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cfreemantrack
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Phoenix, AZ, US

So im in love..deeply.

but i am tlaking with another guy bc im afraid of hurting the one i love. he love me and we have already had a serious relationship. he told me to listen to this song called Out of My System and im depressed. i know i need to let go but i cant. i know i need to help him and be there for him, but i already involved myself with someone else. idk wat to do?

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notme offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (3 minutes after post)

ok, wait,whats going on here??

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Help me with: my friend wrote this poem..tell me what yall think
cfreemantrack offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Phoenix, AZ, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (21 minutes after post)

his name is steven and i cant get over him..but i try by dating others..and then making mistakes. i cant even understand my own actions

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Help me with: Someone help me think.
notme offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (22 minutes after post)

are you and steve friends?

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Help me with: my friend wrote this poem..tell me what yall think
cfreemantrack offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Phoenix, AZ, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (23 minutes after post)

thats wat we call it since we split in november

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Help me with: Someone help me think.
notme offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (26 minutes after post)

oooooooo….
do yall still talk?

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Help me with: my friend wrote this poem..tell me what yall think
elatenradiate offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (3 hours, 2 minutes after post)

A possible reason why you are having problems getting over your boyfriend could be because you still feel attached to him.
People form attachments with others when they form relationships, however these attachments may take a lifetime to fade. Even when you are no longer interested in a person, you have not seen them for a while, or you no longer get along together, the attachment subsists. It contributes to feelings of hurt, and not being able to get over the person.

I learned about this theory from a psychology course on interpersonal relations. I am finishing a B.A., so I am not a psychologist.

If you have already committed to someone else, then maybe he can seek social support from his family or other close friends.

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bllawso offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Lawton, OK, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

he knows u are seeing some1 new and of course it will hurt him at first but he has to realize that u now just want to be just friends my advice to u is pray 4 him and let him deal with it in his own way im sure he will find some1 new to sometime and when he does he will start to feel better till then he will hurt some it is all part of the healing procees to hurt after a breakup till he or she finds another relationship at least thats what i believe hope this helps all my best and god bless

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heart_beat0 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

I tried talking to her this morning but then she suddenly shouted at me telling me that eversince i dont accept any mistake…i was so amazed with her response…i just replied her that she should look at herself infront of a mirror…if my boss and the daughter of my boss are talking with each other she’s thinking that we were telling bad against her…having a paranoid colleague is difficulty…it is hard to work with these king of people…
Any suggestion for this kind of attitude..

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Help me with: I was so depressed now a days…i just separated with my husband 2yrs ago.

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