Love help: I caught my wife with talking to another man for over 3 hrs in two weeks on her cell phone. - Help.com

3 hours in two weeks isn’t very much to be fair. But the pictures might need a bit of explaining, but then how do you bring up you browsing her phone without it coming across that you don’t trust her..

tough one..

do you know who the guy is?

Nelfs, have you confronted your wife with your suspicions and evidence? If so, what was her response?

Ask your wife if she is willing to go to a counselor with you in an attempt to save your marriage. What she asks of you is unacceptable. How can you trust that she can control her actions when she has already sent these pics to him.

cool..that’s a great step to take..best of luck to you both

If you need to talk, we will be here. We are praying for you and for all.

I hope it works out, marriage is serious, I believe in marriage for better or worse.
To be honest I think she cheated on you, the reason I say this is because she cryed and she said she didn’t mean to hurt you? Sending a picture won’t hurt you, cheating will hurt you. The sign of tears can even be drama or she is ashamed of what she did.
and accept right away marriage counseling it can mean she feels guilty and is willing to do what it takes to not lose you.
I don’t know if counseling works, I hope it does,
Maybe you should speak to this man that works with her, and tell him that you love your wife, and to respect your marriage since maybe he not respecting his marriage.
I don’t know who is going for who, it ok to send a decent picture to a friend with your family, but a picture only a bra says alot. maybe she trying to attract him.
Why is this behavior going on ask your self that? Maybe she looking for attention that was most likely. Maybe there flows in the marriage, maybe not enough time together, maybe she needs therapy dealing with insecurities, When someone has insecurities issues that person is capable to cheat because they need to feel desired. Dealing with a person insecurity is very stressful. I know this fact that is why I’m careful with who I chose and even more careful with who I marry.
I wish you good luck and I hope it all works out.

Everyone makes mistakes…. If she hasn’t been unfaithful before this, perhaps you should give her a chance and work it out

aesscamill,

If you need help, you should begin your own post please.

yes I think you should worry “aesscamill” we are in 2007, that friend can be a guy or a female. In now in days nothing is strange. yes, that is proof something is going on. it called verbal proof.

My wife was acting all secretive for 3 months, part of this is my fault. I was always mad and did not pay her much attention. She started a new job amd started talking with a soldier that was about 20 years younger thn her. what complicates this is a also have a 20 year old daughter. At first my wife was trying to fix them up, and somewere doing this she start biulding a friendship with him and spending a lot more tim with him. this all ends with me finding emails between them. but before this I had asked her what was going on and she told me that they were just friends and she was trying to get my dauaghter and him together. I wanted to believe her. The soldier was tdy for a month and i would sit at home watching her run to the bathroom and hid in the bedroom evertime her phone would go off. she was like a teenager in love. When this soldier was returning she told me that she needed to go and pick him up and bring him home because noone else was available to do it. I let her go, and that night when she returned, I tasted simen on her breath when she came home and kissed me for the first time in months. I didnt say anything, because I was not sure. About a week later I read her emails and found emails that talked about sexually act that she wanted to do to this soldier. She called it “the Gift” she would suck or jack him and she could do this as a friend, nothing more. no affair, no love, no relationship, just as a friend. I was and still am deeply hurt by this, When I told her I had read her mail she was mad as hell, and then said it was all a joke, these emails were about 20 emails talking about this gift. one even to the details, and that if it was going to happen, it needed to happen the week he returned. Now I go back to the day that I tasted what was on her breath. I had to get his command envoulved to stop the for talking anymore. but did not get him in trouble, because it would have hurt my wofe as well. Now it has been seven months and I still can not get this out of my mind. What do I do?