First thing you have to do is mentally step back and make up your mind. You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what that is. After you know what you want, decide when you want it. Then figure out how to work that out the best. Check with someone who has an outside perspective but knows you, and then go for it.
my friends all think i should get back with steven…they kno i love him. id love to get back with im but i feel obligated to try giving kevin a chance
Girlfriend you need to stop and think about everyone involved. You are confused and now toying with this other guys emotions. I just hope Kevin doesn’t think he is in love with you. Because you are not just messing up your stuff but what about Kevin, and Steven and anyone else that may get hurt. Love is a lot of things and you sound like a smart person but maybe you need to get right with you. Steven is already fed up with the games but he probaly don’t want to let go either and you might just ruin a good man because of your selfish ways. And this may sound harsh but I was selfish and hurt a lot of people because I couldn’t make up my mind. And in the end I had to work on me before I could commit myself to anyone. I am still working on my selfish ways. Stop worrying about if you will be together or not or comparing him to others because you will run across many and none will be the same. It is you who you must find.
just_jen, thank you. i kno for sure kevin isnt in love, he barely shows that he likes me right now. im retarded bc i feel like i let the love of my life go (steven)and like i have screwed up the friendship too.
I know you hurt because I lost a good love too. But in the end if you come to terms wth yourself then maybe he might come back or you might just decide that everything happens for a reason and move on. I don’t believe in mistakes just learn from your experiences and grow and Steven might see that and come back. True love does not fade it’s just a matter of your many emotions. Good Luck!
i never regret anything also, its all a learning axperience. i dont kno why i feel like he is my only hope, or my one and only. its crazy, but thank you and please help me through this, i need to sort everything out.
-christine
Anytime you need me I will keep a look out. But let me tell you you feel like he is your only hope. You are young and I know years from now you will still have love for him but you will know that life goes on and shouldn’t be revolved around one person. I bet that if you just leave him alone and keep pushing yourself to focus on other things in your life that he will come back and see that you have grown and sometimes thats what it takes. For us to grow up and realize that we have other things important to us. You said you were an athlete right? Well focus on that and graduating and leave the boys alone for a little while and you never know what might pop up in your life.
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I’ve been this situation before. If Steven’s okay with dating other ppl then it’s okay. But if you don’t think your ready you can wait but i wouldn’t take too long though, just think about what you want to do. It’ll get better trust me=)
Take a break for 30 days and don’t date or talk as is the term nowadays. After you have cleared your mind, then and only then pursue your heats desire. Oh and if Steven was your first love you will never forget him and you will also see a little of him in anyone you date or marry. Just take it one day at a time.
well thank you everyone. i realize tht steven is much better for me than kevin and i think i was just fond of kevin for the fact tht he was something different. it wasnt different that i needed though, i needed steven…just didnt discover that till thought he was gone. thank you all again. now, i am waiting a while before i date again and until after prom. only thing bothering me now is steven’s really close girl friends…they are constantly there.
thanks!
much love,
christine
Good, I’m glad you seem to be figuring things out. Keep it up :)
ay im in this situation right NOW =( && idk wat 2 do..i loove cris && i know hes the 1 i want but yet im here with another boy (jt’s) emotions cus hes different && omg u steven && kevin problem is like me cris && justins =(
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I was with Steven for 11years and two kids. We seem to have this love hate relationship with one another. For two years that we have been separated, (which I moved on with someone else)we have done nothing but argue and we are still trying to figure out who it right and who is wrong. I do not know why I can not get him out of my system, why for some reason I still feel attach some way to him. I love this man I am with. He treats me with so much respect and I know that he loves me. I know though that I will never have the same kind of love for him that I had with Steve. My boyfriend is very insecure because he says there is still a bond between us. I have always figured it was the kids. But now I do not know. Why cant I forget about my feelings and the past with this man. Why is he haunting me?
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my name is luke i am in 6 grade theres this girl at my school her name is sadie evereybodys always hanging all over her and always asking her out i like her but i try not to hang all over her so mabe she will notice but the thing is my best friend shane is sadies boyfriend and one day he told me he is going to keep her unti next year and i was planning on waiting until next year to ask her out and i already have a girlfriend thats y i have to wait until next year what if she doesent like me next year then what do i do. p.si like chocolate
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my name is luke i am in 6 grade theres this girl at my school her name is sadie evereybodys always hanging all over her and always asking her out i like her but i try not to hang all over her so mabe she will notice but the thing is my best friend shane is sadies boyfriend and one day he told me he is going to keep her unti next year and i was planning on waiting until next year to ask her out and i already have a girlfriend thats y i have to wait until next year what if she doesent like me next year then what do i do. p.si like chocolate
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sunshine,u dnt love steven.love is jus nt wat we feel n say, love is wat we do.love brings hop, nt pain.ryt nw u hv broken his heart several tymz n brok his trust 4 u,and only becoz u have him on yo fingertips n knwing he’ll turn 2 u wen u nid him,u thnk thats love.ryt now steven nids a break but he has no contrl over e relationship.insted u kol games wen u want 2,bt e mo u do so, u kill him mo inside..
love hurts wen its wrong.sorry if im stbbing u on a wound, bt u gotta let him go..
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