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no one ever tells you how terrible you’ll feel after graduating college…

i thought i was going to feel all accomplished and like i had actually done something with my life. that has definitely not been the case. i haven’t been able to find a job (like so many of my fellow graduates) and i feel pretty useless. my parents think that since i got a degree i should be able to be like the ceo of some company or basically run the world. they don’t understand how hard it is to get a job without any experience right now. on top of that, you don’t realize how lonely it is not being in school. i spent most of my life with my friends. in and out of school, it was pretty much my constant support. i never could have gotten through school without my friends. but after graduation, i didn’t realize how little time i would actually get to spend with my friends anymore. it’s definitely taking a toll. i am so stressed out. i’ve been having panic attacks and constantly struggle to get a breath in. it’s just so frustrating trying to get through this lonely time while feeling like i have no one to go to anymore. i feel like no one cares about me. i’m not even really sure why i’m posting this. i guess i just needed to vent about how i really feel about everything since i haven’t had the opportunity. i just really want to know i’m going to be okay. at this point, i’m really not sure. life just seems impossible and i don’t feel strong enough to be successful and happy like i want to be.

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verge offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

Hi, I’m sorry you’re feeling so frustrated and hopeless. I think that things will be okay though. As soon as you get a job, you’ll have some experience, and your next job will be something you care more for. Things will probably suck for a bit longer, but they will look up :) People naturally bond at work, and soon enough you’ll be surrounded by friends again.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

I’ve been out of college since december and I feel exactly the same way. I got a part time job from a small vocational degree that I had…not even related to my bachelors. It’s embarassing but everyone is going through hard times right now. Degrees don’t get you **** unless you’re willing to go all the way to a masters or doctorate…and even then the job market is sketchy for people that don’t have experience. I learned the hard way and so now I’m interning while I go to school to get experience and double majoring…hoping that something will get me a stable job. It’s not easy. It’s actually super hard and I found that if I’m close to having a panic attack, I have to force myself to calm down and just concentrate on breathing slowly and deeply. I think I have at least 2 panic attacks a week…you get used to it after a while. I don’t have insurance so I can’t seek out a therapist but maybe you should try it. It may help a lot.

Just remember that you’re not in this horrible boat alone. All us new graduates are struggling but we’ll all end up somewhere good if we’re willing to keep working hard. Good luck friend.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Jeremiah 29:11-14

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

dramaduck wrote:
Jeremiah 29:11-14

Too true. I was in the same boat last year… there is always graduate school, but honestly I can’t recommend it (that is what I am doing right now… you will have even less time to make friends).

In the end we end up on Help because we’re Friendicapped.

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