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How do I grab hold of my life?

I feel like I am unable to focus on school, my job, my dreams. I just got out of a relationship I had been in for a couple years that I never planned on being in that long, I grew to love the person but feel like I must be single now (and they moved out of country). I feel like other people are living their lives and that I am not.

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They are still fixated on me and I am not wanting to get back in that relationship for a long time to never. I didn’t really feel like I was living for a while during the relationship. They said that I was the only thing that they had to live for, but I didn’t feel comfortable with that. They moved back to their home country after they graduated and have been hating it there. I think they are finally starting to do better, but I feel like I am doing worse. I had the break up and was doing alright, got sick, the break up got worse, dog got sick, grandparent got sick, break up finally started to calm down, grandparent died, dog died, and I had to drop two courses, and I haven’t done much homework for my remaining classes during any of this. This all runs the course of about the past seven weeks. I feel like I am increasingly detached from my friends. I live in a southern state in a college town and I don’t listen to any music or watch the movies that most people in my state do. I get along and have friends, but I can’t help but feel like I have to leave this town (where I grew up). But I have loans and my parents said they won’t pay them off unless I graduate, and I am just now liking the classes I have (after five years of school) but I am hating being in place so adverse to my goals. I feel like it is my own fault and that I shouldn’t be so negative and that I should just suck it up and teach myself an instrument…but then I spend too much time online…

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all_seeing_eye30 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 4 months ago (6 minutes after post)

thats because you arent youre sad and need to try and move on not forget about that person but live your life im sure they are trying to too.

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How do I grab hold of my life? I feel like I am unable to focus on school, my job, my dreams. I just got out of a relationship I had been in for a couple years that I never planned on being in that long, I grew to love the person but feel like I must be single now (and they moved out of country). I feel like other people are living their lives and that I am not.

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3 years, 4 months ago (2 hours, 8 minutes after post)

They are still fixated on me and I am not wanting to get back in that relationship for a long time to never. I didn’t really feel like I was living for a while during the relationship. They said that I was the only thing that they had to live for, but I didn’t feel comfortable with that. They moved back to their home country after they graduated and have been hating it there. I think they are finally starting to do better, but I feel like I am doing worse. I had the break up and was doing alright, got sick, the break up got worse, dog got sick, grandparent got sick, break up finally started to calm down, grandparent died, dog died, and I had to drop two courses, and I haven’t done much homework for my remaining classes during any of this. This all runs the course of about the past seven weeks. I feel like I am increasingly detached from my friends. I live in a southern state in a college town and I don’t listen to any music or watch the movies that most people in my state do. I get along and have friends, but I can’t help but feel like I have to leave this town (where I grew up). But I have loans and my parents said they won’t pay them off unless I graduate, and I am just now liking the classes I have (after five years of school) but I am hating being in place so adverse to my goals. I feel like it is my own fault and that I shouldn’t be so negative and that I should just suck it up and teach myself an instrument…but then I spend too much time online…

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 year after post)

my boy friend of 5 years cheated on me 2 years ago.i am going crazy because now the woman has kids by him. i cant help it i need someone to talk to.he made me suffer &i am still suffering.help me

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (1 year after post)

we are still 2-gether

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