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what can I do? I am a 21 year old girl and like to consider myself just like any other girl. I don’t think of myself as better then anyone, I am very friendly and out-going. I talk to just about anyone.. old, young, girl and guy. People like to say I am very easy to talk to and get along with. I work a job and go to school, yet have no boyfriend. I was engaged but it sadly ended for reasons unknown. My questions isn’t about getting a guy, but so much that guys always say that “I am just too good for them”. I really don’t understand, I don’t consider myself ugly, I am not extremely materialistic, I go to school, work full time and just like to have fun and hang with everyone. Does anyone have any idea’s what could be up? I am really sick of hearing those words. I just want someone who will like me for who I am.

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Mï†z¥-superMODel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I’ve had the same problem in the past, eventually the right guy came along… Good luck to you.

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~.^.~ offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 56 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (44 minutes after post)

I agree with both replies. Be patient. If the guys you meet now don’t appreciate you for who you are then you don’t want to settle for them. The one that is for you will come along & he will look at you & see all the wonderful things that you are. Just don’t settle cuz you want someone.

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cdjanet31 offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (46 minutes after post)

it could be many things that fall into two categories:

1.) he sincerely believes wat he is saying but it uauslly comes with attachments. (i dont believe most men w/ good intentions will give up a good woman if they are interrested in them.)

ex: he maybe feeling guilt over some form of a lie. cheating or impersonating sumthing hes not, or perhaps he has a low self esteem and doesnt feel he is as accomplished you may be.

2.) he is finding the easy way out b/c he is not interrested in you for a and b reasons.

** maybe you are a good girl but lacking something he is looking for.

either way i wish you luck and believe me wen the time is right you will find your special man :-)

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ron_garci offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
San Jose, CA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

I can’t see what the problem is, you look pretty hot to me. In this day and age, you need to be a little more outgoing. In my situation, my wife, who was somewhat of a friend and coworker early on was with someone else for 7 years. They eventually had a falling out and split up, and one day she came up to me and made it pretty obvious that she would like to get to know me better. I was flattered, floored, and pretty much blown away by her approach. She didn’t ask me out for a date, but it was pretty clear that she was interested in me. I asked her out to lunch, we had a great time conversing with each other, then before too long after a blurr of many dates and get togethers we almost unspokingly became boyfriend and girlfriend. A year later, we eloped to Vegas and have been married for 11 years now. My advise to you, if you see someone you like and would like to know more about him, make the first move and direct the flow of things. If this person is interested in you, it will be pretty obvious. And by doing this it doesn’t mean you are promiscuous and just looking for a one night stand. The non-committal question of “what do you like to do in your free time for entertainment” goes a long way for fact finding about the persons likes and also is a good hint at intentions. Most guys would love a woman to be more upfront taking the guess work out of the situation. Also, looking the way that you do, most guys would think you might already be taken. You have to declare otherwise. Ask someone out for coffee, lunch, etc. The worst answer you’ll get is no so who cares. If you showed interest in me and I was available, I’d certainly take you up on the offer without a doubt. Even if you don’t hit it off with a particular person, you might end up with a new friend at the very least. Take a chance, you’re HOT so go for it. Ask the questions you want to ask, don’t be shy. Some lucky guy will love you for it for the rest of your life. You may have to try a few out before you find the right one for you, but that is the adventure! Life is to short to wait around for someone to come your way. Seek and ye shall find!! Go for it girl!! You have nothing to worry about. You’re a HOT babe with intelligence. You can’t go wrong.

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Marietta, GA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (14 hours, 9 minutes after post)

Welcome! If that is your pic you are really pretty.

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