friends help: okay, so im just wondered, like…is there something wrong with me? - Help.com

No its not just keep your head up. Be outgoing, talk to girls, take more risk, go to different places, go on a few dates, put your self out there more,try to grab all the attention,don;t be scared to say hi, be original,be sweet and be yourself.OH and get ready to have fun. Any more advice let me know

never too late! go out and say hi.

are you good looking? try a make over , something new make your self approachable, and wanted. Also tell your friends the truth and if they are really your friends they will help you.

Whoa! That sounds like me , to the letter, only 3 years younger. And you should NOT feel bad about being a virgin. I find it quite funny actually, to blurt that out in conversations and see peoples eyebrows arc up and go all speechless. And yeah, I have seen some of my mates become quite self-confident after losing their virginity, but that should not be your goal I think.

A very important thing is to go to places where the CHANCE exists that you could meet a girl. Sitting behind your computer (which I did since birth) does not help. Go out there is the way to go I fear >.<

I do wonder, why do you want a girlfriend? It sounds a bit like you want to “just have one” as if they are a gadget, heh.

well cause he wants one don’[t you?

He says “im thinking, well, i should be…shouldnt i?”..if that’s the incentive then I say don’t bother >.> It’s not a must have collectible-card or something like that.

Hey dont sweat it. This is my advice to you. Its NOT too late at all. That you are seeking advice is a sign that you feel somethings wrong but need some guidance. If you want a girlfriend just go up to whomever it is and ask them their name and if they seem like they’ll talk, ask if they’d like to grab a bite to eat. Usually i would ask if they would like pizza. Most girls dont like eating pizza randomly, because they dont like gaining weight or the extra oil and grease. SO if they eat pizza with you, its a good sign! (unless she’s a cow)

hehe, yeah course i want a girlfriend, but sorry if it came across like you said “just cause its like an accessory or something” - im not even bothered about the sex side of things, i just want someone i can to things about, and share things with, and buy things for. i get about 900 quid a month, i have too money and i wish i could spend it on someone else. but simple things too, this might sound abit stupid, but i really feel like i need some kind of emotional support, or something. like even a cuddle from someone who really cared about me ya know…

I’ll be your girlfiend ;)

listen to Jeb. he’s got all the power to that. :o)

and what…be urself. girls don’t like those who pretend to be someone he isn’t. It may not show for a while but they can detect that anyway.

He’s not really that much bothered about the sex thing. He wants someone to share emotions and experiences with..well mainly anyway.. The main idea is “go get out more”!!

Im in the exact same situation!! sometimes i feel there’s something wrong with me too, but then again i havn’t done anything wrong, im not dog ugly, iv’e talked to lots of girls, been to parties …its definetly an attitude thing, being myself just doesn’t get me anywhere, … again im not desperate for sex but i’d really love to have a girl friend… i never get around to complementing a girl or letting her know i like her, its hard to give advice, i cant help being pretty relaxed about it even though it really bugs me. i hate the fact im a 21yr virgin

I don’t understand how anyone could hate himself for still being virgin when you are in your twenties…

yeah your still young

hey man! just a holla that im the same - 19, virgin, can make friends with women, but nothing else!! ive been told by all my mates, and close female friends that im too nice! they always tell me that women like the chase?! (i dont believe it, im a blunt person, if i like someone i tell them or hide it, and act as if its not there!!) but it seems to have worked for them! aparently if you open doors, give your jacket, give up a seat, it shows weakness?! i mean i can bench alot more than my friends, but always act a gentleman and they have the girls - try being less “eager” like if a girl texts you, when you reply, leave her wanting more.love is a game - dont hate it.

and being a virgin isnt all bad! think of the diseases you arent catching?

and, it shows maturity? like you arent the same as “every other teenager” hormonally charged, and will shag anything! just take your time, be yourself, and play the game.

You guys have got to lighten up, the world we live in today is charged with envious objects, people, lifstyles e.t.c. You and only you make the right or wrong choices, doesnt matter if your shy of have a different take on life.
I’m a firm believer in goal setting. Not just writing crap down and forgetting about it really- explore HOW you are going to work toward and achieve. What I’m getting at is identify, react, take action and follow through, make sure every sat night no matter how you feel you make social plans e.t.c