how do I begin to trust again after being hurt from
my husband, Im separated from him 4 months now and I fell out of love with him a few months before because he showed me his true colors we married only a yr into dating he was in the military.. now ive recently linked up with my ex bf before him and I think I may be falling for him again we broke up the first time because I didn’t know what I wanted anymore , but he was very much in love with me. but during my marriage I would think of him from time to time the way he use to treat me and how I should’ve appreciated it with the way my husband treated me .. well now hes allowed me to come back into his life despite me hurting him in the past, I really the way he is with me we click perfectly hes amazing like hes always been I was just being stupid immature and i thought I knew it all karma sure bit me in the ***, I just feel like with my hurt from my marriage because my husband was having an affair which evidently became the reason we split up that my insecurities will screw this one up again. I really want to make it work and he really feels like my soulmate (my ex bf) , but hes more confident then I am with me hurting him in the past doesnt get in the way of him loving me again, but me being hurt from my husband sometimes gets in the way of loving him the way I want to only because I don’t want it to happen a second time, cuz I really thought I knew my husband , and this guy I dated 6 months before we broke up but we did live togerther for like a month before it did, I know I should take it slow which I am because that’s my mistake in the past is moving too fast but I cant help being affectionate the way I feel for him when i say hes amazing hes amazing!!…..how do i allow my self to fall and not worry about not falling on my face again. and its too late to pull back now i don’t want him to think im pulling back because ive lost interest again ,we began talking as friends when this all started again and the sparks just started flying and we love to spend any moment we can together…and i feel like i gave the wrong person my all it should’ve been him he deserved it and my husband got it all from me i gave this man all of me and he shitted on it, i still have that in me to give to someone who deserves it but the wound is too fresh, i guess i just figured out the answer to my question, that i have to give myself some time to heal…………? …..
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