relationship help: Why is there ALWAYS another woman?

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Why is there ALWAYS another woman?

I really can’t take this anymore. I’m 26 years old and I’m starting to think no relationship will ever work out for me. For the past seven years every guy I’ve had serious feelings for or dated regularly (five total) has either cheated on me or dumped me and immediately started seeing someone else.

The really weird thing is this happens when things are going really well - like after saying “I love you” or after physical intimacy which we’ve waited over six months to share together. Also, the most recent guy that this happened with told me that he had “sky high standards” and that I “hit everything on his list” but that he had met someone else and that was that.

I don’t get it. Please don’t give me some bs advice like “going to the gym”, “getting a hobby,” or “getting a career.” I work out 5-6x a week, I have “hobbies” (photography, painting, reading, writing, theater, hiking),I have an undergrad and post grad degree (BA and JD), I make friends easily, and I’m not clingy or needy. But I feel like none of that makes any difference though.

I don’t get it. I’m starting to feel like I’m just never going to be enough for anyone.

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R.O.G. 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Odds are you have a ‘type’ of guy that you go for, and unfortunately your type is dicks. Maybe reassess who you’re dating…?

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Anonymous #
9 months ago (53 minutes after post)

Guys are ****

dednseyed 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

from my expiriance 98% of guys are jerks or werse but surely there has to be a nice one somewhere. good on ya for not giving up yet

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An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

It’s far too easy to be cynical here. I’m a guy and I don’t believe my fiancee and partner of 2 years would agree that I’m a jerk. I’d never mess her around, and I know plenty of other guys who feel similarly and are genuinely committed to their partners as I am. It’s just perfectly possible that you’re attracted to a type of man that inevitably lets you down. They are in my opinion a minority; although not nearly by enough!

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Anonymous #
9 months ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

I don’t mean to be mean, but if everything you’ve said in this post is true, it just doesn’t add up. At least not to me. But, be that as it may, I will offer some advice.

You’re probably looking for guys in the wrong places. For example-Do you meet them at bars or parties? If you do, try a dating site (one of those pay ones). If you have a career, perhaps there is a guy at work that might be a suitable love interest? Also, perhaps you might try lowered your own standards. Do you find yourself usually dating guys who are very attractive (in the mainstream sense)? Guys who spend a lot of time on their looks (not all) tend to be a bit egotistical and dishonest).

Bottom Line-Try fishing in different waters.

R.O.G. 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

Or perhaps don’t rely on a man to define who you are!

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Anonymous #
9 months ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

^That is also good advice.

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An Undisclosed Location | 9 months ago (2 hours, 53 minutes after post)

i only pick men who are first my friend. i’ve only had two long-term relationships, and found the one. from my life experience, my method works pretty good.

where do you get these men from? bars? online dating? friends? friends of friends? work? school?

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dednseyed 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (4 hours, 36 minutes after post)

i agree with anonymous exept never lower your standards

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Dr. Ozy 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months ago (21 hours, 58 minutes after post)

dednseyed wrote:
never lower your standards

yes!

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R.O.G. 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (22 hours, 1 minute after post)

I second that…or third it I guess. Even so, if you meet someone you genuinely like you shouldn’t discount them because they’re not quite up to a certain standard. Often standards can become unrealistic, especially if they’re informed by Hollywood. I’m not saying you’re a simpleton; but television and film can seriously affect our perceptions of reality. If we’re not aware of it it can be dangerous.

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