i love my boyfriend dearly but i dont know if i want to be with him anymore.
we started dating 2 years ago and things were great in the beginning but we started arguing and then he became violent but we worked through the issues between us and it has been plain sailing for a while now. when hes next to me or beng intimate with me, all i want to do is move away and sit by myself. i dont know what to do, has anyone got any advice
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You should get away from him yea you might hurt his feeling but if you are not feeling him anymore you should more on. Things can get worst the longer you wait to do it..
While it may seem hard to walk away from something that has lasted for two long years, you have to consider if it’s the best thing for you. The point of a relationship is to be happy, and if you are not, then I don’t see any reason to stay.
OK well step back from the situation. and do some inner meditation. Remember all the good things you had and all the bad things as well. Work it out out if its worth it and leave him if its not. One thing if you decide to leave him CUT ALL TIES. i know i may be hard but its the best in the long run.
you love him but you feel like you need a little more to your relationship it’s like all the bad in your relationship is over powering the good. I think you should need sometime to think don’t break up with him but take 2 days by yourself to relax and think about why you dated him in the first place all his good sides and not the bad and think about what you can do to work this out and then go back to him and kiss him and see if you still feel the same and if you do then stay and ask him to go somewhere fun instead of his house or yours go dancing or rollarskating and stuff and have a good time. If you don’t feel anything between that kiss then tell him nicly you don’t no where your feelings went but you have none for him and your sorry but it’s going to have to end and so your not so sad call up a friend a old buddy and hang with them until your in a relationship again. But, in the mean time. THINK enjoy and don’t worry.
if he has corrected his mistakes then it’s tme to sit down and talk to him. women have emotional ups and downs that we ourselves should be aware about. ur feeling now might have been the result of the past incidents like ur arguments with your guy. it takes a while for us to revive from emtpiness to happiness.ur guy also should understand the cycle that u are undergoing. it is a very normal cylce for women.talk to him so hed understand. assure him that this has nothing to do with him. bec if he would take it wrongly then another argument would rise.
move on it will hurt for a time but you are worthy to be with someoneYou genuinely love AND who loves you rob:-)
i agree. LEAVE.
Take some time to get to know yourself apart from a relationship. Allow yourself to grieve and to heal. Love yourself and wish him all the best. Life is too short and too precious to waste in unhappiness, fear or secret despair.
its the same here with me i feel the same exact thing. he was violent and weve been together for 2 years and when it comes to being intimate i feel like thats all he wants.i feel like its getting no where were not happy were arguing 97percent of the time. but we love each other and it hurts to feel like the one that loves u most doesnt love u. sometimes i stop and think that he does love me cuz of little things but when it comes for him to be there for me hes not, im always there for him. but hes not. and it sucks i wish he did love me as much as i do but its impossible! it hurts but its the best thing to leave. but after i leave he ends up calling me or finding me somewhere! and then all the healing i did i got hurt even more. i wish i can move from cities or something but its not that easy ihave my family here. i also dont know what to do.?
i am the exact same way i have no clue what to do i feel like i love him certain days but at the same time on other days i feel like everthing i felt for him once is gone like i dont want him any more… and when he wants to touch me or do soemthing with me i feel weird like i dont want to do anything with him…. sometimes i dont even want to kiss him or anything… but i feel like i need him and if i leave him in know i will be hurting him and me because i think i love him!!! i really dont know what to do with my feeling i feel very confused about our relationship and we have been together 1 year and 10 months and we havent gone to far yet just a little… i want to be with him but bu i dont know what happened oll of a sudden i felt different for him!!! what should i do??
I know what you mean i am going through the same time but we have been together for 4 years already. Im trying 2 leave my boyfriend now but he always tell me that hes gonna kill him self if i leave. We have two lil girl together and i cant put them through this kind of stuff you know what i mean. Hes not the only one getting hurt over this i am to. He has been talking to his ex without me even knowing that aint even right. I tell i want to leave then he tells me that i cant take the girl with me. I would never leave my kids with him. What should i do?
I’m in a very similar situation. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and i love him dearly. But ever since i was a little girl i have wanted to tour the world with disney on ice and i now have that oppourtunity. You only get one shot at life and i feel if i dont do this i will end up resenting him for holding me back. He doesn’t want me to go and cries so much whenever i mention it but i feel as though i am just wasting my life in a dead end job at the moment when i could be travelling all over the world doing something i love. The only thing that is holding me back is i love him so much that i dont want to hurt him. I have already started resenting him for making me feel like this!! Help!
aye am in the same sort of thing, when wee are good wee are really good but when we are bad aye just want to pack my stuff and leave but hes told me if aye take our 1 year old boy with me hes going 2 go to court and take the wee man off me witch aye could never let me do! .. i always feel like i cant win. what should aye do? x
were all in the same boat by the looks of things. i been wiv my guy for 6 yrs. i have a son from a previouse relationship and 2 sons by him. he has bought my eldest up from a young age. we have been through thick and thin 2gether. the last 6 months i dont feel like he has been acting in our best interests and we havent been a priority 2 him. he has never been violent or cheated. jus acts like a selfish pig of a man. im let down n hurt. even when his nice i start being differcult cos im angry at him. when he asks me 2 do somthing for him i think y should i? he dont do nothing for me! i could never do enough for him b4. i dont even want 2 b around him at times. and ive been happier the last month since he has been living wiv his mum. not only have we got kids were spose to b movin house in a months time. he dont understand how i feel. he sees things 1 way n i see them another. he dont understand at all. its jus so grrrrrr!!!!!
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