girl help: If you look in the mirror allot does that mean your always based on what u look like? - Help.com

Do you read newspapers? Books? Do you talk to people about what’s going on in the world? Don’t worry so much about what you are doing wrong. Concentrate on what you could be doing to have a more meaningful life.

As far as what you may gain by spending a lot of time looking in the mirror, we think you time could be better spent by being that nice person (now that impresses us, not what you look like) and sharing your niceness with others. It is good to develop good personal hygiene and good taste in clothing and appearance and once you know you have for that day spend your time in a more worth while way. As far as being scared when people yell at you, who is yelling at you?

I would say it’s neither good nor bad. It’s normal. You’re exactly where most 13 yr olds are. Wondering not only WHERE they fit into the world, but IF they’ll fit into the world.

Natalie, you are only 13 and are just beginning to entertain the concept of growing up and becoming independent. It can be scarey at first because you were used to every one doing every thing for you and now these same people are beginning to expect that you assume some responsibility for yourself. This is a tough transition in life and cannot be accomplished overnite. As far as your friends and boyfriends and classmates, they are as young and scared as you are. Don’t become paralyzed in fear or insecurity because it would only make the process much more difficult. You have your whole life ahead of you and believe it not, it does get better. Try not to hold yourself up to other peoples expectations, especially when they are imaginary expectations. Focus on becoming the best Natalie that you can be, according to your standards, and you will live a much happier, more productive life. What do you think?

You are one of the lucky ones that is learning early in life how to earn everything for themselves. These kids you describe will come of age and be totally lost when they don’t find a line of people at there door waiting to fulfill their every need. They will have a very tough journey ahead. You on the other hand will already possess that knowledge and experience doing it for yourself. Can you understand this yet? There is no basis of comparison between you or anyone else because there is only one Natalie on the planet. You would need to find another one in order to compare yourself and we guarantee that you never will so just relax and live your lifetime. The sooner you attract boys into your life the sooner you end up hurt because you and him are too immature to conduct a healthy relationship yet so relax.

Don’t compare yourself with others as this leads to insecurites. As looking at yourself in the mirror, do you feel worthy? Do you feel valuable? That is a question to ask yourself. Because yes you are worthy and valuable God made you in His image. You are a diamond a beautiful diamond with so much to offer the world. It is the heart that matters not the clothes you wear or the makeup you put on or how popular you are. You are a beautiful girl. God wants you to know that He loves your heart. As for your parents not liking you. I am sure they love you but they don’t know how to show it. Hurting people hurt people. Just keep being sweet and kind.

God Bless
Jen