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How long have you been in love with your friend?

Life Lesson No. 24: Do not pursue people who do not reciprocate your feelings.

If she’s leaning toward someone else, cut her loose. She’s not the one for you if she does that.

Life Lesson No. 25: When you meet the right person, it will feel completely natural and right. You won’t worry about what to say or do next. You won’t be worrying about the person rejecting you or cheating on you. The relationship will feel like your most comfortable pair of sneakers. You will love and you will be loved back–and that is how you will know it is a true love.

Two years… she was my first, then I tried to see other people because she didn’t want to be in a relationship with me due to only wanting physical intimacy. Later, I just stopped having feelings for her. I started suffering with depression for about eight months and she was the only person who stayed by my side and dealt with my bad moods and isolation. Now, I’m slowly getting better…. but there is this guy who likes her, and she’s sort of intertested; just can’t help but to feel jealousy for the guy.

As much as you dislike it,.. Is he a good guy?

If you stopped having feelings for her, she probably sensed it, and she felt free to look elsewhere.

Depression can be bad. But NO medical diagnosis is a pass for bad behavior. Most people can only take so much of another person’s “bad moods.” That’s why those who suffer with depression need to get in gear and do something about it–and quick.

If you want this girl, two things are incumbent upon you: (1) to be wholly committed to beating your depression, and (2) letting her know your feelings for her.

I suppose he is a good guy… she tells me that he talks a lot and distracts her from her studies, but most of her friends tell her to try him out since he’s different. Whatever makes her happy,I suppose. She just tells me it’s a little crush, but I don’t know if it is my gut or depression telling me that it’ll end up being more and she’ll eventually get into a relationship with him. She knows how this affects me and sort if enjoys hearing my paranoid behavior on how they’lend up with kids and move to Virginia to meet his family.

Sounds like you need a drink, bro…. She enjoys hearing your paranoia and sufferings? She either has a wicked weird fetish, or she’s wants you… But she wants a manlier version of you…. Man up and ravish her!

She seriously likes the guy. I noticed she started liking articles about ‘how to determine if he likes you’ and ‘how to be a guy magnet’… bloody hell. I guess moving on will be a better option than having to suffer liking a girl who will only talk about her infatuation towards another guy.

Thanks for the help, though.

When a girl starts talking about how hot another guy is, or how much she likes him, it’s time to move on.