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what kind of dog?
Become a part of some society. Maybe at your university or at work or wherever. It doesn’t matter if that society is lame. Just talk with nice people.
The situation you are in seems really difficult. A few years back , I went through something rather similar. And then I didn’t even have a dog for company. Having to deal with loneliness is one of the hardest things. But the thing is that things can only get better.
I suggest that you join a group or club of some sort. If you have trouble making friends, you have to envisage the kind of support you could get from friends and you have to envision yourself having fun and being happy among people – that will give you enough motivation and courage to make friends.
I would all suggest that you join a social networking site such as myspace or orkut where you can meet people who share your interests.
There are also several online communities that will help you out.
For example if you like poetry, all you have to do is google the words “poetry discussion forums” and you will find sites filled with thousands of people who think like you.
And most importantly, if you believe that God exists – then all you have to do is pray to God – whichever God you believe in and when you hear God responding, you wont feel lonely any more.
So hang in there
You will be just fine
And say hi to the dog from me.
join a social club with other lonley people and ure bound to meet and make new friends
dont feel down. u seem scared because you have no friends or family. i dont mean to be blunt but how are u going to have friends if you dont get out there no one probably knows who you are! i would say either join the gym or get a new job where theres lots of people when you get a new job all the people will notice you and talk to you if you are nice back you will have friends straight away! trust me this will work if you set your mind to it
be happy :-)
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Go join a gym ( get healthy and make friends) or join a book club, there are tone of things you can do to meet people, and since peoples favorite subject is always themselves talk about them, to them and you will make friends in no time
as others have said, join a club or society- you could phone your local recreation centre or an equivalent of one and see if there’s anything on that interests you. if you don’t want to do that straight away you could always see a psychiatrist- they can help you become more confident if that’s your problem.
you have to be willing to interact with people to make and maintain relationships. we are all trying to talk to you, I even asked about your dog, and you won’t talk back. WHY?
I would suggest gettting a therapist
we all as human beings feel at one stage or the other in our lifes this HORRIBLE HORRIBLE feeling of loneliness it is called i guess the unbearable lightness of being …..just always remember that, you are not alone…..there is no such thing anymore …especialy with the internet….you, and all of us have friends everywhere
try and hang on in there iv suffered severe deppression most of my life and have seen the affect suicide can have on loved ones from personel experience it can destroy those close to you please take care
people do care, i don;t know you but i care…remember that in your saddest time.x
hey talk to me if u want i may be of some help??im quiet ill at the moment due to personel issues but im always willing to listen x
I have so many problems that I don’t know how much longer I can go on before I kill myslef. I am only hanging on for my family but I just found out I lost them. I have two therapist and they just don’t understand.
there is no one as lonely as me. I have no friends at all. dden at work everyone goes out for lunch with one another at work and not one person asks me to go with them. I’m so lonely all i DO IS CRY. I guess i MIGHT BE SHY WHEN i FIRST MEET PEOPLE. I have tried call several pyschiatrists and not one has callee me back. I love to go out but have no one to go with. I have a free trip on a cruise for two people for 14 days including airfare and the sad part is I have no one to go with. I have no one to go shopping with or out to dinner .
I actually met a lot of people at my local dog park. I’m married with 2 college aged daughters who I adore. If it wasn’t for them I’d kill myself in a minute. The weird thing is they really don’t know how unhappy I am. I fake it when they are home because I am so proud of them and I don’t want to bring every body down. They have written notes to me saying what a great mother I am. I am a good mother (totally self taught) If they could read the bubble over my head, they’d be shocked. I would never embarrass my daughters by killing myself, but I really hate living, Being dead just sounds like sleeping to me, which sounds good. Theresa
Hi there darling. I’m in the exact same position. I met a guy whom I fell in love with and got deeply involved at a fast rate and we were together for 4 1/2 yrs! He was manipulative, abusive (mentally and physically), possessive, obsessive and he even went to work with me to make sure I was working! Before the bad signs showed, he seemed perfectly notmal and by the time I wanted out, it was too late due to my feelings and due to my being afraid of what he was capable of. He even stabbed my only family that I had left at the time…my dog. Fortunately, he survived! These days, I live with my mother but she’s all I have and my dog. I literally have no friends who call me. No one to confide in! No one AT ALL! I’m so alone some times I feel that I was a mistake to put on Earth. There’s nothing and no one here for me so wtf am I even here? : So don’t worry - you are not alone. There are many people out there like us. I do hope you meet new friends. All the best and Happy New Year!
I am in the same situation. My wife left me to go and sing. Now it’s just me and a dog. I am available on yahoo mail if you need a buddy. I guess many of us are in the same boat.
By the way, I could use some friends.
Im in the same boat..for the longest time i had more friends then i knew what to do with. sometimes i wish i could start over and know what i know now. sometimes i just want to kill myself. sometimes i just want to sit in my room and cry my eyes out. or even sometime i want to just go to jail becuase then i would have an excuse why my life sucked. im 18 i was real heavy into drugs and i would choose my drug friends over my real friends and family. my real friends left me and my family is now torn apart becuase of me. and recently i got a dui last oct and i get my Lience back in april but since then its like everyone has forgotten about me. although i can say i still have some friends and a girl friend (who is miss popular which sucks becuase she has alot of friend and i dont) i feel the pain of all those without friends and family.
Places i meet friends that i have or atleast had. (i hope this helps)
at my job
friends of my friends
i played football with about 20 guys from around here
clubs (i was in law enforcement exploreres)
i got arrest one time and was sent to youth bootcamp (i meet 2 guys from there)
online dating websites
Another thing at helps is my girlfriend, shes very social. ( who the hell knows how i got her) she helped me realize the things in my life that i was doing wrong and help directed me on the right path.
I feel so lonely too a lot of the time in fact I spent around 30 minutes contemplating whether I should post here on this page! I even get scared socially when I talk on the phone how stupid is that? My family don’t like me very much, my siblings have always been better at everything than me, plus I was born handicapped, I can walk, but with some difficulty and cannot run. Everyone is in relationships and they have friends and go out and have fun and go to parties and they all have girlfriends and they’ve lost their virginity and people would care when they die! I always seem to be making excuses for myself, Ive been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome which has made me feel bad because I’ve realised I can never be normal. Please talk to me I feel so alone.
this reminds me of elanor rigby by the beatles lol, the one thing that seriously helps is laughter, i know it sounds kinda silly but you gotta find things to laugh at. Its such a big world and we live such short lives, you gotta go out there and make **** happen. But lonliness sucks…
I am desparately lonely too, split up with partner 7 mths ago, thought it was what i wanted but couldn’t have been more wrong, now it’s just me and my dog. She is gorgeous but it is not the same. All my friends are on summer vacation right now. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life like this. Cloppy
Ditto to all the above. I am so lonely, I hate my job, lack of friends, lack of love. All that self pity/loathing. Many, many worse off people in this stupid world that can find happiness in simple things. But that is all lost when it’s just you, with only yourself for company day-in, day-out. Here’s hoping for change (I’ve been hoping a looong time)!
I feel the same. I have friends however and a family, though I cant relate to them. I just wish someone would see me for who I am. I don’t have any friends who enjoy the one passion i love, which is world issues and human rights. I find it hard as well, as I have been through a lot of bad stuff, but often come out the right way. My advice, dont give up, its cliche but some days will be bloody amazing, others really bad. I truly hope you get better, and please dont feel like you are alone, because you are, there are millions of people just like you and I who feel this way, and obviously we are not alone if other people think it too.
I wish you all the best.
I came here looking for answers. All I see are more lonely people lost as much as me.I wish there were a place for us,somewhere we all could meet.And then none of us would never have to be alone again. But I am alone. I want to sleep and never have to feel this pain that’s eating at my heart making me feel empty inside. I’v asked God to help me please..please help me. But there is no answer..and I am still alone. Seem’s funny that the last word’s I write are left here with stranger’s. I am alone..
i’m so very lonely and want die… but i don’t want my family to br harassed by the cops… can anybody suggest me a way?????????
try being depressed and having no friends in your most important GCSE year. its hard.
Hi there, anyways I’m like you too, so don’t be this much stressed cuz they say “everything is for good” think like that & i wanna make you my friend my name is Joseph, & my e-mail is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> so, write me anytime i will reply & we’ll be best friends ever.
I am 42 female and have had short friendships at my work that never last. I honestly have friends. I worry about getting older and not having friends..for many reasons. I live in Dallas.,it not so easy making true friends here.
Makes me mad that when you talk to ppl, they say.I KNOW JUST HOW YOU FEEL..but…..
Yeah but. But they dont. Sometimes the pain exceeds the ability to cope and ppl commit suicide. I get it. my pain is beyond desciption and NO you dont know how I feel.
Just like many on this blog … I am lonely. My husband died five months ago today and here I am at the holidays. No children, church friends who really have their own lives and two dogs… I would like to disappear into the walls never to emerge and the unfortunate thing is that probably noone would notice. But guess what, even we the lonely have the right to have a life and happiness… no one else is better than we are and more deserving than we are. I agree getting involved, going to church, finding a social group you relate to, volunteer, do charitable work, be a big sister or brother and make a difference. Remember this one thing if nothing else… it is not the love you received that counts it is the love you give… and when you share your love with so many at the end of the day you can look back at your life and say I count, I matter and I made a difference.
Hi our situation is not similar but I feel the same way. I am going to college right now but am so lonely. The friends i had do not talk to me and do not want to be around me. I grew up lonely and poor(a winning combination) which gave me low self esteem. I hate myself and I hate everyone. I’m so angry all the time and i try to deal with it. My family doesnt want to be around me due to my problems. I tried to change my personality to fit in and for people to like me, i wore a fake smile hoping that if i wore it long enough it would become real…it didnt. If i had the courage to commit suicide i would but i dont. The saddest thing is im only 20 and i already am ready to die. The only thing that brings me happiness is sleep, being able to dream keeps be hopeful that one day I can be cared for. Maybe someone will one day want to be my friend and want to be around me. The point I’m making is seeing this forum has made me feel not so alone…knowing other people are like me brings some comfort. If anyone would like to talk with me as fellow ****** up individuals just leave a message on this post ill be checking it regularly as it helps me cope.
It’s all about meeting new people who have the same interests at heart, but I totally understand all of your stroies its hard just to turn up to a pub or a gym on your own & say yeah I came on own, where do we “I mean I sign up”. I think we’ve all just got to keep going on & look towards the future, I had a bad experience in School while doing my GCSEs, failed all subjects including have no friends to spent my last years of school. I still dont have any friends who I go out with on the weekends but I’m a shy guy & I’m ******* proud of that… Extremely. I mean come on I’m a eighteen year-old dude, its just seems that we’ve all got to open up sometime.
I’ve also tried most stuff that a lot of people have listed above, now I’m trying to feel better inside by running each morning, eating healthy & trying to change my mind set each morning.
When I go back to College, I’ll try… No I promise I will open up to more people.
Thanks for reading people, stay safe & enjoy yourself!
Hi my name is Diana. Depression and loneliness is something I can relate to you with. So if you would ever like to chat please instant message me at dddiana.munoz at yahoo messenger.
hi i can relate to you all i am a 39 year old single mother with teenage boys and a adult son i go to church but nobody really truly cares for me there they just put up with me. I have been on my own for 13 years and i am so lonely not for friends as such but for a life partner i have tried dating a couple of times but i have to wait on the lord for my life partner. I know he will be worth waiting for, but the lonlieness is soo hard. It has brought me some comfort to read your stories and know that im not the only one going through this. I lost my brother sadly through suiside which the family and i have never gotton over and we never will so i beg you all not to go there please, cause the pain never goes away. always take one day at a time and remember that your lonliness is only for a season. it wont go on forever. And that you have a friend in jesus that you can talk to about anything and he listens and he cares for you. take care please and god bless you all
about 10 years ago my wife broke my trust and my heart
one yar later she was stoned on meth and acused me of touching my girls
she denide me axecess to my daughters took 3 years of hell to get into court and i won
she was to give me axcess to my daughters she hasent and has moved out of the province
its been 9 years since ive had regular visitashion with them i have no family or friends i havent left my house in months im having a hard time to say the least
my baby girls where everything and whats left of my family name
life sucks hopfully wont have to bare threw this life to much longer as i cant
stand waking up
No one seems to give a **** anymore unless their connection with me benefits them in some way. I find it harder and harder to like people and in turn am very lonely looking for inner strength. My views grow stronger in these feelings and thoughts I have about this issue.
Anyone else feel the same way? If you can help me understand this as I’m not the only one, that is a huge help right there.
I also need friends. I have cats, not a dog. I won’t say anything about eating healthy or being positive or taking deep breaths. I know the pain of knowing that it doesn’t matter whether you live or die.
will….i’d say u go out try to change who u aer make a whole new personality and try to make freinds and at home buy like a computer and enjoy life…..you’ve only got 1 life..Spend it wizly.Go on the computer go on facebook talk with your freinds and youl get some company. If you think this is to complicated and want to stay with ur personality just simply go make freinds at owrk , theirs many suloutions to this proble i just cant think of any . I also suggest joining a social club unless u feel like a nerd doing so. I’m sorry if my answer is shtty cause im only 12 tbh..and tb idk anything else so ye ./
All of this is reall sad, I am depressed too… Mine comes and goes. I have no close friends anymore. But I am happy that I don’t want to die. At least this is a start. You know what, we don’t have to be sad. We have the power to make ourselfs happy. Unplug the computer and get into nature. Thats were the people are, find the tree huggers, there all happy, or help a old person cook a meal, or
go to a place in your neighborhood that you’ve always liked or park or mall or libary or gym or river or dog park, make this your happy place. If you go there day after day and sit-enjoy this area some people will reconize you eventuly and mabey you can bond with someone anyone. If you need someone to talk to you can write me. Sitting at home watching tv or on the computer will make you even sadder than you are right now.
I hope you get better… I’m sorry I don’t have any suggestions to help you, but I can’t say I know exactly how you feel, but I know somewhat how you feel. I’m always lonely, and most of my family hates me. My mother took my dog, and I miss him so. Maybe you could talk to me? Please, don’t kill yourself. I really do need someone who feels like me to talk to. I can’t say I haven’t thought about killing myself-It would be a lie to say I didn’t. Please don’t kill yourself miss.
If you have a computer, why are you so lonely? if you play Runescape, world of warcraft, or wizards 101, you wouldnt have this problem… this is how i met all of my friends and or girlfriends. I have more then done girlfriend on runescape… she is very hot.
hi there lonely is just a part of your life, anyone of us in his world will have to face lonely because no one will live forever this means ours friend family people we knows will leave us a part from this world and we will be lonely after all, is a matter how you manage our loneliness in fact u still have a best friend with u that is the dog u be with and die is not the way we face difficulties we must use your life valueably and meaningful try to go to do some charity work and u will find out there is a lot of people around u need help from u, we live in this world we must have the kindiness heart to help the people that they need help and u will meet more friend out there.You will be not a lone because i am the one will close to u.
Anyone who has a pet has a reason to live. I know it can get lonely, and a pet isn’t the same thing as a person, but in many ways, they’re better. They’re a constant source of unconditional love that will never judge you and will never abandon you. There are people with lots of people in their lives who suffer from abuse and abandoment. Appreciate that dog and reach out and keep trying to reach out and connect with people who need you as much as you need them, and eventually you will be able to create an extended family of your choosing.
i am lonelly and middle age idont work and no friends thers nothing to for older people only pubs which i cannot walk in apub on my own
over 50. born into a broken home and i still feel like i,m struggling to live. can,t remember last time i was happy. been used lied to and abused. i,ve never asked for much out of life. never felt unconditional love. i sometimes really believe, ” could i be from a different world. i see through people. no one can just be themselves around each other. we all are wearing disguises and won,t try and see each other for who we are. technology has taken over our minds and bodies as well. can,t we slow down long enough to see our loneliness. i just want someone i can share similar feelings with in my life. people i come in contact have family and close friends. they have their cliques they belong to. i,m the outsider looking in. for once in my life i want to be with someone who sincerely understands. and we can help each other find the real us. rose
A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.
So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.
The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.
The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.
Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.
What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.
We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!
I asked for Strength………
And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.
I asked for Wisdom………
And God gave me Problems to solve.
I asked for Prosperity………
And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work.
I asked for Courage………
And God gave me Danger to overcome.
I asked for Love………
And God gave me Troubled people to help.
I asked for Favors………
And God gave me Opportunities.
I received nothing I wanted ……..
I received everything I needed!
Trust in God. Always !
I feel like such a loser in my middle school. I’m such a loser and I have absolutly NO friends.I feel so lonely i want to die. No one will help me, and everyone makes me feel like i’m worthless. And I want boys to like me, i need someone to love me but my crush think’s i’m a total loser and i just want to die and move on, becasue the hwole world is aganst me.
I know how you feel. I recently moved to a new and dangerous neighborhood alone. I don’t have a car, no friends and no family. I feel cut off from life with no purpose. I can’t find a job either which is even more rejection.
I wish there could be meaning in my life, a purpose for getting up everyday. I love God, but I need someone in the flesh to talk to and mabey even love. Feel like a lost little girl alone.
I see alot of lonely people on this board and that in itself is comforting, I am not alone in being lonely.
I hope we all find that special someone to help us feel alive again. AMEN
Hi. my name is Fregly age 12 and I am a Mathlete. Everyone at school hates me so I only have my math. Even my family hates me, I have to do everything around the house and they always swear at me! I’m so lonely and my brother goes to Halibery, but my parents hate me so they sent me to Berwick High school. I have nobody. Today I really thought about killing myself but I hesitated when the Knife went near my genitals. please help me! :(
P.S My parents said that they would hurt me alot if I seeked for help so please keep this quite!
This really hurts my heart. I am twelve years old and I have somewhat experienced what you have. I am extremely sorry and hope that you will try to find friends that will love you for who you are. Where is your family? Why aren’t you in contact with them? I think I know how you feel. I think that my whole family hates me. Whenever we are all together in one room, I try to stay invisible. My parents claim to love me, but they are always putting me down and bullying me. My little brother is the favored child, I think. My dad is always so proud of him and not of me. I feel like his expectations of me are blurry to me. I am so confused. My dog is the only one I really truly love. She never gets mad at me and I have NEVER had any reason to be the slightest bit mad at her. You and your dog better stay together for LIFE. Never abandon her and she will protect you from harm. Trust me. I am only twelve but this is what I know. Please do not veer off your path in life. NO thoughts of suicide or ANYTHING. Embrace what you have and make the most of it. Count your blessings. I hope this was useful! It helped me to vent, too, I guess!
I am a ghost and have been for 15 years now. That started when I lost (she used me to get back at her ex, never cared for me) my “wife” child, career, future jobs (disabled from service). No self esteem anymore. Over the years I lost my parents, cat, stepdaughter, a lot of weight, friends (I moved to take care of my dying mom). Having my Ex say really horrible lies to the kids and not being able to counteract that, and having an estranged 17 year old gay son, who I have seen on 2 occasions; all that is what really bothers me. Especially with me over the holiday most of all. I have a couple of degrees (graduate) tall, thin ,and gracious. While I am in a desperation, morbidly lonely (even my pdocs and counselors are too busy for me)state. My fear of the family court system and what women can do unlawfully in family courts and get the wink, while I am admonished; fills with a fear that I cannot figure how to overcome. At 56 I just get older and lose more hope that I will ever see my son, should I crash his graduation this spring? At 56 I am moving into non attachment as the Buddha suggest, maybe I should quite dragging it out, thinking of my son, or if someone else will come my way or I their’s.
Just go kill youself it isn’t worth it
Hello bad badge.
Found your post. I searched for lonely. Feeling lonely puts you in a position to help someone else. Without the loneliness you would not be able to understand the depth of sorrow another has. Sometimes I remember how lonely life is. I go to church and just sit. No one else in the building. If God created me I am sure He appreciates me being there for Him. Your son needs to have the ability to say “I have a dad”. It means something.
I do not believe it really means much to him as I did, but also I think there is a substitute Dad. I do not think you can miss something you never experienced. They Blocked my phones so I cannot even cal the house. It is like pouring Drano on my heart. But I already do those thing you suggest, run people to the p-doc and then the drug store, give money , food to old friend or new who are down and out. You are right those do help. Being, however; both real smart and scared cuts me off from really meeting my other half, but it just another loneliness. The Buddha said the all life is suffering and the only way out was to relinquish attachment; hard to do with people. Eventually I will die and maybe it will be a better thing, until then I just try and help other when I can. It was really sweet of you to take the time to write. A rare and very kinda act.
I really hope your alright. I went through this when my father and brother died and had found it really hard to cope since. Drop me a line if you’d like someone to talk. It seems like you have no one but I found the best thing was to join a local book club. It was an hour a week that lead to so much more and there’s nothing to be afraid of because it’s only reading. And I joined a gym, I found that helped a lot because you learnt to socialise with people (especially if you join a class).
I am 12 years old and have a sleeping dissorder. I find it really hard to sleep. I always feel really lonely. Espeshally at night when my mum is sleeping (I live with just my mum) I just sit alone and cry. I have friends but not many. In the night I text my friends and feel fine but then its gets so late they dont reply any more. I feel my only friends is.. I know this is bad and can make you fat but… food. In the night i sneek downstars and scoff a packet of two of crisps. I dont know what to do, ive tried to get in beside my mother in her bed but she always moans and sighs so i go back to my bed. I feel so lonely and sad. Can anyone help me???
Hey there !
I imagine it must be hard for you sometimes. You are not alone. Everyone here hopes that things will get better for you. Could you try to read a little at night when you can not sleep. I know exercising a little helps me too. Everyone here cares for you.
i am just the same as you - and no one realise how hard it is to get into a group - i have joined a gym, do classes, study at the uni, work with people, am part of a church, do cookery classes, have joined a meditation group and i still go alone - chat there and come home alone - if you get close enough to chat and ask them out for coffee or to talk (men or woman) in a non threatening way - they still say they cant and you left more lonely then before. this has been for 3 years now since i moved to this town. I have even been on dates - talk, laugh, don’t get heavy and never get asked again. you end up wanting to ask them what it is you do wrong. it is soul destroying.
hey there !
please try to keep your head up. sometimes things are not what they seem. people in groups are lonely too. sometimes more lonely than us. your soul is growing and it is painful. try to recognize the pain for what it is. An emotion which is part of being alive. do not give it more credit than it deserves. Smile and be ready for what fate or God ask of you. You have more to offer because of who you have become. You will be asked to use it or it would have never been given to you.
What a load of false advice!
If I can’t help myself out of depression, I am certain that I can’t help you. (wish I could, and hope you are coping) Gee life Sucks and am going to ask pointed questions to the fella upstairs.
Hi there, you are definately not alone. You have actually helped me to feel less alone, so Thank You :) My ex decided he wanted a divorce about 8 yrs ago and, ever since, it seems like I don’t fit in anywhere. I wonder what’s wrong with me. I mean, I know I’m a good person, I care about others and always try to help when I can, but I never seem to get that kind of caring in return… I don’t know why. I think it’s just the way the world is these days, everyone is so self involved. I wish you were here right now, I would love to be your friend, you sound like a really great person. Even if you’re not here, thanks for the post. It’s good to know there really are good, caring human beings out there still,ya know? Okay, take care of yourself… we need you in the world!
hi, i really thought i was the only one wondering feeling so alone and wondering what is the point. my husband left me just as the kids were ready to go off and stat living their own lives, the couple of friends i have kept up with over the have years of giving my life to being a wife and mum cant socialise with me as a now single as their husbands now see me as a threat to their marrige which makes me feel even worse. my parents are both dead, i have nobody, i am sitting here alone, 42yrs old, with a dead end job, no life, and can see no end to this, i can understand why people end it.only my kids that keep me here, i know how hard it is without my mum, who would be here had she not drank herself to death, now i know why she did, she was lonely after my dad died suddenly,now i feel its my turn for not understanding how she felt losing her husband and life as she knew it, things dont always get better
are you lonely too?
I’m sad to see that there are so many other lonely people out there. My wife OD’d on 09/05/09 in an apparent suicide. Since then, it’s been pretty much me and the dog too. I know lot’s of people but don’t have any close friends. I miss my wife and think about joining her but refuse to give up. The thought of waking up to another ground hog day is too much at times. This was one of those days. Does life seem meaningless to others without having anybody to enjoy it with? I feel for everyone who feels this lonely. The more depressed I become the less I participate in life. It’s a vicious circle. I really want to break out of this cycle and meet new people. This is a small attempt. I’m sure things will get better for us all.
Sometimes it does seem hard to understand life. For me I have recently considered doing things a little different to break the pattern of loneliness and sadness. I hope to find new music rather than music which reminds me of the past. I feel that the past is making it hard to move away from my ground hog life. I try to feel that I am part of other peoples lives even complete strangers. For me my current situation is part of the hand I have been dealt. I am trying little things. Hope you have a good night. Bill
I am very lonely and i want to die soon. i dont see amy reason to live in this world i feel left out kind everytime the one whom i love i hurt then and i get hurtings from them, I dont have any dreams and desires to live i have habit of smokin, drinking and taking medicine and syrup which gives me sleep because it gives me relaxation.
No one loves me in this earth no one care about i pray to god let him give my age and lifeline to the person who is needed by loved one and for this country atleast it will be suefull what i will do being alive?Nothing….i am tired of taking pain i am scared of relationship i am scared to trust people i lost confidence in me insult humiliation from the day i born made me stubborn harder then any rocks …………….
Its an sincere request from you readers to suggest me with some dieing medicine i will be looking out for the tablets which brings me death……..
Thanking you all
As you can see, all of us are hoping for a change in our lives.
For me, I keep moving forward. I do not feel it is my decision to stop dreaming of better times.
You mention “harder than rocks”. Me too. That is one of the goals I have set for myself. That is to soften the hard rocks of my personality. It would be enough to know I did that before my end.
The other day I saw something a little weird. I was on a bus and apparently someone training to be a driver was sincerely mimicing every action the bus driver was making in the course of driving the bus route.
At first I thought how ridiculous it was. Later, I thought maybe it was not so weird. Baseball players swing practice swings in the batters box. Maybe you can think of other examples of people getting ready to do what needs to be done.
Since that time, I have found myself practicing talking to people who have either hurt me or people who seem to be way out there.
It helps me to hope about change. Change in the as you say “harder than rock”
Hang in there, your not the only lonely person out there. I wrote my own post yesterday feeling life was pretty meaningless. Note: Somebody took the time to respond to both of our post. My point is there are people that care about your well being and identify with your feelings. For myself I tried to run from my pain with drugs and alcohol. This only amplified my initial depression, isolation and feelings of hopelessness. I’m not trying to imply this is happening to you - it’s my expierence. Now, I’ve been forcing myself to interact with people even when feeling hopeless. Slowly I’m working out of my shell - helping others helps me too. Don’t give up on yourself, life can get better. If we don’t change life won’t either.
You wrote “I’m so lonely I want to die”…. This is a very dark and lonely place to be. I feel I can comment because i’ve been there and it’s scary (for that alone - I’ll send you a hug).
Have you sat back and taken a breath since writing this? The suggestion of suicide here is pretty extreme but yet another I can relate to. Nobody will feel sorry for you in a good way if you top yourself!! What efforts have YOU made to CHANGE your situation? Nobody will rescue you. It’s up to YOU to make the changes required to get out of this funk. It’s tough and hard to hear but the only person who will make the difference here is YOU. Forget council from therapist or your peers unless you really are at the lowest of low points. You need to FEEL your own love of the person your capable of being.
STOP - BREATHE - LOVE. Stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself. Find one thing you like about yourself. doesnt matter how rediculous. You might have nice feet or the ability to walk un aided or simply like how you smell after a shower. point is - it doesnt matter. Breathe in and FEEL something. Stand close to the mirror and look into you own eyes. Feel something. This way you know your alive! Listen to some classical music or instrumental. Not anything with words. Find something and listen to its beauty. Love …. this is where you start to FEEL something for yourself. Love that you know how to enjoy the small joys life has to offer.
No matter how hard it is and no matter how much you’d rather cry… smile… at least once a day, and be genuine about it.
Friends are harder to make in this world than 30 years ago. Life can be challenging! Try one of everything…
Join a club or attend once to see if you like it. Find something to focus on!
Swimming, Dancing, poetry classes, book clubs, running clubs, coffee clubs, shopping clubs…
If you dont have money - do the things that are free - like visiting your local library, taking a walk for at least an hour. Volunteer at a homeless shelter (there is always someone worse off than you)!
Surround yourself with people you admire and respect. Surround yourself with successful people. surround yourself only with reminders of being happy or at least the desire to be.
Only when you can smile at YOU and see the beauty you have to offer the world, and perhaps contribute something back, will things start to change.
Ask yourself this… If you met YOU in the street, what would you suggest to yourself to change in order to feel the love you so desperately crave for yourself, whether it be love from another or love from yourself? Ask yourself… what advice would YOU give YOU.
Good luck xo
As a terminally lonely person - how it sickens me when people recommend - ‘join a club/group/organisation’ - absolute rubbish !! it’s easy to say, how many of you have actually tried this ?
Well I have, on countless occasions - the ‘existing’ members of groups etc., just don’t want to know !! they have their own little cliques/friends and to try to break in is just impossible !! -
It makes you feel worse when you come away from one of these ‘groups’ having been rejected (albeit from offered a cup of tea !)
Come on people,if your face doesn’t fit ………. forget it !)
I have a lot to offer, I am a qualified Graphologist, a Reiki Healer, a Tarot Card Reader, I speak 3 languages, a keen gardener, I spin my own yarn, grow my own vegetables, make my own clothes, am a good cook, both carnivor and vegeterian, I’ve built 3 websites, oh - the list goes on and on ……….. but if people don’t want to know you - stop trying ‘cos you aint gonna win !!
and would you mind telling me how exactly to ’surround yourself with people you admire and respect’ - how about if those people don’t want to be surrounded by you ?
OMG - join clubs ? oh give me abreak ! here speaks someone who has never been in this situation !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
STOP - BREATHE - LOVE????????????? oh give me a break -
get real …… this is 2011
How patronising can you get ?
‘If you met you in the street, what would you suggest to yourself to change in order to feel the love you so desperately crave for yourself’ etc. etc.,
I can’t believ e I’m actually reading such crap !
so, OK, let’s assume I met ‘me’ in the street, do you honestly think any ’suggestion’ would be accepted ?
for ****sake people - stop absorbing this crap from people whohave it all and are condescing enough to dole out advice to those who have nothing!!
First of all - I said in my first statement - I can relate because I’ve been there - and you say I’ve never been in this situation!!! Ok … You think I dong get it! I’m over being a wo is me person but I will share just some of the experiences I’ve personally had. Abused and neglected as a child, treated like I was a leper, moved schools a lot as a kid, called skitz in high school, moved schools again only to be called egor because of my curvature in my spine, called fatty boom sticks as a kid and all through school, suffered with chronic excema all over my body, always given the **** jobs in work because nobody takes me seriously or understands that I ‘have a lot to offer’… The list goes on and on. So have a read of your e-mail and look at how aggressive it is and tell me if you think a stranger who is trying to come from a good place, deserves that venom!! You are clearly a very hurt person. You have been treated badly in life also , but your still a victim! Listen to yourself! Sometime life is crap and sometimes we get defeated, but who’s responsibility is it to make us feel better? It aint always sunshine and roses. Try being born with club arms and not being able to wipe your own *** - then tell me you your life isn’t worth living. Try being disfigured and unwanted - then tell me your life is ****!
A terminally lonely person - I’ll assume that’s self diagnosis! I’ll bet 100 big ones that you choose that status in some way or another.
I am not being patronising at all. I have joined several different social circles and yes - some of them have their clique’s but not all of them are like that. I was referring to love what you have. Love what you have to offer. But its not about I can do this or I can do that - its about feelings. Nobody wants to be rejected and we all want to be loved by more than just ourselves.
Your posts were just screaming with hurts and anger… My goodness… People have really been mean to you haven’t they.
You are not actually taking the words I wrote as constructive but as patronising. So - can’t do anything about that - but you can. Stop being so angry. I get it, I know what its like, I know how it feels because I live it. What I’m saying is this…..
You make the choice everyday to get out of bed, have a shower, go to work or eat breakfast, and go to the toilet and when, and who you speak to… It is a choice! All that we do is a choice. Be angry if you want but it won’t make things better will it.
Surround yourself with you admire and respect - generally you have to figure this one out for youself.
So MULLINDER5D - I don’t think anyone suggestions would be accepted by you because your so angry at what god has given you. You have no idea and your what I call a sleeping soul who can’t see the gift that is before you. I’m sure you have a lot to offer - but what do you offer yourself and what do you offer other people. I’m not talking material things - I’m talking about YOU. what are your core values - do you even know?
At least people try to offer some words of empathy - your just venom… Take a look at your e-mails babe. It’s the person that wrote the original post that all these responses refer to - not you. You want to be angry - do it on someone elses time!
hello there. nothing really to say other than it is good to speak to you all. we all found the same post. we all are hoping for things to get better for all of us. i did pick out one thing i like about myself. i will not tell but i kinda felt good about it before your suggestion but now i try to think of it more often. Lot of good points from everyone. Seems to be a pattern of people being down with a post then doing better when they post latter. i think that is hopeful for anyone who post here. i feel good about being part of this group. Thank you all. Bill from **** Louis Missouri
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My name is love I’m in the Same boat my dad left me in boarding school wen I was 8 yrs old nd my parents r divorced since I lived in a boarding school for so long I didn’t get a chance to know my dad better we always had misunderstanding between us he shouts at me nd make feel like a *** he said u dnt deserve to be my son bt I respect him a lot does everything wt he ask me to do bt still it’s all all in drain…contnue
Continue…..I wanna be an actor bt he wants me to be a dentist still I’m studying BDS for him to be a dentist I forgot mine dreams to fulfill his….bt he doesn’t care Married again nd brought me a stepmom now he doesn’t even calls me I’m living in boarding college he gives me only sufficient amour of money to spend I cannot even fulfill my needs with that money I feel like hell….even in college I dnt had a single friend I’m feeling so lonely I returned to class after 1 month I usually skip classes bcz I dnt feel like going…my life is miserable I have no friends no family support nothing….can u tell me being good makes people lonely…today is my birthday no even a single person wshed me yet not even my parent…..whom else I can expect from…I’m shy coward nd very low self esteem brim not a bad guy…I cries all the time sitting alone that y I’m here WTD the use of living when no one cares about me….I feel like committing suicide sometimes bt step backward thinking that’s things will change someday with new hope everyday bt it never does every day is same as yesterday….
Happy Birthday ! Sounds like you are a very special person. It seems that you are being given some difficult situations to grow with. Someone will be very lucky to have you as a friend. Only someone like you will be able to be there for them. No one else will have the same understanding. Keep up the good work. Try to do something special today for your birthday. If not today, soon. Love U. Bill
Thanx ur the first one to wish me yet…I waited so long for someone to wish me…..not even a single person not even my parents wished me yet…;I am crying so badly I can’t hold my tears back…not even a single person cares about me….I’m 20 yrs old crying like a freaking 12 yr old kid checks my mobile after every sec that dad will call me now now or now maybe bt I keep on waiting his call never came…
Couple of thoughts. For myself, I have come to believe that humans are imperfect. For me, I have begun to accept my hurt as part of the deal. We hurt people and they hurt us. It seems impossible to avoid. Sort of like the fact that we need air to keep breathing. It is hard to understand but maybe we are not meant to understand everything. Just try to not hurt anyone intentionally. Your dad is your dad. He will be your dad forever. He is human and has his share of faults like everyone else. It is hard to imagine that he may be hurting as much as you. Maybe even more.
I am not saying you should forget your pain today but maybe realize the pain is an emotion we all have. Try to remove yourself from it today by replacing it with something. What that something is , only you know. Start an exercise program, clean your room, go for a walk, call someone. When I am waiting for a call from someone who has hurt me sometimes I just call them first. I wish them a happy birhtday even though it is my birthday. I may just get their voicemail. I leave a message in a light way wishing them a happy birthday. Do something different today other than waiting for that call.
I’m living here alone far away from him although he didn’t bother to call me either bt can’t even a dad call or even text his son to just wish him a happy birthday is that wt dad means….I dnt had any friend to talk to so I use Internet whenever feels lonely…nd now I can’t usevit anymore bcz he finds it costly…….is my life cheaper that means…
Hello there ! Hope everything is ok.
Bill / Pambilloffic - your a gem! Would love to xchange e-mails somehow.
Brarsunny00 - your troubled aren’t you. Have you got a job? Have you considered paying for your own internet? Perhaps you need to take the first steps with your father and contact him first. Tell him its your birthday (happy birthday) and tell him you’d like a hug. Its free and it may help. Sometimes we hurt people but we don’t mean to. He may be more troubled than you. Tell him you love him. If you didnt, you wouldn’t be feeling so strongly about him. Life is so precious and we must hold value to whatto our own. We must love ourselves in full in order to receive and be able to give to others. Be strong and look into your heart - you know what’s right and wrong. Be confident in yourself. Keep us posted.
Big hug mate I you’ll be okay.
Hey Everbody ! Thanks Taniameredit ! Love u all a whole lot !
It’s really hard when you cry all the time to get out and do things. At least you have a dog. I’m glad for you because where I live, no animals are allowed. I am private, perhaps like you; and I don’t want to bother others with the situation that caused the loneliness in the first place. It is humiliating in itself with my grief. I have read a lot of blogs and I know people mean well but even now I cry for you, for me, and for those who say things like, “just think happy thoughts” or ” go out and meet people in a group”. Sometimes time is what we need, not people who haven’t been in this situation giving us advise. My heart hurts and I’m sure yours does too. I do take anti-depressants, a family malady, but there is no magic pill that I know of that solves the occurrence of loneliness or being rejected or whatever caused us to feel this way in the first place. Good luck to you. I just wish I could go to sleep and never wake up. It would solve so much.
I am disappointed everyday I do wake up because I have to face another day alone when I thought I was loved and affirmed by someone for so long, who told me daily he loved me until one day, out of the blue, even after saying he loved me that day, that he had an affair and he was in love with someone else and then…..he left. And he won’t even explain why or what happened or why it happened. In fact once he told me he had the affair and was in love with someone else, he left, left my house forever and said he never wanted to see me again. Yes, I am so lonely I hope to pray to die.
The loss of a friend or family (and others in our life) is heart breaking. Up to this very minute, I hope that everyone would return to me. I am beginning to feel that I am not the the same person I was before. My mind tells me I am hoping for something which could never be right for me or the other person. My heart does not understand. It wants my past restored exactly as before they left. I have tried to understand my heart. Why it suffers so. I have found some answers to my questions. But mostly I rely on some greater authority guiding me through the pain. I unquestionably feel more human and more connected with the human race through the pain of loneliness. Even though I wish it to be gone every moment, I never ever want to forget it. It makes me a part of the rest of the human race. It allows me in a small way to understand the plight of children starving in third world countries. It makes me feel the uncertainty of a patient who has been diagnosed with a illness. I feel connected to this earth in a way I never experienced before. The emotion you describe is constantly there. I do not want to call it a gift but somehow it makes me feel more alive than I could ever feel without it. I appreciate the opportunity to open a door for a stranger or smile at someone which was not the case when I was completely absorbed in everything being right with my life. The pain has been there for starting on six years now. I imagine it will be there with my last breath. For me it has not gotten any easier just better. Better because I am able to hold a door open for someone or to smile at them. Not because I am any less lonely than that day they all left. I hope you find some blessed happiness soon. In the short term, Know that you are not alone and that I love you. Not as much as God loves you but it is still something. Hug
I don’t know if you’re familiar with the Bible, but if you know the story of Job, then you have a good idea of the trials, pain and anguish I have experienced in the last four year and can’t escape. If I didn’t have twin adolescent sons living in another state, who I know are my last refuge for love and kindness, I could not go on for another minute. I have the poison pill that all secret agents have on hand in case they were to be captured and tortured. It would be so easy to snuff it if I didn’t keep their pictures thoughout my place. My disabilty aside, the numbing isolation of having to had moved away from my sons and the futile efforts I’ve made to make some kind of human connection in this town have only contibuted to the devastating experiences of my 47th through my 51st year. I am not looking for an answer or a way out as I have exhausted every possible resource out there. I’m just deathly afraid that if I lose sight of my children, I will make a bad choice. My ex-wife is a succubus and has eviscerated me. I raised my sons single handedly and perform every domestic task needed to sustain a decent household. She has let the home turn to squalor, moved my sons into the basement and used my $1700 /month child support payments on luxury automobiles, narcotics, alcohol and anything else to feed her additions. I used my life savings to get custodial parental rights for my boys, but ****. Louis family law is worse than the cammora and cosa nostra. Now I have been laid off with no means of moving and no jobs remotely matching my skill set within a thousand miles. I’m depleted of everything. I used my entire 30 year retirement account and have accumulated insurmountable debt to do the right thing. I am a short drive from homelessness at which point I will take the poison pill because I could not allow my sons to see me in that state. I am on a small rock in the middle of a vast ocean. Who wouldn’t want to check out. Thanks for letting me vent.
Sounds like you are a very special father. I would be proud to be your son as I am sure your boys are. Even though you are not in the same city your boys could travel to you when life swings a 2by4 and smacks them in the back of the head. Consider how many times a day you think of them. The same applies to them. You give them the stability to say to themselves ” I have a dad. I love him. Even if I do not see him today, he is a part of who I am.” Genenorman it is not up to you to decide certain things. It is up to you to realize this for those of us who need you. You made a decision to make an option available to yourself. It is now time for you to make a decision to lose that option. It may be the single most greatest thing you have ever done in your life. Choose to be there for your boys. Whatever comes accept it the best you can. All the glory we seem to give to sport figures and movie stars is nothing and pales to being a father whether your homeless or rich. If your boys saw you homeless I am sure they would be the proudest children you would ever find. They could say ” thats my dad..he stuck it out just for me..nothing else..he is really something…” You are a rock in the middle of a vast ocean…it is time to recognize and accept it. By the way I am the rock next to you and I am really happy to have met you. Try to listen to radio station 99.1 in Saint Louis on the internet for 7 days. You will never be the same. Lastly since you mentioned Job. Job was not for sale. No matter what… you could not buy him off. I suspect you are the same kind of man. My favorite besides Job is Jermiah 29: 11 .. I think that is the verse. google it.. If i gave you the wrong numbers i will correct it later. I love you. Not as much as 2 other guys in a different state.. but it is something. Lose it…Lose that thing now
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just saw your message…… 5 years too late. I’m so sorry you feel like this. I can understand cos i’ve felt like this myself hope things have gotten better for you. Not sure what i’m doing here, just stumbled across yr message. If u ever need to talk leave a message
Your crazy evil desperate person.
Just go kill youself it isn’t worth it
i read most of your posts and sadly enough i am like most of you i feel broken like a piece of me is missing and i will never find it. ive looked high n wide n when i seem like i have found something or someone that i click with i fail, i fail at everything friendships, realtionships and family. i have no one i can confide in,when i do try n talk with friends or whoever i loose them faster then i gain them so i bottle it all up,i tried talking to my mom but she just says happy thoughts and everything will be better, such a load of ******** btw. father is usless point blank told me he dosnt give a **** about my problems at lesat thiers no ******** thier. i try so hard to change and continue to be a nice person but its so hard when all i get in return is crulty. im 25 and it seems like everyone around me still has a highschool mentality. does no one care about anyone but themselves anymore. if i see someones upset or feeling like **** i try n help i try not to judge based on looks or anything like that i base my opionions mostly on how you treat the people around you. when im down which is alot latly i get brushed aside. like that garbage that goes out the next day. i think sometimes that i wouldnt be missed at all if i just disapear sure maybe my brother will be sad but he’ll get over it, hes got a family and his own problems to worry about. suicides on my mind to much and its starting to scare me, i pray for death to come quick and painless, so i can finally be at ease. i know im a stronger person just how many times can someone keep getting up after getting beat down! my head boss just offed himself because of job stress and his with cheating on him but thats hearsay the point is that i dont even feel sad for him im actualy happy for him because hes at peace.im sick of crying of sick of beating myself up im sick of letting people walk all over me when i i should just drop them right where they stand, but violence dosnt solve ****. are some people destined to be alone cause at this point i feel like i am :(
if you have some helpfull insight mariusz86 at live dot ca
Hope you are doing okay
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Hi i know that feeling , I have no family no parents and some of my friends are dead. Im often looking at ways logical and so on where i CAN TALK WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE IN THAT SITUATION OR SOME THING LIKE IT AND ARE LONELY. lONLINES HAS NO TERMS OR CONDISIONS TO IT AS ANY ONE ANY TIME ANY AGE CAN BE LONLEY ALL THEIR LIFES OR BITS OR EVEN JUST AT ONE POINT IN THEIR LIFES there should be a web site bwhere people like us and others can chat become friends,, I badly need a lot of true friends, You can have 100 friends but its not so easy to get many true ones yet some times a few true ones are better than many ngeneral ones can we say?. I wish i could put my email address here but its not maybe a good idea for creal reasons but i think you can contact me through this or even this web site. Please do, If you need some one to talk with then contact me some how
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