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I have a problem here that is just confusing.

Ok so this girl and me have been close friends like best buddies for a while how and our families are tight. Now ya see I sorta gots a thing for her and she has a little for me, but like nothing to have a full blown relationship. So now im like I want her so bad, you know what I mean. We have toyed around with the idea for a while and its wierd. Like I want to but sorta dont want to. Its like i dont just wanna be a friend with benefits. I dont know what to do. I guess im scared. We are both 16 and i no youll are gonna say that its too young, is that why im afraid to go through with it?

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Anonymous #
2 years, 8 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Whatever you do, remember that if something comes of it, and it ends, you may still need to see her with family members. If she brings another guy, stay cool.

If that doesn’t deter you, you should go for it… But… If she changes her mind, handle it in a cool manner, and move on if you have to. It’s better to move on than bump them off. One you’ll get over in time. The other will get you life.

Remember, you are only 16, which means there’s going to be at least a couple dozen more chicks you get serious with in the next 10 years.

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shadow_soul121 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (14 minutes after post)

I’m in kind of the same fix only he’s 21 and i’m 19…We want eachother but we’re afraid of what the effects could be. (Actually he’s more afraid than I am.)And my feelings for him are a lot more than slight. Oh well…the only thing I can sugest is try to wait to see what happens. Perhaps you both may find you like eachother more, or that you really don’t after all.

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DaemonBreed offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
Durham, NC, US | 2 years, 8 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Just use protection!

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Andy :) offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 years, 8 months ago (14 hours, 4 minutes after post)

go for it! if u both like eachother, i don’t see why not. atleast u don’t have to go through the process of asking her if she likes u first. so yes! go for it, and learn from any mistakes that may come your way.

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Anonymous #
2 years, 8 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

We finaly did it. I dont no what to feel tho, i felt great bein with her but wha now? Her parentswere away for the weekend an i waz able to staythere overnght. we were bad atit tho we tihnk. what do i do?

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