life help: i am so unconfident and shy. - Help.com

When we look at life and this massive world we live in it can be so scary sometimes, so overwelming. Youve made it thus far & you will do fine through the rest.
Just believe you are strong, that you have the power to overcome anything. Keep your head high & move forward even when your shaking in your boots.
Remember when you were young & the first time you ever jumped in a pool or road a bike? Your fear then was just as intense as it is now. You will get through just as you always have.

I think all of us harbor a certain level of fear about the future. It doesn’t matter how old you are. If you decide to change careers or return to school or start dating again after a divorce or if you’re 18/21 & just starting out in life or young & having your first date/kiss, etc., people get nervous & scared.

We learn to overcome our shyness and insecurities by venturing out & interacting with others. Not always easy to do, but if you don’t want to spend all your life exactly where you’re at right now, then try to find a little courage to get outside & mingle with people. You don’t have to talk to them but just get used to being around them. Eventually tell a person hello. You will be amazed at how flattered that can make others & how it puts a smile on their face.

Why not join some type of group where you can attend meetings but don’t have to talk. Join a reading group, take walks in the park, volunteer somewhere where you have an interest. Overtime you’ll gain more confidence in yourself & be amazed at what you can do & accomplish. It will help you see all the good qualities you possess & build your self-confidence/self-esteem. But don’t rush it. Just go at your own pace.

Take care.

Everyone learns to love them selves at diffrent times. I aM STILL LEARNING but I don’t think anyone is truly self-assured all the time

If you smile at a stranger, 9 times out of 10 they will smile back. Think how nice it makes you feel if someone smiles at you… Even saying hello to the till clerk whilst paying for groceries helps to build confidence. If you are in a meeting of some sort and you are scared to speak up, make sure you say something within the first couple of minutes, even if it’s something like can you pass the water, even saying something as simple as that breaks the ice and gets your voice heard.
If you keep practicing at something you become better and better at it.
Try not to be scared of life, as no body really truly knows what it entails, but we all have a choice, we can live to survive life or live to love it… which would you prefer? Remember, the future will be what you make it, so please don’t let life pass you by. See your life as a movie, we all have good and bad days, and we should all be the leading ladies in our own movies. It just depends on what kind of movie you want to make your life… If you’re afraid to do something alone, don’t be afraid to ask a friend.
You’ve done a good job coming online and getting your problem off your chest.. There are some lovely people out there that we will not always get a chance to meet, however there advice is sound and you have made the first step to the new confident happy you by at least listening to their advice! Well done