my best friend. He unfriended me on Facebook. I was thinking because he got soo mad.
What do you think? Be honest, but not hurtful. This is really hard for me.
What do you think he is thinking?

yaalbi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (58 minutes after post)

Hmmm… maybe he is afraid of commitment. I really don’t understand why he is being this way.. is he maybe bipolar or have any mental problems?

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The Sherlockian 26 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (1 hour, 57 minutes after post)

I think your boyfriend is a spineless, slimy worm with absolutely no respect, consideration or LOVE for you.

He doesn’t know what he wants. He blames his indecision and wishy-washiness on others.

A true love is when you are loved back. This guy never truly loved you back.

Your were wrong, however, in giving him back his pictures. Those should have been taped to the inside of the stalls of the women’s bathroom in the county courthouse.

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Anonymous #
10 months ago (2 hours, 25 minutes after post)

So, I’m guessing you think I should just forget about him?

The Sherlockian 26 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (4 hours, 54 minutes after post)

Yes . . . forget about him AND paste any remaining photos of him on the toilet stall walls!

He’s a jerk. You can do SO much better!

No decent woman–and I can sense that you ARE decent–needs a jerk like that in her life!

Once you meet your true love, this sorry excuse for a man will be the faintest and most distant of memories!

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Kollio2 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Wow! How ironic but I am going through the same thing my ex and I dated for almost 3 years then out of no where he started to say that I’ve changed and we broke up and just recently he said he wanted to give it another shot but I turned him down and then he got angry and said that I never lived him oddly enough though were still friends on Facebook. What I’m thinking is that your ex maybe just expected for you to act differently about your relationship but I don’t think you ate **** fault for returning stuff that says “I live (his name” I actually did the same!

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amyamy 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

He sounds like he has commitment issues and is very confused about what he wants. However, if you still love him very much, you may want to try to work things out so that way you won’t regret it later for not trying - keeping in mind that it may be up and down until he’s figured it all out. This kind of uncertainty always makes it hard, I think, to be in a relationship because you’re always wondering, is he going to break up with me out of the blue again…

Also I think he said and unfriended you because he’s really hurt. I hope things work out the best way they can for you 3

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