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A very real and bizzare dillema Please Help.

Hello, my name is Mark and I live in China. That’s right. I am an American living in China. My dad was sent here by his company, and he gets paid a lot of working here. I go to an American school in China where theres other people like me, and things used to be good.

My conflict with my parents is very very deep. We get into arguments for the slightest things and even though I really wanna change that, nothing ever works. My parents are really mad at me and know that I never listen to them. In turn Im sick of my parents always blaming me and accusing me.

Then one day something happened.

When this example with my family happens, I know that some families send their kids to boot camps. Even more families do nothing and let this problem play out. My parents (warning, this is shocking), sick of years of arguments and conflits, made a decision to punish me by sending me to a *Chinese* *Mental* *Hospital*.

Right now I know this is surprising please be assured, I am perfectly mentally sane. Even more, please be assured that I am not kidding this is real! I dont know what else I can say to make you believe me, but I would really like some help in my position.

In the mental hospital I am kept (imprisoned) to a series of bedrooms and an activity room. There are other very strange patients there. In the hospital they give me this medication that makes my head very foggy and unclear. After I take this I cant think very well and all my mental ability to do stuff like math is slightly marked down. If I refuse the medication the people there tie me to a bed and inject it into me. And that has happened too.

Since I behaved well, after a month at the mental hospital, I was allowed to spend weekends at home. My parents lie to my school and cover up everything so no one knows.

Its been two months since I first entered the mental hospital. I am sick of my parents’ outrageous punishment.

In fact, let me tell you in China you can just go to a mental hospital, pay some money, and they’ll hold someone there. There is no need in China for a doctor’s approval to enter a mental hospital. Effectively, mental hospitals are really just rent-a-jails, except for the drug part, which I BELIVE IS JUST WRONG. I SHOULD HAVE MY OWN FREEDOM ON WEHTHER OR NOT TO TAKE DRUGS. I am 15 years old.

Right now as I am typing this I am on one of my homestays for the weekend. I really need help. I have to get out of my situation before my mind is completely wrecked by the drugs. My parents arent thinking about letting me go soon.

I need to know these things. If someone can help me especially someone with a career in law:

1. As an American Citizen (and Passport Holder) do I have any rights? (I know where the embassy is).

2. How would I excersize these rights?

3. The Chinese way of imprisoning me and forcing me with drugs against my will… thats illegal in the US, … right?

I have thought about this situation for a long time. I finally decided that I have a future still ahead of me (and my grades are really good). I am willing to leave my family (and go to a foster one) if that would allow me to escape this imprisonment.

Please hear my story. I heard about this site and I guess were gonna see if it works.

Mark

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th3grandillusion offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (7 minutes after post)

If your home I would find the phone number and address for the nearest domestic abuse help center and go there, or any similar place.

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quintessential offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 2 years, 11 months ago (29 minutes after post)

Mark is there someone in the States that could start some inquiries for you on your behalf? What your parents are doing to you is VERY WRONG. It’s disgusting.

You need to let somebody in your school know that this kind of abuse is happening. Your parents, as American Citizens, could potentially be breaking the law. Talk to a counsellor, or a teacher, and get their help! Also, if you need to, call the embassy and let them know exactly this: that you are being imprisoned and drugged against your will.

You also need to get right with your parents. I know it’s hard to believe sometimes (or most of the time) but they actually probably do love you. I think you need to get right with them to make any of this work.

Above all, talk to God! I know it seems like there is no god in a situation like this, but he is simply waiting for you to ask for his help. You will find peace, comfort, and so much more with him, man.

Please let anyone here know if there is anything we can do!

James

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Jigoku Shoujo offline Verified User (3 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Dubai, 03, AE | 2 years, 11 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

It really helps if you have someone in the US who can help you get back home, If you are a minor it might be difficult but you can always go the embassy and inform them of your situation.

If you are older than 18 in theory the embassy have to assist you or advise you on how to get back home (i do not know the procedure) Human rights organizations are also able to at least give you advice such as the UNHCR, UNICEF they are both departments for the UN. Non governmental organizations such as Amnesty International and the Red Cross may also have some kind of advice because they deal with human rights too.

It is not easy and you will have a tough time, but try to keep yourself calm and well behaved, never insult your parents, because remember they have put you in a mental institution everyone will doubt you, it is their word and the doctor against you, as long as you remain calm and ask for your rights in a diplomatic manner.

You can also ask the embassy and the human rights organizations if you have the rights to seek treatment in the US or an independent examination to review your medical records. This way you can legally prove your parents are wrong and regain your freedom. Good luck.

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Cajun offline Verified User (3 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 2 years, 11 months ago (6 hours, 4 minutes after post)

get yourself to the american embassy they will help you

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beachgirl offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Atlantic Beach, NC, US | 2 years, 11 months ago (6 hours, 35 minutes after post)

I’m sure your parents are trying to help you not hurt you. They may not have a clear understanding of what the hospital is like. Also If things at home have been rocky and you are a teenager then it could be they feel you are just being rebelious. If you feel you are being wronged go to the embassy. They might not be able to help especially if you are under age. Your avitar and pofile lead me to believe that you are in a typical teenage rebellion and that this too will pass. Obviously you are a strong person with a strong opinion of right and wrong. I am glad to hear that you do not like the fuzzy headed feeling that drugs give you. That means you want to continue the fight to be yourself. By all means please do. (fight to be you) You will only grow through this experience. Try talking to your parents (not yelling)Show them you are mature enough to be heard and your feelings taken into consideration.Any beligerant behavior during this conversation will most probably be held against you so please stay as calm as possible. Best of luck.

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tellingatalltale offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

Email the embassy this post. Keyword: child abuse.

Don’t tell them your name or your parents’ names until you know they can 1. help you and 2. that they believe you.

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Revolutions All offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Shanghai, 23, CN | 2 years, 11 months ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

Thank you everyone for helping me. My situation here is still OK I guess.. I mean there are doctors in the hospital and they arent really holding anything against me; but its common practice for kids in China to be sent to hospitals to subdue their behavior.

I negotiated with my parents, and they say it is alright for me to not go to the hospital anymore. However, they still want me to take the drugs and Im currently talking to them about this. Things arent as bad as I thought.

Thank you everyone! Great people in this community have given me some crucial support, and I appreciate it. Hope to help others also, if only through this site. Theres still hope in the world.

Mark

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everythingisconnecte offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

Sound like your parents might be similiar to my mother. In that case they are the ones who have the problem and they are trying to shine light on you to seem like the ‘normal ones’ and by doing so they will be found out and everyone will know what you went through.

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