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It is very important that you work It will make you feel you are important can do something in your life. when you will be successful at your job it will built your self steam. If i get depressed my work achievement makes me feel alive and happy and pulls me out of my sadness really try it and never leave your friends they are your wealth. Good luck.

Depression is a very sad state of affairs, and its hard for others to understand it. But I have found in life that the best way to deal with problems is to be utterly straight-forward and speak plainly about them. Trying to hide your problems or pretend they don’t exist does not help at all.

In fact, if you are open about your depression problem with your friends, you will find that your true friends will understand and go out of their way to help you rebuild your life. Those that move away are not worth your investing in anyway - as they are fair-weather friends.

Please call up your friends, email or sms them and explain the situation to them. Tell them that you need help and leave it at that. Those that stretch out their hands to you in friendship are the ones that you need to rebuild friendship with - they truly care about you.

You can explain to those that you apply for a job with, that you have this problem with depression - don’t elaborate, or tell them that you have had this problem before unless they ask for it. People do appreciate honesty and most people(myself included) have gone through varying degrees of depression at some time of their lives and understand that it can happen to anyone).

Surround yourself with people. Move away from home, if you live in the middle of nowhere. Always put on music that makes you feel like moving - you know the kind I mean, not the doleful - sad stuff, but music that makes you feel alive and want to dance.

Wake up each day and tell yourself that, this day is going to be the best day of your life. Do that everyday. When anyone asks you how you are, always spill out a “fantastic, terrific, etc, etc, etc. believe me it really makes you feel good after a few days. Initially you might feel stupid saying it, but later it makes you feel really good about yourself and before long your positive thoughts bring about positive changes in you and depression finds a back-bench elsewhere.:)

Do whatever you enjoy doing that keeps you busy through the day, so you don’t have time for negative thoughts. And always, pray to the God within you to be there with you every step of the way. All the best.:)

When you are suffering from depression, you have two options: (1) give into it, or (2) do something about it.

Option 2 requires that you have at least a modicum of self-discipline. It means that you get up and do things even if you don’t feel like it. And it means that you get treatment for your depression, instead of wallowing in it.

Yes, you can rebuild your life. No, you shouldn’t ever quit another job because you “feel bad.” Yes, you should get meds and/or therapy so you can lead a productive and rewarding life.

When you apply for new jobs, don’t EVER tell the employer you’ve had depression. As for the gap in employment, say that you took off to help take care of a parent, who is fully recovered now. It’s really none of their business–but they’ll make it their business, if you let them!

Get going–and good luck to you!

I share my opinion with The Sherlockian.
My first question after reading your post was: are you on any medication or go to any therapy or counseling? YOu need both. The second was, never tell any employer about your depression, it is not their business as the poster above me said. Nobody is going to hire you. In fact, you have to show they can count on you.
Thirdly I also agree with RituAnand for you to leave home. It is maybe that very fact that you are still home in the middle of nowhere that brings you back to your depression.

I stand corrected - don’t share this information of your depression with your employer’s - what sherlockian and be a gal say is correct - it is none of their business and they could become intrusive in your working life with that information.

But please do take the 2nd option given by Sherlockian and fight your depression. Immerse yourself to the neck with work and friends who are happy and positive and your life will start looking up too. God be with you!!!