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that is a bloody hard situation to be in…. i dont know how you could go about getiin an adult to come off drugs so talk to someone about that. talk to her and explain how much pain shes cauising .
actually its too hard to have a proper conversation with a smackhead(heroin) as ive tried.
theres gotta be a specialist who can help you understand the way she thinks then u might be able to reason with her
That is a hard thing to reply to.If she is a drug addict then you have to find something to help her quit or keep her mind off of it because if she doesn’t quit then something is going to happen to her.
My family is in the same situation. She is a addict and the only way she will get better is if she chooses to. Then after that she will need alot of postive support to help her while she is in recovery. Drug addicts don’t usually intend to be what they are, they wouldn’t pick this life style if they knew it would ruin there lives and hurt the people they love the most. Unfortunatly, this is exactly what happens. Your family and your sister must reach out to people that are able to help with drug addiction because she can not do it alone.
tazzle she called my mom something that made her say she’d never help my sister again, we gave her many chances and she had 4 years to get her life together. And she doesn’t seem to care about what she’s doing, this sucks=(
try to talk to her- does she want to quit drugs? Try and persuade her to go to a specialist or maybe your doctor or local hospital could give you some advice.
BKH I know that it sucks and its hard to live with the fact that your sister doesn’t care about anything but the drugs. But I hope you do realize that drug addiction is a disease and when you have this disease it takes away every rational thought and your thinking patern completly changes. You can only offer so much to an addict and hope they except your help. Your mother is hurting and has every right to be mad but I hope she realizes that its a disease. Your sister has to make the choice to stay away from drugs and to get help.In the mean time the family should reach out for help to cope with their own pain.
some bloke on the telly whos brother was addicted to smack but now is clean keeps saying you gotta wait untill theyve reached rock bottom because only then do they want to change. but how do you get that to happen?i dont know
if you give her anymoney then stop
I have a sister in a very similar situation.She lost all four of her children.Your family needs to stop helping her.She needs to learn to take responsibility for her own actions.Untill she wants to help herself you will not be able to help her and she will wind up using you.
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I want to talk to her but she won’t listen to me. She’s been through rehab twice and she always screws it up. She not even my sister she’s my cousin, my mom adopted her cause her parents couldn’t, she blames my mom for everything that going on with her and thinks she didn’t mean anything to her parents. She hit rock bottom 4 years ago when she lost her kid, and his dad’s in jail and she considers his family her family who couldn’t give a crap about what happens to her.
I have just come home from attending my sisters sentencing in court. Not even a half an hour ago the judge sentenced her to 3 months jail and 24 months probation. Her conditions are to not take drugs or alcohol and a few other things. The only thing I can suggest your family do is pray for her. This is not you or your mothers fault. Your sister has alot of anger inside and needs to address it. You cannot make her do anything. It is a very sad situation for you, her child and your mother and also your sister.
I kno but it’s so hard not to, my mom said she’d adopt him when he was five, and he’s four my sister can’t get her life together before then=(
In Oct.’04 my husband of(then 15yrs.) lost 4 close friends in 1 car wreck.He couldn’t deal with it and turned to meth to cover the pain.By Jan.’05 he had been arrested and in Aug.’05 he receieved 20 yrs. because he had a prior felony of habitual traffic offender.Nothing else on his record,ever. He was in jail almost4-5 months before the drugs started to get out of his system and he could start thinking clearer and realizing what he had done because he was using so much..Many of his”friends” later told me oh he was doing this here or that there but when it was happening nobody told me.Could we have stopped him…no. Like they say, he had to hit his bottom.Everyones “bottom” is different.Some it take a lot some a little. 25 years ago I was going through bad times with an abusive ex and turned to drugs and pills. I hit my bottom when I was threatened with loosing my children. The best thing you can do for your sister is Tough Love, to not enable them to do what they do. They have to face and suffer the results of their actions. Let her know you still love her no matter what she has done but you will not help her until she is ready to be helped.Take care of the child.He is suffering also.Try to get her to turn to God.He is the ultimate healer.We try to fill the hurt and pain in our lives with drugs and alcohol when it is really the Lord that we need.Without Him in our lives my husband and I would still be lost.Find a book about subjects in the Bible. Send her cards with different verses that relate to things going on.Don’t overwhelm her but sort of spoon feed her at first.If she seems accepting maybe you could start going to church together.Wed. nights are a great starter.Most church have a dinner and small group study that is less intimadating than Sunday service. You’ll be surprized by how many there have gone down the same path.At least give this method a try before discarding the idea.You have nothing to loose by trying.We tried several churches before we found the one that”fit”us and in between we keep reading the Bible,God’s Word,His promises to us. You know I am over half way through it and have yet to find one thing not true.My favorite is Jermiah.29:11. It gets me through to know that no matter what I have done or that has happened God still loves me and He actually has a plan for my life.I may not always see it or it may not be my plan but His is far greater than what I would have done. Peace be with you and your Mom. You have a long road ahead but you are not alone.
thank you tazzle for clearing this up…(Drug addicts don’t usually intend to be what they are, they wouldn’t pick this life style if they knew it would ruin there lives and hurt the people they love the most.)
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