Love help: i hate the man i live with, i have a baby girl with him we been together almost 8or 9 yrs, but he is so anal , evil,and mean to me and my 2 girls!

ms.bojangles

Durham, NC, US

i hate the man i live with, i have a baby girl with him we been together almost 8or 9 yrs, but he is so anal , evil,and mean to me and my 2 girls!

! he was locked up for 21/2 yrs, after he got out allot things happned allot of drama! we broke and then got back together, i thought he had changed, at first he was nice to me and the girls, but now he so mean to us, the only one he’s good to is our baby who is 7 yrs old!! he will do anything for her, i think he only stays with me cuz of her, every morning he wakes up with a bad attitude i don’t know what he’s so mad about!! he doesn’t beat me! but he ain’t far from maybe!! he is very verbaly abusive, he calls me every name in the book!! and it hurts more than if he would beat me! sometimes i wish he would just slap me! instead of saying them things to me!! i feel really stupid! i’m sure every one who reads this thinks i am too. but i have no place to go! no money to get my own place! i know he doesn’t love me, i’ve known a long time now. i wish i new this before i left my apartment and moved in with him. there are times i wish i could just die!! what do i do!!!
i’m misserable and so are my girls, especialy when they hear him say them things to me, his favorite name is c**t and *****!!! the one that hurts more is when he calls me a fat ***!! i hate him so much now!!! if i had the money to leave i would!!

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Bex 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (11 minutes after post)

You really should do what you can to get out of this situation. Do you have any family or friends you could turn to. It is not healthy for you or your girls. And you don’t want to stay until things get worse. Try and get some help (or try a refuge), you need to get out and start a new life with your children. Good luck to you.

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aeolian mode 1 #
Rocklin, CA, US | 1 year, 5 months ago (53 minutes after post)

I dont want to sound cold but is there anything you are doing to upset him… If not and he is abussing you for no reason..whats the point being with him..Try to move in with family or friends and get a restraining order against him. Give me a shout if you need to talk

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ListeninPost 13 #
Saint Charles, MO, US | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 35 minutes after post)

I agree. You need to leave him for your safety & your children’s safety. If possible,go stay with family or a close friend. Verbal abuse is as bad, if not worse, than physical abuse. Physical scars will heal but hateful mean words stay with you forever especially with the children in a domestic abude situation.

If you have no family or friends who will help you, why not contact a domestic abuse program in your area. They usually have shelters where you can stay & they will work with you to help you out of your situation & to find a job or to get assistance until you can get up on your own 2 feet.

Please be careful & please act & don’t wait. Take care & keep us updated on your progress, ok?

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daqua 0 #
Williamsport, PA, US | 1 year, 5 months ago (6 hours, 45 minutes after post)

i know this may sound stupid. but do you love him? my wife just left me and my 2 boys. she said the same things about me to our friends. she even said i beat her witch i never did. are you being honest with yourself? if you are and you realy feel this way then why dont you do something. i do to church maybe once a decade but you can get help there. good luck. 4844976700

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (6 days, 6 hours after post)

I am much older than you are and the worst times of my life were when I tolerated verbal abuse. It kills your soul and your spirit. I am 60 years old and now ill with an autoimmune disorder caused by the stress of putting up with 2 cruel husbands. GET OUT ASAP! Welfare, living with family, almost anything is better than where you are now. And, don’t find another cruel man, like I did. Get therapy so that you value yourself more and won’t take emotional and verbal abuse ever again. You are teaching your children it is OK to be bullied (or worse, that bullies get what they want) I wish I could help, but at least I will keep you in my prayers. Don’t take the blame yourself…love your kids enough to get out of there. Someone told me (too late) when you put up with that kind of treatment, you are “raising a motherless child(ren)” Good luck

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Knunnery_200 0 #
Troy, MO, US | 1 year, 3 months ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

You need to find out if there is a safe house around you and go to it before things get to bad.

rapsoidy13 0 #
Flushing, NY, US | 10 months ago (7 months, 1 week after post)

rapsoidy13
My God has the whole population of man gone to Hell!
I’m 38 now,But back in 1994 I met a man. Yeah! that;s what I would refer to him
to be then. Everything was nice, he was fun and very sweet.He made me feel like that very moment would last forever.Yeah Right! Now here’s the head banger. I’m married to a man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.Someone needs to gather all those **** fairy tail books and burn them into dust. I gave this man two beautiful sons. He hardly knew we existed.I started feeling maybe it’s that he wanted a girl, wrong again! That MF just didn’t want to be tied down. So every night like clock work he had some excuse why he had to go out. Man this **** went on for 6 years. Then it got to the point where he was going away for weekends. Get this! one night I took a nice hot bubble bath you no how we women do our thang when we want when we want the love muscle. Baby when I came to him all sweet and sexy! This MF looked at me and said Ohhh! babe I will be right back ,I just need to give something to a friend of mine. Yeah right!! So now back to this man I met. Ladies a word to the wise don’t ever go out with a man older in years I mean yearssss. They like to play trick Daddy not sugar Daddy if you can understand what I mean.Chill there’s more! we went out to some nice places. All that romantic stuff my husband had totally forgotten about.I was making love on a regular now you feel me! I just knew he was the one I needed in my life. Yeah Right!!!! Had my mind spinning all around. My husband still with his head in the clouds doing his own thang still didn’t have me to study.How important was I as a wife and mother of his sons, not very.I would rather have had a slap once in a while to just feel his hands on me.Now you tell me 24 years old and he’s not looking for some. Yeah Right!!!!! Yes I was 24 at the time this took place. Back to Trick Daddy. He was pimpin me like a new Lexus.I really made his arm look lovely.Ladies he promised me the world and the whole universe to go with it. Well let me tell you what I got. Two pain in the *** little boys, back trouble from the birth.
No house with a backyard and swings. He spends no time with his sons. Instead of putting food in the house for them to eat,he buys toys and thats it. The only way I can get something from him for them like money in the hand is if they tell him themselves. Then I have to show proof of what the money was spent on. So on that note I say don’t have children unless you want to. Also for the record I love my children Very Much! I just Hate The men I slept with to have them. Ladies be Wary and savor your CHERRY! Peace

rapsoidy13
 My God has the whole population of man gone to Hell!
I'm 38 now,But back in 1994 I met a man. Yeah! that;s what I would refer to him
to be then. Everything was nice, he was fun and very sweet.He made me feel like that very moment would last forever.Yeah Right! Now here's the head banger. I'm married to a man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.Someone needs to gather all those **** fairy tail books and burn them into dust. I gave this man two beautiful sons. He hardly knew we existed.I started feeling maybe it's that he wanted a girl, wrong again! That MF just didn't want to be tied down. So every night like clock work he had some excuse why he had to go out. Man this **** went on for 6 years. Then it got to the point where he was going away for weekends. Get this! one night I took a nice hot bubble bath you no how we women do our thang when we want when we want the love muscle. Baby when I came to him all sweet and sexy! This MF looked at me and said Ohhh! babe I will be right back ,I just need to give something to a friend of mine. Yeah right!! So now back to this man I met. Ladies a word to the wise don't ever go out with a man older in years I mean yearssss. They like to play trick Daddy not sugar Daddy if you can understand what I mean.Chill there's more! we went out to some nice places. All that romantic stuff my husband had totally forgotten about.I was making love on a regular now you feel me! I just knew he was the one I needed in my life. Yeah Right!!!! Had my mind spinning all around. My husband still with his head in the clouds doing his own thang still didn't have me to study.How important was I as a wife and mother of his sons, not very.I would rather have had a slap once in a while to just feel his hands on me.Now you tell me 24 years old and he's not looking for some. Yeah Right!!!!! Yes I was 24 at the time this took place. Back to Trick Daddy. He was pimpin me like a new Lexus.I really made his arm look lovely.Ladies he promised me the world and the whole universe to go with it. Well let me tell you what I got. Two pain in the *** little boys, back trouble from the birth.
No house with a backyard and swings. He spends no time with his sons. Instead of putting food in the house for them to eat,he buys toys and thats it. The only way I can get something from him for them like money in the hand is if they tell him themselves. Then I have to show proof of what the money was spent on. So on that note I say don't have children unless you want to. Also for the record I love my children Very Much! I just Hate The men I slept with to have them. Ladies be Wary and savor your CHERRY! Peace

rapsoidy13 0 #
Flushing, NY, US | 10 months ago (7 months, 1 week after post)

rapsoidy13 Yes I’m back
I know first hand on how it feels to be abused by a man. My Ex husband called me a female dog so much I felt I should just change my name. He always yells and screams, always curses at me. He tries to intimidate me. Even though we are not together any more, he still does the same **** like before. It just tells me that Imade the right choice to leave him.

la_mro #
US | 6 months, 1 week ago (10 months, 3 weeks after post)

Stay out of his way as muc as you can and get your money together. Get an account and put whatever you get into that. Do whatever you got to until you can leave. Don’t feel sorry for yourself, it will only make you feel worse and be worse on the kids. Keep your head up, have this goal of getting out in mind and when you got enough - leave! While you’re there, avoid him and don’t say anything back. Let the kids understand that it is him that is being mean. They know what he is and will be happy once ur gone. Look to the future!

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