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my dad smoked about 40 years ago and now he has emphysema.

he has all the symptoms such as asthma, cronic bronchitus, and his lungs are deteriorating. he has been in and out of the hospital getting sick from god knows what. he is dying and his time is getting near. he just went into the hospital again just yesterday. what can i do to keep my relationship with him and what can i do with him before he dies? i am really really scared. i need help.

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Willtreme offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
La Jolla, CA, US | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Be supportive and by his side support him the whole way, and talk to him and find out all the things hes never told u before.

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candp offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 1 year, 6 months ago (9 minutes after post)

listen to random, Talk to him about everything you can think of. Show him your love and spend as much time as you can with him. While you still can.

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Qzzzz offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

Just be his friend…that is all……a friend is just there when the chips are down…

God Bless…..

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JoJo offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
Fort Collins, CO, US | 1 year, 6 months ago (6 hours, 22 minutes after post)

Visit him when he is in the hospital and talk to him as much as possible.

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visitingneighbo offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (8 hours, 1 minute after post)

I think everyone living in your house need a health check up, maybe it sounds silly to you but read to him from the holy bible and leave with him for him to read while visiting hours are over, and visit him constantly.

Don’t be scared you must understand he is in pain, and he wishes you to be happy,
If he knows your scared that will worry him, don’t worry he is the hospital and the doctors are taking care of him.

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lwpqrsmv. offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

Yes, be with him as often as you can and talk to him. Tell him things you always wanted to say to him or talk to him about things you never shared with him. And especially tell him how much you loved him and how happy you are that God chose him for your dad and that you were chosen to be his daughter.

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none999 offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

Yes, I agree, you must talk to him. Make the best out of every moment you have. Give him the chance to love you and pass himself on to you. Pray with him and comfort him. There is so much you two can share.

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Emeryville, CA, US | 1 year, 5 months ago (4 days, 19 hours after post)

If you don’t know what to say, reading to him helps a lot. Find a good book (Or better yet, bring a Bible!) and bring it next time you go. That way you can interact with him and be with him even when He’s too weak and can’t talk…

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tcarstense offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Emeryville, CA, US | 1 year, 1 month ago (4 months, 4 weeks after post)

How’s your Dad?

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