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I really like this girl in my classes this year.
She’s my best friend in the world and has always been there for me. I don’t want to ruin her friendship, but she keeps saying things that make me think she likes me. We have the exact same schedule, for the whole year. On top of that, a couple weeks ago, my ‘friend’ outed me to the whole school, using the wrong sexuality. I don’t want to be the ‘dyke’ of the school. Thats a part of me, but thats not all of me. I just want someone to give me a hug, and I don’t have anyone. It gets exhausting to have to go to school and pretend everything is fine so I don’t hurt people, and know that as soon as I get home, I’m going to be bawling my eyes out. I feel like I have nothing left and I don’t know what to do anymore.
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you shouldn’t be worried about hurting other people in this case . it’s about you , you should do what is best for you . don’t worry about what others say about you .. just be yourself . others should accept you for who you are , & im sure your friends are there for you no matter what . don’t think there aren’t any other ways out or options , theyre’s always someone who will be there for you , and in the end it might be someone you should’ve met a while ago . just be you
i know your feeling, going through a hard time, not wanting to bother anyone, and hurting in the process.
I think before you think about starting a romantic sort of relationship with anyone else you should get yourself sorted, i know the temptation to just ‘fall in love’ etc. can be a little more heavy when times are rough, i know from experience that when things have been hard, i guess thats where im most vunerable and end up falling for someone more easily or something…. i guess love is a nice feeling it takes the pain away for a bit. Just never let feeling lonely or alone make you rush into anything that isn’t real or that your head really isn’t into… again from experience i’ve learn’t to be more cautious not to do this…. i rushed into a relationship with wrong type of guy, of course at the time i was completely blind to it, and i ended up being badly hurt.
feel the same because i just encount a girl like her
sorry i didnt catch what u meant by that…
SO your best friend knows about your sexuality? Have you tried talking about it with her? Not so much asking her out or anything, but just in general, how hard it is for you and all that, it would be a good place to start, at least seeing how she feels and what she thinks about the whole thing.
yes, she knows that I’m gay. I tried talking about it with her. We actually came out to each other on the same day. I said I had something to tell her, and she said the same thing, and we told each other on the count of three.
Oh wow, so you’re both gay? That’s even better. She doesn’t have a partner herself does she? Or talk about anyone she’s interested in? If you are both going through the same stuff it should be easier to share it with each other, who knows, maybe she likes you as much as you like her. If not though, you can always test the waters with the pretense of curiosity, you’re both young gay women, who are best friends, who better to explore your sexuality with? :)
yeah, I’m really lucky on that front…
She has said, time and time again, that that only people she’d ever want to date is one of her friends, and she wouldn’t date anyone who wasn’t openly gay
She talks about someone she’s interested, but never my name… just as her ‘unfortunate crush’
We have, for truth or dare a couple months ago, she had to choose one of the girls there to kiss, and we all knew she would kiss someone on the lips, as it wasn’t specified where, but she kissed me on the lips. We’ve kissed a couple times since then, but thats not really what I want… I just want someone to fall back on, that I can rely on
Hmm, the more I hear, the more certain I am that she feels the same, however, it sounds like there may be another issue here too.
You say you just want someone to fall back on, as your best friend, she should be doing that already and you should be returning the favour.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking a relationship will fix everything and make your life better, it won’t, regardless of what your sexuality is, a relationship should enhance your life, not complete it.
I say go for it with her, even tell her as a joke or something, to cover yourself in case she gives a bad answer, something like “hey I had this funny dream last night that we were a couple” and if she reacts badly you can say it was only a silly a dream.
I think you need to look at the rest of your life too though, find out what else you are unhappy with and what could make it better.
I really hope she feels the same, but I almost feel like thats something that just happens in movies and books, that the obvious couple is endgame.
That already is happening. She’s the best friend I could ever even think of asking for. This summer, though, a group of like eighteen friends and I were hanging out for a week, and we were all acting like couples for where we were staying (long story) and it was amazing to be a ‘couple’ because we for whatever reason acted like a couple even when it was only the two of us…
I know it won’t fix everything. She’s already one of the best things in my life. We’ve been best friends for years, and I can’t help but want more. Which is probably not the best thing.
Thank you. That’s a good idea.
I am working on the rest of my life. She’s helping me with that, going through what makes me feel worse, and its really getting better.
Since my parents kicked me out, her parents actually just invited me to move in, which I don’t really know how to say no, as they essentially raised me. Thankfully, she doesn’t know they asked yet, so I won’t have to deal with an insane amount of pestering for me to move in with her, like she did last time my parents almost kicked me out.
and she’s always calling me baby girl and sonshyn, and stuff like that, and shes always calling me at every hour of the night to talk about random stuff, and its kinda nice to know that at least she cares about me
O.o, you could be living with this chick too? Ha, sounds like you’re just one convo away from having everyones dream life with their crush! xD
I hope everything works out for you. :)
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