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just writing whats on my mind

most of you all ready know all this so i guess this is just to help me process things better and organize my thoughts.

so this whole situation with my so called friends is completely dragging me down. it started in mid jan when we went to a party. this guy kissed her and then felt my butt. i didnt know him but i worked with him so after that we got talking and stuff. he asked me out on valentines day and i said yes coz my friend always said she hated him after. we started a relationship and it went well but we was both jealous, anything i said about someone else he would fly off the handle and fall out with me, and i was the same coz my friend always said that he said this or that or she was cute or something. and i think she liked him coz she always seemed to be around him even tho she said she hated him. anyway we broke up and u was still friends with her thinking nothing was really wrong. then a month or so later i asked her a question about him. she seemed ok to talk to me but then the next day she completely ignored me and did for weeks. she fell out coz apparently i was rubbing it in her face that i was with him, and i wasnt.

so after some weeks of not talking she said she wanted to be amicable so i said ok, then a few weeks after that i reported a guy for harrassing me. then she fell out with me again and everyone decided that i deserved to be harassed coz my ex felt me up at the party and i didnt report that. anyway we didnt talk for about 2 months and she came up to me on tuesday and said that she wanted to be amicable again. so i said ok but i didnt really want to talk to her. anyway on wednseday she posted some status or other on facebook and it made me think that shes found something out about me, then blocked and deleted me.

so now im left here wondering if shes found out about me sleeping with her new best mates boyfriend (they only became friends when we fell out) or if ive done something else. i just cant be bothered with it. i dont care that we’re not talking, i just dont want her talking about me to everyone else. this girl has more ups and downs than the himalayas, one mis she posts that she ‘loves lyf’ an hour later she hates it. shes selfish, immature, 2 faced, fake and jealous but everyone loves her and not me. why?

and i have conflicting emotions for this guy i slept with, i really like him, i hate seeing him with her, but he’s kinda boring. and he’s a cheat, but somehow i feel like i love him, but i know i dont. and i get jealous when i hear that they go buy furniture and stuff together. why does she get to have a normal, happy relationship, move in with him, get cats and stuff, shes only 20 and hes 28. im 24 and never had a proper boyfriend that lasted more than 2 months. shes nothing without him. if she didnt have him she wouldnt have a job, she wouldnt have moved out, or have friends even. everything comes easily to her. just just turns on the babyness and everyone gives her what she wants. ive never heard anything nice about her but everyone seems to love her. it drives me insane, i have to work hard and abide by rules and work for what i have. and i have nothing. theyre so happy together, and he’s happy. why does he get to be happy and i get to sweat over wether people have found out about us or not. why am i getting all the **** from this and he gets nothing but happiness

2 years ago i fell out with my cousin, well, she had a tantrum and fell out with us really, its too long to go into but now i feel her 2 sisters arent talking too, i know one isnt coz she listens to her but the oldest one could make her own mind up. i feel like i need someone to turn to, i have no one, the only person i could talk to freely is helen but i dont know if i should call her. shes off work coz she had a baby 2 months ago so i dont know if i should bother her. shes like a social worker but higher up and i know she could help but i dont want to burden her with this. and i dont think she’d want to see me anyway.

and coz i have no one to talk to i keep turning to my ex. idk why, he hit me and was mean but i keep wanting him, his hugs were the best, i felt safe. but he doesnt even want me anymore. i just feel alone and desperate.

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The Sherlockian 39 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

The problem, dear Siren, is that you see your workplace as a microcosm of society, and you fear that if you don’t find a guy THERE–in that nexus of lust–that you won’t ever find anyone.

Yes, he’s a cheat, and he’s probably boring, as well . . .

They have already pegged you as the “destroyer of relationships,” and see you like the sirens of myth, who lured sailors to their deaths by singing songs of irrestible seduction!

You need to get OUT of there . . . it’s a dysfunctional workplace, and I’m amazed that the firm is still in business!

But NO FUTURE for you there . . . time to talk to the recruiter again!

The problem, dear Siren, is that you see your workplace as a microcosm of society, and you fear that if you don't find a guy THERE--in that nexus of lust--that you won't ever find anyone. Yes, he's a cheat, and he's probably boring, as well . . . They have already pegged you as the "destroyer of relationships," and see you like the sirens of myth, who lured sailors to their deaths by singing songs of irrestible seduction! You need to get OUT of there . . . it's a dysfunctional workplace, and I'm amazed that the firm is still in business! But NO FUTURE for you there . . . time to talk to the recruiter again!

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

The Sherlockian wrote:
The problem, dear Siren, is that you see your workplace as a microcosm of society, and you fear that if you don’t find a guy THERE–in that nexus of lust–that you won’t ever find anyone.

Yes, he’s a cheat, and he’s probably boring, as well . . .

They have already pegged you as the “destroyer of relationships,” and see you like the sirens of myth, who lured sailors to their deaths by singing songs of irrestible seduction!

You need to get OUT of there . . . it’s a dysfunctional workplace, and I’m amazed that the firm is still in business!

But NO FUTURE for you there . . . time to talk to the recruiter again!

i think another thing is im kinda scared to leave the house. i never go anywhere. only work or the gym. like i need to take some clothes back but i just cant bring myself to do it. and i need to go in town to the recruiter but again, im kinda scared. i dont know why, or what of. but i just find it hard to go out alone

[quote The Sherlockian]The problem, dear Siren, is that you see your workplace as a microcosm of society, and you fear that if you don't find a guy THERE--in that nexus of lust--that you won't ever find anyone. Yes, he's a cheat, and he's probably boring, as well . . . They have already pegged you as the "destroyer of relationships," and see you like the sirens of myth, who lured sailors to their deaths by singing songs of irrestible seduction! You need to get OUT of there . . . it's a dysfunctional workplace, and I'm amazed that the firm is still in business! But NO FUTURE for you there . . . time to talk to the recruiter again![/quote] i think another thing is im kinda scared to leave the house. i never go anywhere. only work or the gym. like i need to take some clothes back but i just cant bring myself to do it. and i need to go in town to the recruiter but again, im kinda scared. i dont know why, or what of. but i just find it hard to go out alone

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The Sherlockian 39 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

I’d rather be out here in Afghanistan with really good, professional people–to whom I can trust my life–than to be at your workplace with all of those ditzy people working there, whom you could NOT trust to watch your back!

You haven’t yet met the caliber of people with whom you need to be associating!

If you could see the caliber of people with whom you’d be working in the military, you’d leave that cauldron of seething testosterone and estrogen in a heartbeat!

I'd rather be out here in Afghanistan with really good, professional people--to whom I can trust my life--than to be at your workplace with all of those ditzy people working there, whom you could NOT trust to watch your back! You haven't yet met the caliber of people with whom you need to be associating! If you could see the caliber of people with whom you'd be working in the military, you'd leave that cauldron of seething testosterone and estrogen in a heartbeat!

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The Sherlockian 39 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

With the increased self-confidence the military would give you, you would never be scared to leave the house or to tell anyone what’s what! ;-)

With the increased self-confidence the military would give you, you would never be scared to leave the house or to tell anyone what's what! ;-)

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eunique 15 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 14 minutes after post)

honey stop wasting time and your life on all the negatives, you need to drop everybody and start your life over - as an adult, as an aware person, as not the doormat you are letting them turn you into. Cut it out. Pick yourself up, Your self, not anybody else — all those people you mention have issues, problems, no self esteem. What this is teaching you is to break away from the negatives — you have sense enough to see you don’t belong in any of those dumb circles — stand, turn yourself around 360 and totally think different about yourself. Carry none of those people with you. Do not contact, do not respond. Step waaayyy ahead - act like you’re just born into your new life. It works, get new friends who don’t know or associate with the old friends. Wipe yourself out of all their sites. That’s what you need to do. And don’t let anyone take you down. Period.

honey stop wasting time and your life on all the negatives, you need to drop everybody and start your life over - as an adult, as an aware person, as not the doormat you are letting them turn you into. Cut it out. Pick yourself up, Your self, not anybody else -- all those people you mention have issues, problems, no self esteem. What this is teaching you is to break away from the negatives -- you have sense enough to see you don't belong in any of those dumb circles -- stand, turn yourself around 360 and totally think different about yourself. Carry none of those people with you. Do not contact, do not respond. Step waaayyy ahead - act like you're just born into your new life. It works, get new friends who don't know or associate with the old friends. Wipe yourself out of all their sites. That's what you need to do. And don't let anyone take you down. Period.

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