Love help: My live in boyfriend plays games on his lap top, alot. - Help.com

Leave this immature prick and get yourself a real man, not just for that ;)

My fiance is a mild gaming addict (he plays WoW and PS2 games a few times a week but not every day). I still find it hard to be ignored in favour of his online friends, especially when they have to “raid” for like 3-4 hours in one night. What’s the point of having a relationship if you can’t put away the computer in order to pay attention to your spouse/kids? Might as well live by yourself.
-Fed up already-

my guy is like that too. But he is really bad. He doesnt even like me any more. All he does is play diablo on the computer. Its going on 3 days straight now.

My boyfriend turns into a completely different person when he is playing games. He seems to no longer have feelings and does not pay attention to anything else, even if it is important. Who would have thought (when video games first came out), that committed men would play so much that relationships would suffer?

Acctually thats kind of sad that you people wont even let your boyfriend play a video game….heres a thought would you rather have him out doing things behind your back..get real immaturity stems from you not finding your own things to do with yourself so your man can have some of his own free time..guys like games thats the way it is period!

try not to talk ot him when he is playing his game and carefully approach him and say your upset and that=s how you gets stuff going

i have the same problem. Like right now, hes playing a game. that Halo 3 game. I would say, maybe you should try and play with him, lol but i tried that and eventually he just went back to single player without even asking if i still wanted to play or not. THe best advice i can give you, get a hobby an amazing hobby and do that instead. And if it happens to be something youre doing when HE wants to hang out, so be it. If he has a problem. just remind him, NICELY of the times he chose gaming over you. Im sure he’ll understand. If not hes a douche. A hypocritical douche.

I think it’s kind of hard having a boyfriend in a long-distance relationship who all of a sudden, changes from the sweetheart I knew for such a long time.. now he is either at work (understandable) or doing game stuff.. and to think we both used to game online together too!! But now he’s an addict to Halo 3 and I don’t have the system for it.. so yeah.. we were planning to move in together next year.. but i’m starting to wonder if this is how it’s going to be irl too =[ I don’t know anymore.. i’ve had my share of game-addicted bfs and I thought he was not one of them! I’m leaving my home of over 20 yrs to live with him.. =/ I’m seriously reconsidering. I’m leaving a lot for him. But yeah.. I think i’ve made my point.

i agree all my my boyfriend does is play video games.first he bought the big screen then the x-box with suround sound.now he lives for games we have major fights about this im learning to hate him an feel very resentful anytime he even goes to turn the thing on.he use to be very attentive an loving,ha ha that dream dosent last forever.

I am going through the same exact thing. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. Now I have to go to bed alone every night because I can’t stay up until 3:00 a.m. like he does.I’m sick of having to wait for a “saving point” to ask him what he wants for dinner or how was his day. Im sick of not being able to vacum or even play with my kids too loudy because he has his Halo 3 headset on and he’s talking to his “online buddies”. I’ve tried getting hobbies and they dont work. I’d rather relex on the couch, pop in a movie and hang out with the guy I fell in love with. Regardless of how many hobbies you may have or other things you can occupy yourself with, It still REALLY hurts when they choose a stupid game over you. My man has even turned down “dirty laundry” just to get his gaming score up a few points.The characters in the games aren’t real. And whats worse is when they want you to dress, act, or talk like some of the female characters in the games just to get a rise.Thats just uncalled for. It really makes a girl feel unwanted and unloved here. I think it’s the fact that men can control every single move of everythig at the push of a button. And when it comes to us of course they have no control cuz..well..we’re women! But there is a fine line between playing a game and LIVING the game and most guys today are literally jumping rope with that line. I may not have “anime-like womenly” features but I have a f*****g heart with real feelings and I shouldn’t have to push them aside just because my man wants to play a stupid game. I’m sick of crying and being jealous of a stupid game. I think America should ban them or send them all over to Iraq.

True, he’s not out walking the streets and picking up girls but he may as well be!! At least then I can have the house to myself and be able to actually watch the tv in the livingroom instead of alone in my bedroom.

Gamming can be an addiction, but for those of you who’s BF or husband plays a few hours, one night a week, get real. There is nothing wrong with a guy spending a night, or even two nights a week enjoying a hobby(any hobby) that your not a part of. We work hard and deserve a chance to escape. It’s not a comment on how loved you are. If you can’t handle your man enjoying himself for 3 hours without you, guess what. Your too needy. Your hen pecking is only going to drive your man farther away. There is nothing a guy hates more then to be smothered!

My boyfriend of a year and one-half also has this problem. He had a PS2 before I even met him, and this christmas (2007) he got an X-box 360. All he ever does anymore is play violent games like Bioshock and Mass Effect, as well as Halo 3, which seems to be a guy’s paradise for some reason. Since we are currently unable to live with each other, this is very hard on our relationship. At night he’ll call but usually he’ll be playing a game at the same time. It’s frustrating because he’ll put me on the speaker phone and just blab on about the game. It’s annoying. Also, I can barely hear him over all the gaming noises. When I am with him, he’ll want to play them with me. Now, for a girl, I am a pretty good fan of video games, but not violent or sexual ones, like the ones he plays. I hate violent scenes and sex in a video game? it’s not even worth watching because it’s often awkward and badly simulated. However, I dont feel happy about him playing these games at all, regardless of how stupid and unrealistic they are. It’s pathetic but I’m nervous about him playing games with sexual scenes in them because I dont want him to think that’s attractive, because in my opinion, it’s a sad sad thing to be attracted to something that some guy programed into a game. I know he loves me because he treats me well and tells me every day, and he is the most loyal thing ever, I just wish he realized how when he puts a game before me, it hurts. No girl wants to be left behind because of a “super-cool” well programed game with killer graphics. I guess you need to meet them half way, let them play sometimes, but dont let it interfere with your or his life to the point that it destroys you. And if he’s picking games over sex…well…I dont know what to tell you, but that is a real problem. good luck everyone

i’ve been with my fiance for 8yrs now and just recently got engaged. ever since i can remember, he’s been into playing computer games. before we weren’t living together so he would have to make time to come over and spend time with me. and during that time spending time with me was a problem cause it would take time off from his game time. i gave him a hard time about it and that all past. he’s made other excuses then to spend less time over at my parents. now that we live together, he doesn’t need to be away from his game so now he’s on it all the time. it basically consumes his life besides work. seriously on a weekend the first thing he does in the morning is turn on the computer, be on it until i nag, then the last thing he does is turn it off for bed. when he comes home from work we made a deal that he doesn’t go to the pc first. he’s been good at it but after he gives me a hug and a kiss he’s on it again until i nag or until it’s bed time. i feel like i’m competing with a pc game which is rediculous. but it hurts so much when he chooses to be with something else other than me. here we are ready to be married 5months from now and yet the wedding website he said he wanted to create is still not even up and running. all of the planning has been on me. i’m to the point where i fear for my future with him. i don’t want to marry an addict and have to attend to our own developed family myself nor do i want my kids to follow in the same path. i know he loves me but i seriously can’t live like this.

I’m having the same problem with my b/f. I’m not quite sure what I should do. We’ve been dating a year and a half and he’s always distracted with something. If it’s not his computer, which is the biggest distraction, it’s the way he works. He’s also in a band and plays guitar, which isn’t a problem for me. He practices twice a week and sometimes I go and hang out and watch them practice. I enjoy that. I am also understanding about his job, as we did work together a long time ago, so I do know how the place is that he works at. But, I do have a MAJOR problem with the computer and there are times when I’m visiting with him, because we do not live together, THANK GOD, that he’s on that stupid **** computer. And when he’s on it, he is on it for a very long time. Last night, I fell asleep on HIS couch by myself while he was entertaining himself on the computer. I don’t really say much or make any comments about it because I’m not going to turn into a nagging b*tch for him or any other man. I’d rather leave him or whoever I’m with than become a nag hag. If the b/f can’t find the common sense enough to understand that he’s being totally rude and ignoring the sh*t out of his g/f, than to hell with him is the only way I can see a situation like this. And today, I’m at MY own home typing this blog because he’s yet again, at home playing his stupid computer games that are new that he just bought today. I don’t know ladies. I guess it’ll come down to me breaking up with him soon, because I’m becoming very resentful and feeling almost useless to him. Maybe that’s what he wants. But, I’m sure when I give it to him, he’ll wonder what the hell happened and what he did wrong like they all do. Just a matter of finding the right person for us I guess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ya my boyfriend plays all day long while im at work, before i leave for work, and then after i get home. so pretty much no time for me. and then he gets mad when i get angry at him. he didnt even help me move in bc he was “in the middle of a game” wtf is that?! moving all my stuff by myself. i am getting so sick of it. and porno is a HUGE issue too. between porn and video games he doesnt even need me

my boyfriend is addicted to an online game too. We have a baby together and so i have him to kep me busy but when our son is taking a nap o put to bed for the night all my boyfriend wants to do is play his game. He gets mad when i bring it up he gets really mad and says us being in the same room is spending time together. call me old fashioned but last time i checked spending time toghetr wasnt ignoring eachother. It makes me so sad. We cant talk about it even. He’l play from when he wakes up to when he goes to sleep. He as these online friends he talks to also which makes it wose cause he will just sit there with head phones on playing his game talking to his friends. I feel like me being here is just a huge inconvience to him.
The worst part is after two years of being together, having a baby together, and living together I know if I ever asked him to make a choice between me and his game, he would choose his game no problem. I would never choose anything over him and he knows that. If i ever did anything that botherd him this much iwould eaither quit or cut down. He doesnt seem to care though.
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My boyfriend is like that…sometimes I think he’d rather play eve or the matrix rather than be with me…& his family is always giving him **** about it and it ticks him off that they do that so I don’t wanna sound like I’m nagging and agree with them…but I wish I could just day “Hey, me or eve, make your choice.” but love does crazy things to people.

my bf likes games and i like it because it gives me plenty of alone time :) its better than him going out with his bachelor friends and me thinking what kind of a-holes they are and worying about it… him playing games gives me a chance to relax and do my own thing while he’s still home not with his good for nothing friends :)

If your boyfriend is a game addict, I believe that there are only 2 things you can do :
1. Buy your own computer and join him in his gaming. It should be real fun to play computer games together with him.
2. Throw your boyfriend out of your house and wait / search for another boyfriend who does pay attention to you.
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My boyfriend plays WoW most of the day. I mean, I go to school from 9 to 2pm Mon-Thur and he keeps the baby. I appreciate it but come on. There has to be more productive things to do! We go out when we can but I am expecting and sometimes or most of the time I just want to chill with him. His game is more interesting to him. I don’t know what to do because he is starting to tell me things and not doing them. I’m disappointed now. He’s so addicted and this is a serious turn off for me. I don’t like issues like this. I don’t want to have to try to distract myself cause I would just be faking it. I try to talk about it and he doesn’t understand. I don’t know what to do. Now I’m wondering if this is really going to work and I’m thinkin bout just bein by myself if things can’t get better. I miss the beginning days. I love him-what do I say to him?

My bf plays every day, every night, every weekend. I can deal with one or two nights a week, but for him, it’s always on the brain.

My wife plays all they log, sometimes she even not feeding the kids because her favorite games website- http://www.sexgadol.co.il

loll are u kidding me
let him play his games
then wait until he’s horny and wants u .. then tell him to go **** his game
i think he’ll get the drift

My boyfriend is a game addict, he plays about 12 hours a day. He goes out sometimes, but then he just comes right back home and plays more games. I only see him once a week because of school, so this is more of a problem for me. I’ve been dating him for 2 years now and he has always been a gamer. I’ve never had a problem with it because it wasnt as bad as it is now. All the games he plays are mmorpg games, and at first his online friends begged him to let me play too. I was soo excited, we played together for awhile but then him and his friends outleveled me and joined another guild. I got upset because then I was alone but he told me I had to max level and then they’d add me in, so I tried, I didnt get a guild invite =(. This happened twice in two different mmorpgs and he just ended up telling me that he didnt like playing with me because he felt like he had to “babysit”. So I’ve tried to be more involved, it hasnt worked. Also he’s more into his games then ever. He tells me it takes him so long to talk because his games are fullscreen. I’m tired of waiting on him D=! When I complain to him that we are becoming more distant he says he likes playing his games because they make him happy. Its been a week since I last saw him, and we’ve talked for maybe an hour in the last three days. I dont know what else to do. His friends get annoyed with me because I complain, saying that I should be more understanding.. I dont know if I should be more understanding? Or do I have every right to be royally pissed off?
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My boyfriend plays all day and when I ask him to go to the movies with me on Saturday he said he didn’t feel like it so I went to bed angry. The next day I left the house early and when I came back he said we going to the movies today I said no and so he has been playing ALL DAY!

dam dats how yall feel but not all of us do that well i don’t probably cause i;m jm=jaimaican when it past nine is time for love baby and the reason why we go back to single player is because u making us lose and shake that *** sometimes that gets me crazy