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I’ve been seeing a boy for a few months now. We aren’t exactly officially dating(for my own reasons) but we like each other a lot. I spend the night at his place often. We don’t have sex but we do other things.I want to put in as much detail as I can to get a helpful answer, so sorry if this is graphic. He has fingered me and has gone done on me. I haven’t given him any type of oral or even touched him “down there”.Can I continue to let him go down on me/finger me without giving him a blow job? Is that selfish of me? He’s a few years older than me and has a lot of sexual experience. I’m a virgin and the most sexual experience i have had is with him. He doesn’t know I’m a virgin and I’m embarrassed to tell him now because a long time ago I told him I wasn’t and I can’t tell him I lied now. I want to dress up for him and look sexy, but if I wear lingerie does that mean he’ll think I want to have sex? He knows I’m not ready for sex, but he doesn’t know it’s because I’m a virgin. Can I wear lingerie without him thinking I want to have sex? We have great sexual chemistry and I know sex would be great with him, but I’m just not ready. Again, sorry if this is too personal/graphic. I could really use some advice, especially from a males perspective.
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