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Hello, Kelly.
You are not alone, just know that.
And by coming to help.com, you can rest assured that you will now have people who will talk with you and laugh with you.
We all have these kinds of days.
The coolest thing is that there ARE people that we can share it all with.
Right here….right now.
Could you just do one thing for me?
Could you just TRY to smile just a little just for me?
:O)
It is a start….
We are here for you.
Mandy

Oh man, reading your post makes me depressed…I am not making fun of you. I am most likely a little older than you are, I have a family, bills, live on a different continent than all my friends and family…

But here it comes…

A wise man once told me this (my father-in-law): The only person responsible for your happiness in life is you. If you sit around the house and fret, you are the only one getting hurt. The rest of the world keeps spinning whether you are happy or not.

I wish for you that you make yourself happy soon….The awful truth is that it bothers nobody that you sit in your room unhappy and lonely, but yourself.

Good luck to you….Smile

Then don’t do it alone, If your boyfriend is your only escape, then go out with him. Try to meet new people, let’s see… I want you to do something for me… Walk up to someone you think looks interesting and say hi. Be spontaneous, be outgoing. Forget all your troubles for a while and go meet new people. :) believe me, you’ll find friends if you really try. Much love for my fellow dark warrior, be happy, be healthy. LIVE YOUR LIFE!!!

no prob hon…we’re all here to help. :)

The heart of the problem here is acceptance. In my opinion. I used to feel JUST like you. Alone all the time, hopeless, and just plain sad. The thing you have to do is, learn to love yourself. I know how lame it sounds. But it’s true. My hapiness used to rely on a multitude of other people. Until one day I realized the only person I truly have in this world, is myself. And I wasn’t happy with that one person. SO I worked on him, and rebuilt him, and rebuilt my mind. Nobody is going to come to your house to meet you, sorry to say. You have to get out there and present yourself, and give yourself that chance to blossom. “No flower blooms in the dark.” And I appreciate how much you love your boyfriend, but your happiness cannot rely on him. You need to be happy with yourself. Before you can ever be truly happy. And I admit it’s not easy. But it’s very possible. Just start looking more deeply at things, and rather than think about all the shadows and darkness you see, think about the light that is there, to make those shadows. Find beauty in the simplest things. A cool breeze on a warm day, the way the trees sway in the wind. The look on a childs face when their mother play with them. Start small with your positivity, then build on it. Try your best to remember you are never truly alone in this world, and that God is on your side. And you will begin to see the true beauty that is life. ANd if you ever need someone to talk to, shout to me. My door is always open.

Kelly,
I feel alone too. I often look at other people and wonder if they are as happy as they seem. It is difficult to find meaning in life - just look at the newspaper. But I do certain things to help me cope. I have a book I love - The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren (What On Earth Am I Here For?). I keep it by my bed and read different chapters depending on how I feel. It has truly helped me with feeling isolated and alone. Please take a look at it. I promise it will help.
Love.
Susan

Hey.
Im quite a bit younger than you, but one of my friends got a bf rea=cently, and she stopped talking to all of us and only ever spent time with him and then he got ill….
he was off school for like a week ( not too long but…) and although we were pissed off with her, when he was away she came back and apologised for rejecting us. We all wanted to be with her again so all was forgotten. Now she spends time with us AND him. fine balance but it works. Dont wait for your friends to call you- make contact with them- they might not even know your bf is away if you have stopped talking to them…
give it a try.
x

Kelly, I know how you feel. I’ve been there. Actually right now I am there too, only I don’t feel so bad because I have stopped caring if people like me. I just make the effort I can and accept whatever results I get. Anyway, I assume your 19 because you go out drinking? If that is the case then it will not really be long before you go off to college and will meet a whole bunch of new people. In the mean time I suggest try and get involved in things in your community such as volunteering or a tennis club. You will not feel so bad if you get busy, and it will do you good to be out of your house in a social environment.

Hello,Kelly, I know what you mean! I have been living in my room alone for a long time! I know what it is like! I am now getting out and break the spell! You have to want to get out and find things that you like! Break the pattern and take a chance!
Learn to like yourself and the rest will come! Daniel

the feeling of loneliness is your worse enemy.make yourself busy.it does help me with that issue a little bit.just found out about help.com yesterday and instead of going somewhere else alone,i rather typing,laugh at someone joke and help other.it’s not about the problem,but its all about the solution that matters.
sorry,my english is so bad. ;p