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Sweetydei
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My boyfriend thinks money will solve all our problems.

My boyfriend and I live together and i’ve been trying to get a job and it’s not been going so well. He’s not the only one bringing in money because my parents pay half of everything. He keeps bringing me down when we have discussions about how I need to get a job. He just doesn’t do it in a nice way. It makes me feel like crap because I think he doesn’t see what i’m doing. He believes that our relationship will become even stronger once he isn’t stressing out about money. I don’t think this is true and I sure as hell don’t think our lives will be peachy keen by having more money. Will he be happier with more money or will he find something else to make me feel bad about?

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~.^.~ offline Verified User (2 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 56 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 7 months ago (5 minutes after post)

The underlying problem isn’t money. The problem is in him. Your parents pay half of everything so that is your share. Why is he stressing then?

I agree, though. Find a job. You’ll have some freedom of your own with no one talking you down & you will feel better with your own money to help pay expenses.

Take care.

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Gamla Stan, 26, SE | 2 years, 7 months ago (18 minutes after post)

A relationship needs to be strong during and outside of tough times. This much stressing out when, it doesn’t seem like you’re in terrible financial straights, indicates some troubles that need to get worked out.

Ok, time to stop channeling Dr.Phil.

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Oakland, CA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (6 hours, 29 minutes after post)

money isn’t everything
( U )

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Redding, CA, US | 2 years, 7 months ago (21 hours, 7 minutes after post)

That’s what I keep telling him. I’m not one of those materialistic people…so i’m just fine where we are at now, ya know?

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