Situation help: Is it ever tough! - Help.com

Go double time and get two 12 inch subs tomorrow.. Get the fresh backed white chocolate chip cookies as a reward for your patience.. I know how great subs can be.. Dont cry though… You have to be strong…

wait, what’s going on? I’m sorry your going through something. Don’t feel bad about almost crying. I almost cried the other day because I had to wait in line at a bookstore for almost thirty minutes. But that was because I was already stressed and tired, so don’t feel bad about that. Tears can be a good release.

I doubt that the subs were the real issue here and I think you realise that too. You are under a great deal of emotional stress so things will undoubtably get to you.

I understand that you find it difficult to vent your emotions on your family, and feel the need to support them. But you need comfort and support as well, it does no good to bottle up all these feelings all the time. Do you have friends that you feel that you could talk to? People who are not so emotionally involved and can just be there to listen and support you?

Of course everyone on here is happy to aswell, and I know people have been sending their thoughts and prayers to you and your father.

Hang in there and you can make it through. Those cravings will go away and eventually you will find other foods that make you feel good.

According to me. some time tough come in our life. but we should facing the problem. like if you ill and your mom make some food only for you. so she face the some problem.
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JRoulston D.Div wrote:
Unfortunetly I don’t have friends around here. All of my friends have either moved, or passed away… That is likely why I spend so much time here on Help.

:’( *hug*

You seem like a smart, goodhearted person. I know you’ll get through this rough time. You are such a great helper, I hope you realize how happy you’ve made other people, you deserve to be happy as well. &I’m sure the people who care about you on here want you to overcome this stressful situation.

JRoulston D.Div wrote:

Crumpet♡Strumpet wrote:
I understand that you find it difficult to vent your emotions on your family, and feel the need to support them. But you need comfort and support as well, it does no good to bottle up all these feelings all the time.

I know that it isn’t good to bottle… but I’ve always been the emotional rock in my family. My family has always looked to me for the support, and I don’t want to fail them.

yeah i understand that :) i completely sympathize. Although you feel like you need to be the one to give support, if you don’t feel like you can give it please don’t feel like a failure - your only human and I’m sure your family unterstand that this is very hard for you too.
But I do understand your wanting to be strong for the family, my dad is the same. that’s why it’s good you have found help.com to vent how you are feeling.

JRoulston D.Div wrote:
So very very true.
When I was with the Army Cadets, I received the nickname of padre.(due to my religious nature and counsiling) And after a few weeks of taking on everyones problems I needed someone to talk to. When I went to the actuial Padre’s tent and spoke for a while, he told me “every counsilor needs a counsilor”

For me that is Help.com
And thank you. It does help to be able to vent and know that there is someone listening… ;| proverbialy :)

Yep so often the way! And yes, we are listening - and all real people who care (sometimes I forget that I’m talking to ‘real’ people on here sometimes!). It’s great you’re helping so much still too! Don’t forget to ask for all the support you need though. Have you ever thought about talking to a therapist as well? Sometimes they are a good independent person to talk to, most are happy to help those who are going through a difficult time and need someone to process it with. Or do you feel that there is enough support on this site for the meantime?

Well I’m sorry things are so hard. I’m glad you got your sub tonight at least :) Help.com will always listen, and I hope things get better for you and your family straight away.

Well Help.com certainly has a lot of nice members. It seems like a good social circle to have, but I’d recommend broadening your horizons in that regard if having friends to support you emotionally is important to you. I’m sorry so many of your friends have left, maybe you could make some new ones where you live as a supplement?

JRoulston D.Div wrote:
I’ve tried but I’m a very introverted person… :D an introverted minister… Go figure :D … I’ve never had a large social circle. The friends that I had were all either from work or school. Now what I’m doing for work is from home, on the computer… I don’t like the club/bar scene, so that’s out.
Quite frankly I wouldn’t know how to make friends, without being at work/school/etc.

well you seem like a nice person so I don’t think you would have any problems! I know what you mean though, I hate clubbing and bars, but there are plenty of other ways to meet people. Things like reading groups or sports. Anyway, you maybe can start thinking about that once your dad’s condition has improved and you can focus on it :)

Hmm I understand. I am one of those as well. The way I do it is to just be as friendly and engaging as possible to the people who talk to me or to lonely looking people who look like they’d appreciate a conversation. Lonely people are everywhere. Libraries, parks, stores, streets are full of them. If you happen to bump into one, maybe you could just say something nice and preferably not creepy, and that would land you a friend eventually. But I agree with Crumpet Strumpet, it can wait, and it’ll probably happen naturally :)

I met a minister who became my friend(and minister) at a restaraunt bar. I mean, I went there to eat, but I sat at the bar so I got to talk to other people who were there. It’s a good way to non commitally meet people.

maybe you should volunteer? community service is ripe with good people and you get to do something to help others.

It is never a good idea to bottle up emotions. It always end jn a explosion or meltdown and that’s never a good idea.

if u need to cry you should let out, just do it in private…. bottling up emotions is never good its a good thin ur talking about it here to us on help.com

~hugs~ I’m an emotional wreck right now too, my grandma is in the hospital and I’m terrified of losing her. If you wanna chat I’m a shoutbox away.