friends help: My mother will cease to recieve child support from my mother when I turn eighteen in less than a month. - Help.com

if you have a steady income just give your mom some of the money and sort something out, surely shell let you do that also just help out around the house a little and buy food with the rest of the money at least till you’ve finished college.

Try talking to your mom and convince her that you should wait till the end of high school. Use your money(if you want to) to help you mother. Try to do these things when you get a chance. i hope you end up okay.

I’m surprised that the court system would allow the absentee parent to quit paying child support if you haven’t completed high school before you turn 18. Is staying with the absentee parent an option? If not, once again, offer to help your mom with expenses. She might be willing if she is looking at a cut in income.

just a thought here but if she won’t let you stay then perhaps the Ymca or the ywca ? I don’t think the courts would like her to kick you out before you go off to college either… try as a last resort to talk to her and if no luck take her to court… that is in humane….

Talking to your mom is a good idea. If she keeps up the attitude problem though, I would have a talk with the counselors at your high school. Many high schools have programs that are associated with the Becca Bill and the McKinney Vento Act that require the school to provide housing for homeless students. I know that the district I work for will pay for student to live in a hotel and provide transportation to and from school for any student who finds themself homeless.

boy me kids thought I was terrible when I paid for everything but their clothes that they wanted like designer kind and such… they had it so good….. good luck to you though…hope it all works out ok…

Do you go to church? Maybe they could help you find accommodations until you
go to college. I thought parents had to keep paying child support until you
were done with schooling (High School and College).

from my understanding she cant do that, the child support will continue comming if you are in college, from my experience you will get child support until you are 18 OR FINISH college

OK, this probably won’t help but while I don’t agree with what she is doing, since my mom has always had an open door policy for all of us kids when ever we need a place to live.. I would try the Y… they rent rooms to women on various terms,, nightly, weekly and I think monthly… if they no longer then perhaps they could give you some suggestions… as to whether she can still receive child support while you are in college is depending on her divorce or support decree… if she still receives support and you are not in the house.. then someone needs to file charges on her as that is fraud… she can not get support for you if you don’t live there unless he is way behind and owes back…don’t give up hope… if you should find a place and possibly need help with rent monies try modestneeds dot org..join and go from there… good luck to you…

i find this story very interesting. i’m a non-custodial father. i’ve paying child support for years. i’m just now going into arrears on my daughter due to a recent layoff. i’m not too worried about the financial impact it will have on the mother. my daughter will be 18 next month and my support obligation expires in june when she graduates high school. at most my arrears will add up to $3,000 which i can cover with my tax return in a couple of months. the mother makes good money and so does her husband. like i said, i’m not worried about my unpaid support hurting the mother or my daughter. that family has a household income that easily exceeds 6 figures.

i personally don’t see my ex giving my daughter the boot when she turns 18. actually i see the opposite happening. i think my daughter is going to run like hell the day she graduates high school. my daughter doesn’t talk to me and hasn’t talked to me for most of her life. this is one of those PARENT ALIENATION deals you hear about nowadays. just before her 16th birthday i gave my daughter an almost brand new car (2006 nissan sentra SE). it was paid off and i even hopped it up a bit with custom street racer projection headlights and LED tail lights. i even had the car detailed and had NISSAN mechanics go through it with a fine tooth comb to make sure it was in perfect condition inside and out where it was literally no different than what you could expect to find on a used car lot that sells nice used cars. it only had 40k miles on it and was very clean and loaded! this was to be my daughter’s first car - a promise kept when i first held her in my arms when she was first born. at the same time i also gave her a top of the line dell notebook computer ($2500) and a brand new verizon cell phone (envy) with unlimited calling, texting, and internet. i never got a call from my daughter on that phone. the computer she leaves on the grass the first time i see her with it since i had it delivered directly to her. and the car she never drove. her mom traded it in for a new car for herself 4 months later and then had the nerve to complain that the trade value wasn’t very high.

prior to hooking my daughter up with those tools meant to help mold her and help her learn and build herself my daughter would not talk to me. i had to be a father for her and hook her up given the world is so challenging. nobody ever gave me any of that ****. i knew better than to even ask my dad for those kinds of things. since that time the only contact i’ve had is occasional contact on the phone with the mother and absolutely zero contact with my daughter.

what’s interesting about this story is if my daughter ran into this situation where her mom was to give her the boot i can’t help but to ask the question - would my daughter ever at least give me a call for help?

i’m almost finished with my legal child support requirement for my daughter. i’ve given this child support money without the least bit of acknowledgement for the pain i’ve gone through to provide it. i’ve finished with keeping the promises i made to her when she was a baby in hooking her up with a nice ride and the necessary tools needed to get ahead. i did all of this being hated and resented and treated like trash her entire life. come june i feel as though i don’t owe my daughter jack **** anymore and i’m not giving her a **** thing more until she acknowledges me as her father and starts treating me like it.

oh btw… this is the story of a 2010 dead beat dad!

Well, i can feel your pain but my situation is the opposite… my dad finally contacted me a few years ago after 27 years,, only after the child support kids finally caught up with him and it was pay or jail… he blamed my mom and tried to say that my stepdad he thought had adopted me even though he’d never signed any papers, I was dead even though his sister leaves close to us… he just was pissed he got caught finally… my mom never went after him for all those years but the state wanted her to when she went on welfare while in school… long story short he showed up one day and made promises and kept in contact for around 6 months or more now he pays the 65 dollars he owes monthly and still complains whenever he talks to my mom but she tells him to offer her a pay off and be done.. no go there… any cars or boom boxes or computers I’ve ever gotten my mom worked and got for me,,., dad remarried and had 2 natural kids and the woman he married had 5 so I know there is little room in his life for me and that family comes first and always.., but I also know who has always been there for me my mom… sometimes you don’t think your kids see the truth but once they get out in the real world we do see it only if she wants to really open her eyes… I feel bad that she can’t get her head out of the clouds now to see who is really trying to be the good parent but maybe she’ll need to fall on her face before she does… maybe she will just be spoiled and self centered like she was raised by her mom.,. her loss… she’ll always be the loser… I’m with you on after you payment in june it should be up to her and if she does try and guilt you then tell her the reality of your thoughts and dump it in her lap and tell her the next moves are up to her…good luck and hope 2010 is better… should alot of kids of divorce have a dad as good as you… I sure wouldn’t of minded… i’ll be thinking about your case and hope it gets better…

the sad part of these cases is the poison the custodial parent does an that can last a lifetime…