boyfriend help: my boyfriend is depressed with his life, and ask me to give him space to deal with that and clear his mind. - Help.com

Okay, first problem, you dumped him. Especially if he’s depressed, that will only result in pain for him and major heartbreak, it will give him more reason to hate himself, and I don’t think he’ll want that. Now, as for your current boyfriend, let him have his space, but only for a couple weeks or so, but if he’s asking for anymore time, ask him why. Don’t just accept answers like, ‘Because…’ or ‘I feel like I need it…’ or something that doesn’t answer WHY. Make him give you reasons, and no, not just along the lines of ‘I’m depressed’. Thats not WHY. You know he’s depressed, make him give you reasons like, ‘right now, I need to sort myself out. I want to sit somewhere quiet and think without human interference. I know you want to help me, but I feel like I need to do this alone.’ or something like that. If you can’t bring yourself to ask him, or he can’t tell you, then you don’t have trust for eachother. Repair that, you are in a mutual relationship, no? Then you should be able to say things face to face. If not, like I said, repair it. And, don’t just sympathize, do something about it. Research it, give him your support and prove through action rather than words, because what are words worth when there is nothing behind them?

If you can get over this hurdle together, this will strengthen the bond between you two ;) just saying…