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Im so homesick and i dont know what to do!
Im at univeristy and i hate it. im so lonley here, the people i live with are horrible to me and all i can think about is going home but i cant. Im the first person in my family to go and everyones so proud of me. i know i cant live though others but i really hate it here and if i leave i have no idea what id do.
Im scard that im going to get worse and im going to get depressed.
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try looking up another collage closer to home or somthing and you could try to transfer
thanks, but ive already tried that, this collage is second time lucky or was surposed to be!
oh…. hrm.. well i don’t know then i wouldn’t like to say this but drop out if you keep getting depressed and explain to your family they should understand
thnaks, for your help. im going to go home on the weekend and talk it out, i jsut hate lettting them down.
i don’t think you’ll let them down… you tryed your best
this is your family, they care more about your well being than about you being in college. go home and talk to them
I have moved to this country 4 years ago, I am from Germany. I was home with two little children and my husband would go and travel most of the week. There was nobody I knew, I had no car and we moved to a crappy little town in Michigan. We moved in February and it was cold, lonely and I just hated every minute of it.
I understand how you feel.
A whole year long I would fret, fight and ***** all day long and finally realized that nobody will come and look for me and try to be my friend. I had to go out and tell people that I am around.
My dog rescue helped a lot, because all of the sudden I had to interact with people.
I am sorry that you feel so lonely and trust me I do understand, but in the end there are only two choices for you.
A. You go and make yourself happy. Try to find people you can hang with.
B. You go home. Unfortunately that’s the only choice there is (Well you can stick around there and be unhappy, but you really don’t want to do that - right?)
I hope I was a little helpful…
you have to stay open to the idea that there might be people there that can love and support you. Start by caring for and supporting another person. Listen to someone when you get the chance to connect with someone. If you shut yourself off, and are positive that everyone there sucks, then you’re right. You bring about what you think and feel about. Pray for good people! You could always ask for it, and see if it works. It would show an open mindset. Peace.
FIND NEW FRIENDS ASAP. Get out and meet people ASAP. You make life good or bad, it is up to YOU. There are people out there who are looking for friends also. Get involved in your school.
thnak you all so much.
like alot of you said findign people here for support will help. i have tried and ive got peopel here but i dont fell close to them, not enough to tell them how i feel. everyoen ive met here loves it! Im going to join a society, thats good way to meet people
trying to stay positive and open minded seem to be a good step. Im going to finish off this year i think and go home nad tyr and put it all into perspective.
Thnak you all so much.
How old are you? I was 17 when I enlisted in the Air Force and where do you think they sent me off to? South Dakota for four years with no way out! I wanted to die. I was home sick, around people that drank and smoked and swore. Me being from a Catholic family I saw these things but that wasn’t my lifestyle at all. I couldn’t relate to anyone.
I called home and told my parents if they don’t get me out of here I was going to kill myself. I was that bad off. I really thought I was going to lose it.All the comfort my parents could give me was their love and support. My Mother said that was the first time she saw him cry. When she told me that I felt terrible and so loved at the same time…..I know it sounds weird but to think that he loved me enough that it stirred that emotion in him was touching to me.
I got to thinking that maybe I should have the same belief in myself that they had in me and after I thought it over and “regrouped” I realized that I had made a committment and was determined to see it through nomatter what.
That was many years ago and I know I am a much better person for sticking it out and seeing it through.
Life is shorter than you think.You will be out of there before you know it.Don’t quit on yourself. Adapt and stick it out. Believe me you will be glad you did. Be good to yourself……………Philster.
The him I was refering to was my Father…….Philster
Thank you Philater,
Im just 18. its comforting ot hear other peoples stories, makes me feel a little less alone.
I dont really have any choose wether to stick it out, like you said its about adapting to it and hoping the time flyes. Ive got about 6 weeks of the term left them summer nad exams so i think im jsut going to get my head downa dn work my *** off and try and make the time go fast.
I think another priblem (although this mnay sound strnage) is that ive got such great friends at home. It hard becasue i mis them and there all still at home ill jobs and although they are surportive but they dont really understand. Its hard to think of them at home having a great time when im stuck up here in the middle of nowhere.
My parents are great but they REALLY wouldnt understand if i dropped out. There both stuck in jobs they hate and they’ve sacrifised So much to get em here and i know they wnat me happy, but for them that means gettign a degree and bettering myself.
im just feel lsot at teh moment, i dont feel like me anymore,
You sound confedent in your awnser, well think of me, i am a 11 year old and i have to got to Fifth grade camp in 2 days. I am so freaked out. i don’t even want to go anymore and i am scared ill miss my family.My mom is giving me all these pep’ talks and am still scared. Me and my best friend get to share the same cabin but i am gone for all 5 days and i am soooo freaked. i am gonna not go or maybe “fake” sick so i can go home……..
p.s. i hope u finish college and get ur gegree even if it means getting scared. Ill make a deal with u….if i stay at fifth grade camp u will fifnish the year…..Deal! If u can’t make it through the whole year then drop out, u tryed ur best and at least tryed unlike some other unconfedent people…..
gegree i mean’t degree in what ever ur going to school 4
If anyone can help me on my nevesness please reply i am in dire help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi, I am new to a school, and im living with my grandparents. I really miss my parents because they live in another country. Im going to see them in December, but im really sad and I want to see them, please help me. I m so sad. What should i do?
hey…im an au pair from SA in the USA currently, almost 3 months in, got 9 more to go. i know how u feel. i get really sad sometimes and cry a lot. what i find helps is NOT calling home, i know that sounds strange, but calling home makes me sad when i put the phone down cos i realize that the conversations over and im back to where i was….i just email and i started keeping very busy, joined the library, started excersicing at home, even started going to church to of course pray, and meet new people. i know it hurts…ive cried alot, but dont worry…hang in there..im sure theres other ppl at university just like u that are also counting days till they go home…i know i am (297 so far left)
im a 13 yere old at bording school i miss my mum and familly alot i go home every weekend but i just miss them so much and i am bord to death i need some advice
please reply and help me
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