Love help: ive dated a lot in my life but only one was really serious. - Help.com

Are you seriously planning on marrying somebody you don’t love? Not to be the berrer of bad news but this isn’t the 17th century or some country that has arranged marriages. Sure people did that 200 years ago! But today people should marry because they want kids and stability.

Marriage today is a financial investment. But if you are not going into it with the proper mindset it will only result in disaster. Most marriages today end in divorce. The reason being financial matters.

If you don’t think you are financially stable now, just wait until things don’t work out and you need a divorce.

The government was not original designed to help people. There are plenty of outside organizations that can help, from churches, to outreach programs.

To be honest, I’ve never been able to learn to love somebody, you either love them or you don’t. I’ve had the nicest girls be nice to be, but I had to break it off because I couldn’t love them. I could be married by now, have the house, kids, the whole thing, etc… but it wouldn’t be right. Listen to your heart, and use your ration and reason to make the right choice.

My final thought comes from my fathers advice….the right person is the person you can see yourself sitting on a park bench 40 years from now feeding pidgeons….if you can’t see yourself sitting next to that person 40 years from now.. they aren’t the one for you….

Hello Beautiful Person.
Like every moment in life you have a choice.
You can turn left or you can turn right.
You can go up or you can go down.
Just remember that life and spirit are eternal, and there isn’t any real death.
So with that in mind, there is no such thing as a mistake.
You should play with your choice, and pretend that you are doing one, and then pretend that you are doing the other.
Maybe you just need more time to think things over.
Be GENTLE with yourself, and don’t push yourself too fast. And definetely don’t let anyone else push you too fast.
Look inside and find what speed YOU NEED to move in which to feel cpmpletely comfotable.
Do this for yourself, and you will know what you need.
I suggest that you go and watch the movie “Under The Tuscan Sun” as I think that this movie will help you find meaning in your confusion.
The main character’s dillema is very similar to yours.
Great Movie.
Just remember that life is never Black and White.
You have stated a few singled out choice for yourself to choose from. But maybe none of those choices are right for you.
There are always “unseen” possibilities, and potential, hidden choices.
Have you ever heard the saying “you’ve got to close one door before the other will open”
?
Or a twist on that is…
“How can you enter another room across the hall, when you still have one foot in that room that you are trying to leave…?”
What I’m saying is that you won’t be able to know what is available for you in life if you don’t leave the room that you are in completely.
Its important for humans to ask themselves, “Can I imagine something better?” (but never ask yourself how you will find it…because you can’t know that…)
As long as you know that there is something better…then you shouldn’t settle for anything less.
But you also owe it to your evolving soul to explore your curiosities.
If you want to experience marriage, then it might not matter who you do the experiment with. It could be a neccessary step through your life’s Karma in order to set you up with just the right “experience” for other opportunities later in life; one’s which you won’t be able to fully appreciate without preiously completed life lessons.
So go Full throttle and don’t worry about making mistakes.
Just do what PULLS YOU~!
GO into your desires, and know that YOU WILL COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE better and more evolved. Just make sure to honor your true feelings every step of the way, and stay conscoius of your childhood dreams and visions of the perfect life, and you’ll never go wrong!!!!
Peace Be Unto You My Earth Sibling~