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Im 16 almost 17 and i’m scared of having sex, i’m in a loving relationship and have been for two years now and i feel confortable around him.
I’m just so scared, he really wants to do this and i do too, but i’m too scared, i think its because i’m scared of the pain being a girl and everything. He’s a virgin too, which is why i’m even more scared.
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Yeah, it’ll be awkward. I have heard, that if you’d like to make the first time better you can break your own hymen prior to your first sexual encounter with a guy. Using your own fingers will sometimes work, but if you need a bit deeper penetration, get a vibrator to do the trick.
Additionally, it’s possible you’ve already torn your hymen from sports or something, so it may not even be an issue.
Now, as to the “we’re awkward virgins” part — google! No seriously, there are a lot of great articles on the net about having sex for the first time and how to handle it. Take some time to sneak a peak at these and talk about them with your boy.
Suffice it to say, don’t ruin this experience because you’re afraid to talk about it or be ready for it.
At 16/17, you don’t need to be having sex. You’ll regret it for the rest of your life. The chances of you two staying together and being married is highly unlikely. WHy do you waant to have sex so young?
You have to do what you feel is right. If you do decide to go through with it are you prepared? Physically, mentally and financially. Yes, financially things happen even with the best of planning. Where do you want to be in 5 or even 10 years? I’m not saying you should or shouldn’t, basically what it all boils down to are YOU ready. Only you can decide don’t let an eager boyfriend sway your decision. Only you have to live with your choices no one else.
I have to say this, teens are NOT mentally ready for sex or the consequences.
im 16 and i have with my boyfriend 4 a year on and off but we tried to have sex twicw the first time it was so painful so i made him stop and the 2nd time my mom walked in i was so upset i love him so much he is the one i waan lose it to he has fingerd me and everything….just dont have sex until you know your ready 4 sure cuz u could have alot of emotional pain after you lose your viginity
yeah, i have the same situation. there is no pressure now, but i want to let him know how much i care for him. but i know he wouldnt force me into anything that i wouldnt want, so we can wait. whenever it happens, it happens. you dont plan this kinda thing like u plan a project, when the moment comes and it feels right, it wont be akward. so dont worry about it, it wil only bring u two closer. best of luck!
emotional pain? nah!! the first time for me was a one night stand… and i was slightly intoxicated so i didnt notice the pain… the second and third time it did hurt more, but after that it was fine… just dont be anxious or nervous because your body will tense up if you are nervous and it will hurt more. try the spoon position for the first time, this lets you regulate how far he goes in… other than that, good luck! it will get better with each time!
ii am soo scared me and my boyfriend have been waighting for a while to have sex he is not a vergin but i am i am soo scared about the pain and the blood i dnt want him to think i am tyt i dno what to doo :’( x
I have had sex once. I was 16 and it was on the night of my first date with a guy. We have had our friendship for awhile and when we went out that night i didn’t expect anything more than the movies. I’ll never completly be over that night bc it happened all so fast. It hurt so bad that I wanted to cry my eyes out, I even made him stop. When I got home and saw the blood I was scared, no one ever had “the real talk” with me. After that night he didnt talk to me for a few months, I just thought he was mad at me. But it’s been over a year now, I’m 17 and I want to have sex again but im scared to. I don’t know what to do or how to be or anything. Emotionally Im not ready and I don’t know how to become ready. So, from first hand experience, WAIT!!! You think your ready at the moment because everything seems so “perfect” and then your left with the after effects that stay with you forever.
no matter how long you’ve been with someone has no dominance over if you should have sex or not. i dated a guy for three years. i didnt loose my virginity until i was 23! and i was married to that guy, its not that much of a deal to have sex. its not gonna make you cool because you slept with a guy, it just means that you slept with him. and nothing else. it doesnt mean you love him it doesnt mean youre in love with him. my advise is to wait till youre married because if the unexpected happend and youre left with a baby, no matter how much you think that guy loves you, more than likely he’s gonna bail on you and leave you with a kid. im not saying thats true about all guys though. its just mmost of them, so please, just wait!
**** i no what yall talk about im 19 and still dont no what to do someone tell befor my boyfriend break up with me we being go out for 3 years and we still have not did it he said i got 1week to think about it so tell me
i am 13 i was recently at at disco and me and dis guy were making out then we went to the bathroom and we had sex now i am pregnant:( im really scared and need some advise x
really xxvickix? do u even know what those x’s mean? if ur gonna write that for the world to see at least get rid of the x’s. Some of us acteuly live by the x its something we just scribble on our hands when we go to hardcore concerts, its something we earn by staying away from the things everyone else gives into!
Im a 16 year old, im a guy, every girl in the school wants to have sex with me but im scared and dont feel comfortable around people, i dont even talk to some of the girls that wanna do it with me. I’ve gotten close to this one girl and she has already had sex, and she wanted to date me but i wasnt ready for anything yet. My friends and alot of people are talking behind my back saying that im scared, and i feel weird about it. I feel like im not normal,but i feel like im gettin pressured into something im not willing to do.
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