friends help: my guy and i have an agreement, we have set certain restrictions

cdjanet31

my guy and i have an agreement, we have set certain

restrictions as to where we are allowed to go on our guys/girl nites out: clubs, STRIP clubs and places such as these are not allowed, lol, we both agree these are forbidden, strip clubs you can guess why, clubs b/c you go to dance and hes not dancing (the way ppl dance nowadays) with nobody but me and me with him. he can play pool, fat tuesdays which is more like a bar/lounge (theres dancing but more areas to chill and relax) ect… but tonight i broke the rules… i am sitting at home and i let him go to a club to celebrate his friends b-day (i was invited but i didnt want to go). i am not jealous and i feel i can trust him should we throw this rule book out the window or should we still have these boudaries and this is JUST a special occasion???? by the way he came up w/ this.lol. but i agreed :-D

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Hubby & I have always had the same rules. Good for you. No i wouldnt throw out the rule book just from abandoning it from one night. Just let him know you regretted letting him go later & you want to go back to the original plan.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (14 minutes after post)

keeepppp the rule. don’t trust men when it comes to other women. please listen to my advice.

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MSBRIA_0 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (15 minutes after post)

why have such a rule!!!!! if you guys really love each other you should be able to trust him and him you!!!! so what if you go out with your girls, you go home to him and so what if he goes out with his boys, he comes home to you!!!! so whats the big deal??????

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (15 minutes after post)

lol. thanks. i dont regret it though i know he shouldnt be punished becuz i dont want to go. i thought it was a special occassion with it being his friends b-day. but for me its wednesday and im not much of a party person to begin w/.rules stay :-) im just so proud of myself i dont feel jealous or upset i thought it would bug me. RULE BOOK STAYS :-)

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (16 minutes after post)

if you play w/ fire you will get burned…thats why.

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MSBRIA_0 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (19 minutes after post)

i dont agree!!!! cuz i have a perfectly fine relationship!!! sometimes you have to let boys be boys!!!! plus if a man is going to cheat on you he doesnt have to do it at a club!!!! he do it right under your nose!!!!

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MSBRIA_0 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (21 minutes after post)

you have to have some kind of faith in your man!!!!

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (22 minutes after post)

I feel the same way cd. There are a few other reasons i have too like the whole idea of women being treated like meat. I dont want him to be supporting that.

ms dont get mad. i know couples that have the same ideas as you & it works fine for some
No if you respect each other—you avoid temptation.

cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (22 minutes after post)

meanwhile thats true but i will not add flame to any fire. i do trust him and i have faith. read my response earlier

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MSBRIA_0 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (24 minutes after post)

yeah!!!! i guess whatever works for you!!!!!!

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (24 minutes after post)

i agree my sons and so does he. ike i said before he came up w/ the idea and i agreed. we avoid temptation and although it is everywhere its is alot more apparent at a club (where woman/men are on the prowl) and strip clubs let me not go there lol

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (25 minutes after post)

i respect both opinions though. watever works :-)

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MSBRIA_0 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (31 minutes after post)

i go to the strip club with my b/f!!! not cuz i like to wtach other women shake thier a*** but to hang out and drink with friends!!! weird right!!! but its fun!!! cuz we sit there and compare the women!!! who is cute, who has a big butt, why is that one even working in public!!!!! we have a care free relation ship when it comes to things like that!!!! he has never given me a reason to not trust him!!!!!! but everyone is different!!!!!!

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (35 minutes after post)

ja ja well i never said we dont go to places together i said he doesnt go to these specific two places alone. He brings his sand to the beach! :-) i have no prob. us sharing an experience i dont need an explorer and i dont want to be no taxi driver.

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MSBRIA_0 1 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (50 minutes after post)

lol….ok

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Mï†z¥-superMODel 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour after post)

I agree with the rule book and I would keep it in effect and this is why… Even though you love each other, if you put yourselves in situations where cheating is a possibility, there could end up being a problem even if neither of you had that intention. So, by avoiding those places (unless you go together) you decrease the chances of infidelity. My fiance and I have kinda the same rules. It works for us!

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big A 1 #
Sacramento, CA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

i don’t know about the whole going out thing. i was once a “cheater”. not anymore. thank god. i went to clubs with one thing in mind and it wasn’t to see my friend dance

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

ims- i agree 100% besides were all human and we all the potential to make a mistake. so im definetly keeping it :-) . it was hard to even allow fat tues. if u know wat that is but i realize he is a man and needs that manly time and why not he has proven himself to me but im not nieve either thats why i agreed to the rules.

adam- it not an everyday thing. he is w/ our circle of friends :-) i was invited. nothing to hide. he was honest. hhe told me are WE going and i said no im not but you can. he was a little surprised but happy he didnt have to miss his well our friends b-day :-) should i punish him b/c i want to stay home or force myself to go wen i am feeling run down?

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

nah its not an everyday thing just a special buddies b-day. but thanks for your advice :-)

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Mï†z¥-superMODel 3 #
Tullahoma, TN, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Nah he shouldn’t be punished for going. If you didn’t feel like it oh well. He knows you know where he is and you could show up if you wanted to. I don’t think you have to worry about him being up to anything.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

keep the rulebook, but gibe the occasional exception.
if you lie with dogs, you wake up with fleas
so, the more you and him avoid bad situations, the less chance of problems.

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

lol me either. its not like he planned a night at a club w/ his friends. im far from worried.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

still such a smart girl. ha ha. i will write the book, you run for pres.

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cdjanet31 17 #
US | 2 years, 7 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

yeah share the spotlight. maybe i should… the world would be a better place if run by all woman… NOT

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (8 hours, 25 minutes after post)

IMHO, you are filtering the fun out of live… How old are you both?

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