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My husband’s mental health problem makes him want to kill me!

I mean what do you do in a situation like that. I am currently away staying with my parents to give his brain the break he desprately needs but I don’t know if he will want me to come back even. He is a schizophrenic that is not currently receiving the medical treatment he desperately needs. I am in the UK. he is awaiting treatment but in the mean time he hears a voice in his head and also sees this voice in the form of a dark figure. It is a very violent and muderous ‘person’ that tells him to kill me and graphically how on a regular basis. Is anyone else out there going through anything similar? Any tips or advice or even just general support would be greatly appreciated as I really don’t know what to do anymore. I love my husband and do not want to leave him, although if in the short term it would help him then I would gladly do what needs to be done to support him (even if I’m frightened he’ll never come back to me)

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Dr. Jackson offline Verified User (5 years) Long Term User Shouts: 43 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Can’t he commit himself somewhere? Also, I am glad to see your doing the right thing.

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8 months ago (23 minutes after post)

dba703 wrote:
This is a great website and it offers great advice. Look at it. I highly recommend it:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/schiz…

Thanks that looks like a good read.

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8 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Dr. Jackson wrote:
Can’t he commit himself somewhere? Also, I am glad to see your doing the right thing.

Trouble is that his mental health Dr. keeps moving the goal posts. He has treatment resistant schizo and now they are trying to fob us off and say he doesn’t have it at all and that what he needs is psychotherapy and not the drugs. Then they make things worse by saying that he is going to have to wait until December before he can see a psychotherapist! It’s ridiculous!
He just can’t cope anymore and the marriage is exceptionally strained as he obviously can’t be intimate with me but worse than that he is unable to tell me he loves me or even do things like hold my hand anymore. He’s saying to me that he’s not the man I married 2 years ago and that perhaps the marriage is over etc. but I just try to believe that is the illness talking and not him. I still feel the same way towards him, I just don’t know how to help him anymore.

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An Unknown Location | 8 months ago (3 hours, 23 minutes after post)

I know a family member , but it’s a long story , and I completely agree with your decision , Takes alot of —– to do what you are thinking , and I admire you for it , I would want my X wife to do the same exact thing , where did you get so strong ?

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8 months ago (10 hours, 35 minutes after post)

Goodfella wrote:
I know a family member , but it’s a long story , and I completely agree with your decision , Takes alot of —– to do what you are thinking , and I admire you for it , I would want my X wife to do the same exact thing , where did you get so strong ?

My Mum asks me the same question all the time. The thing is I’m not that strong. I’m under a lot of stress, I cry a lot and it’s starting to have a negative effect on my own health (I suffer from CFS as it is!). But I love the man and I promised him ‘in sickness and in health’ and well he is very sick. I hang tight to my marriage vows, surround myself with people I trust with what is happening, and pray - a lot!

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8 months ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

In addition my husband now has said he doesn’t want me anymore and that we should split up! I can only believe that this is his illness talking.

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