Feel help: my self esteem is in the toilet - it does not matter what i try - Help.com

*ponder* It doesnt looks like that from your posts, I see a confident woman.

This too shall pass.
I dont know your situation but I once had to break up with a boyfriend in my youngers of course, because although I loved him & he made my heart flutter, he was a cheater & I knew I had to let go cause I couldnt keep living like that.
It will hurt real bad for a while but it will get better, little by little. This is just one of those things that only time can heal.

Heh, My3 thats exactly what I’m about to write.

And its really not your fault. You have to keep that kind of thinking aside, because it could lead to depression. Sad and depression is a different things. The faster you get over it, the faster time will heal your pain.

Gosh I wish I could invite you here, to enjoy some exotic foods :) its anti depressan, Do you like satay?

oh.. now thats serious problem. Whats really happened? What did he do to you that makes you cant forget him? May I know? (its ok if you dont feel like sharing it, but you might want to ask yourself the question to solve the problem)

oh my, maybe you should see somebody. Someone who could help you to let go. you need to do it for your sake. Just get on with your life. There is so much more to life then guys.
This guy I was telling you about. Sometimes I bump to him in like the grocery stor or something. We stop we chat & the whole time I still have butterflies in my stomach. I get so mad myself for that but I cant seem to help it.
But I have found someone else & now have 3 wonderful children & you know what he is still alone.

Welp 2 30 am here. I talk to you again tomorow. Hagn w & skypie

First of all, don’t worry about feeling bad, since that doesn’t make you feel any better. Sometimes we go through Hell to get to Heaven. Second of all, you need to let go of him. If you do that and can be happy without him, you can be happy with him, but no healthy relationship is based on the illusion that you need someone else to have the ability to be happy. Lastly, I’m curious what you mean that he loves you, and what exactly the situation is. Hope this helps.
Kalev

Seriously, just talking about it will help yourself instead of constantly ‘chewing’ on the situation to yourself.

If this week is especially depressing, find a friend and ask her if she wants to go out to the movies, or to eat, or just come over and chat. It’ll probably help lots.

What helps me when I am depressed is going to the Library and picking up a book. It helps take my mind off things, you know? If you don’t like reading, Try getting an audio-book or two.

I love to read (do you like to read?) Here are some of my favorite books (They might seem a mite childish to you, but I garuntee you’ll love them).

Any books by Gordan Korman are hilarious (They’re about boys, but you’ll still love them).

Redwall Series (Might seem hard to read, but VERY engaging and will DEFINATELY take your mind off on a different tangent and give your troubles an at least temporary rest).

Try it out… Does it help?

Librarians always are willing to help you find a good book if you ask. They have a passion for reading or they wouldn’t work there :).

Redwall books are written by Brian Jacques… (sorry)

I remember loving the Redwall series. I got my younger brother hooked, and it is the only thing he’ll read.

Aw,i feel the same way :( i feel the pain :( only time can make things better I hope :(

sorry i dont know how to help,maybe with something else?

Pain is not forever. Memories are forever, but only sometimes pain outweighs the blessings. That will change, there will come a time in your life (gradually) where the pain will begin to fade, and you will begin in earnest the work of healing.

One thing that I have noticed about life is it is always changing. What we have for one day will be gone forever later. You should be greatful that you were able to have the love of your life for that small amount of time. That in itself was a blessing. I too have loved things that are now gone forever, but the problem with loving people is that, well, they are human. Humans tend to move about, never staying in one place, never loving too long. Count your blessings. I’m sure you have them. Then move on to bigger and better things. Life is too short to spent 10 years full of regret and longing for that which you cannot have anymore. Love your life, not his.

move somewhere else. you say its been ten years. do something drastic like move somewhere new. and if hes married now or got another girlfriend do you really want to cause the same pain your feeling to someone else?

Your missing something wretch but its not him. Its your abiltiy to move forward.

Sadness and loneliness can come and go, I have days when I feel sorry for myself and I cry for whatever grievence I have against the world. But I have realized that life is not perfect and things won’t always go my way. You can move forward, but only you can do that. What you need to find is people that care for you and respect you for who you are, and not just on a website either. The real flesh and blood kind, the ones you can smile and say “good morning” to and want to be around.