dad help: My dad is slowly killing himself with booze, cigarettes, and terrible food.

meisabelep

My dad is slowly killing himself with booze, cigarettes, and terrible food.

He needs to change. I love him so much and I really don’t want to lose him.

In the past 300 years, only two men in his family have lived past 53, he is one of them. He’s already had a heart attack, he doesn’t have health or life insurance, and it seems like he really just doesn’t care.

Tonight, he had already been drinking when his friends brought him a nice bottle of bourbon, 45.2% alcohol. He drank almost half the bottle without dinner - about 370 ml. Last night he threw up, then went to get more bourbon. I finally took the glass away when he was distracted. It was after 4:00 AM.

He smokes about two packs “on a good day”. I bought him an electronic cigarette but I don’t think he’ll use it.
I can’t stand this! I can’t just let this happen, but I don’t know what to do. He knows how much I care about him and how much I need him. I feel so helpless, he just jokes and says it’s fine and stuff.
I’m so scared, I’m leaving for college soon and I need him to be okay.

Any suggestions or just anything would be greatly appreciated.

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Dalek Karan 10 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Leave your dad alone, he is enjoying himself, he is aware of what he is doing to himself.

First you must find out why he is this way, not just stop him from doing it, you are dealing with three extremely addictive addictions which cannot be treated with “cold turkey”.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

Write him a letter. Tell him how much you love him and how you would like to see him change because you can’t handle the thought of losing him while your in college.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

My grandpa always says ‘’ I’m going to die sometime anyway, why should I miss out?” That seems to be the way your dad sees it too. “You only live once” but doesn’t he care about living long enough to see his grandchildren and such?

Have you tried a family intervention? Talk to him about how upset it makes you to watch him be so self destructive, how bad it is for his health? If he cared about the family wouldent he want to have a long life to be with everyone?

Sorry about the rough night..

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

Savanna_ wrote:
Have you tried a family intervention? Talk to him about how upset it makes you to watch him be so self destructive, how bad it is for his health? If he cared about the family wouldent he want to have a long life to be with everyone

I was going to suggest an intervention as well.

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meisabelep 16 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (49 minutes after post)

Thanks guys.

Most of his family is dead and he’s really depressed about that. He watched his brother die from a heart attack and blames himself a bit, even though he couldn’t have done anything.

I sometimes write letters, I just don’t want him to feel bad. I think I might give him one tomorrow, maybe. I’m also worried it will make him more depressed, which will make him drink more.

I’ll try to talk to him. I don’t know if an intervention is the right thing. I don’t know what is though hah.

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (5 hours, 50 minutes after post)

i know this isnt any help what so ever but i feel your pain, my dad is the same. this is my post about it, i dont know if any of the answers will give you any further help

http://help.com/post/557392-at-what-p…

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meisabelep 16 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (12 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Thanks Siren.
My dad is usually funny when he drinks, but last night it just made me really upset. He was stumbling around, struggling to make food, being silly, peeing in the backyard (he loves that..) said he saw bigfoot.

I think a lot was being able to see the alcohol in the bottle just disappearing. Way too much. and he says he’s worried about smoking pot again hahaahah I wish he would start smoking again/I’ll teach him how to make oil.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

Hi meisabelep. I am sorry to hear about your father………..there is absolutely nothing you can do………i’m sorry.

I am watching my father do exactly the same and somewhere in that man who now has a few months left to live, he has realised that we love him an he has made some bad choices. It’s too late.

But i love my dad and that is all i can do.

I wish YOU health and happiness….xx

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